the thing is on the 1st date all we did was talk into the small hours of the morning, but now when i text her or ring and ask when we can go out again she tells me she is busy. Am I wrong in wanting to hold out for her in the hope that something will happen or should I move on and do something with my life, I really do like this girl but she keeps giving me mixed messages on how she actually feels. Now i'm not the most confident person in the world I am a little overweight and it was a shock that she wanted to go out with me but I had a great time with her it was one of those comfortable times when you can talk about almost anything and we didn't want to rush but now I think I may have made a mistake somewhere along the line but i'm not sure what??
Please guys and girls help me to get my head sorted it's way to complicated for me to do alone.
2006-10-17 05:55:53 · 21 answers · asked by Creator of dreams 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave it alone. If she wants it, she will chase you.
Where's your pride man?
2006-10-17 06:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by MCP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be needy! You know how I know you are needy, you ask her over and over when can you see her again. She knows you really like her and probably don't have any other options, so she is in no hurry to see you again.
Girls hate guys that seem needy. Your best bet right now is to cut all ties and look for another road to take. You probably talked about all kinds of feelings and personal stuff on the first date. You completely opened up to her and now she has all the control. Which is not good for you!
You have to have the attitude that she is lucky to get some of your time. That you have hundreds of other girls you could hang out with but you are giving her a chance. And if she is too busy for you, you are not going to keep waiting around for her. Trust me, showing a girl that you really like her on the first or even 4th date is not a good avenue to take. She needs to feel like she is on a dating interview and you make the decision if you see her again, not her.
Stop all comunication with her instantly! At work act real happy like you fell in love with someone else and keep her in the dark. In a week or 3, see if she wants to hang out again, but be specific and don't let her choose when. You have other girls to see too, right?
2006-10-17 06:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let us get it clearly.The bottom line is that she is not playing ball. So be it. We have to take things in life a little dispassionately. If things happen it is OK. If they don't it is even better. If we take such an approach we will not be unduly worried about any issue. Probably this is the key to happiness since however much we may try things won't go as per our wishes! We must learn to face the reality.
2006-10-17 06:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well bro , **** happens the problem with women these days that they don't know what they want do they want the nice Guys the average Guy that u can meet every where or the hunk she saw on a movie or TV ,i will tell one thing if u like her and u think she deserves u show her the best of u and if she really likes u she come around , other wise I'm afraid u will have to move on and never look back
2006-10-17 06:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by jaz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are it's most probably not you but her that's the problem. What I mean is that she may be scared, apprehensive and doubtful about your feelings for her. Make sure you let her know your intentions are good... because I had the same problem with the guy I am seeing currently. If need be, just tell her openly and honestly to give you a chance and tell her how much she would love it. I would love it if someone were that honest and open with me, and that willing to give me a good time.
2006-10-17 06:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by A Solitary Smile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have something else to do with your life,if she didn't want to go out with u plz leave her alone and face another person they re many girls out there looking for guys like u and i.
2006-10-17 06:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by Oluwafemi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen here lardy, I have fat friends and one was a master at pulling top notch birds, he esentially ignored any advances and denied them sex etc, he was not letchy or a usual bloke, he would wait his time and then bang he was in there quicker than a ferrit in a rabbit hole. He played a chasing game, this is what you should do. Do not chase her. what is for you won't go by you.
2006-10-17 06:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by PChill1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a pity that this girl is giving you excuses because you really sound like a great guy. Forget about her, it is obvious that she wants nothing more to do with you--a shame...You will in time find someone who is interested in you for who you are. Have faith, you will meet someone nicer.
2006-10-17 06:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she just wants you as a friend(you cant have to many of them)though its a shame she doesn't feel the same way about you.don't pressurise her carry on being friendly towards her then one day she may see what a great person you are
2006-10-17 07:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by 3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel comfortable about a situation you either prepare to face what ever comes or you avoid the situation completely
2006-10-17 06:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop thinking too hard. If you can't recall any mishap in the conversations than baby, it's not you. If she ' s interested she'll call you back. Until then you should make dates with other friends.
2006-10-17 06:06:54 · answer #11 · answered by miss tique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋