I let a girl stay with me until she gets on her feet. Well, she left last night and took my house key. She didn't tell me or ASK if she could take it. I woke up this morning to get ready for class and she never came back last night. What this means, is that she has my ONLY house key. The spare was given to my roommate who is in the hospital. So, since I couldn't lock my door when I leave, I ended up missing class and a philosophy quiz this morning. I have NO way of getting a hold of this girl, she doesn't have a cell phone or anything. I'm supposed to be getting ready to go work in a few hours and I don't know what to do about locking my apartment. This girl also has shown NO interest in getting a JOB and helping with bills, instead, saying that her sister is going to be sending money. She's been saying this for a week now. Also, she owes ME money that I loaned to her, AND she has money from one of my coworks that he gave to her to pick up something for him, which she hasn't
2006-10-17 05:50:53 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
To be honest, I doubt that you will ever get the money. She is taking advantage of you, and will as long as you let her. I Don't know how you will find her, but if she has things there..like clothes...then she will be back. Then, get your key and tell her she is going to have to find somewhere else to stay. That it just isnt working out for you. Cut your losses and be greatful you haven't lost more. She will probably try to play on your nice side and make you feel sorry for her. but obviously she already did that, and thats how you ended up where you are now. She should be thankful that there are still nice guys out there. Good Luck !!!
2006-10-17 06:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well first off i'd like to say that SUCKS! But i mean it happened so....what i would do is change the locks on your house, sure it's going to cost ya but then if she does come back obviously she will try to get a hold of you to let you know that the her key is not working then you can say....i had to change the lock cause you took my only key and then say i also need the money you owe me. If she says i dont have the money then say well i dont have a place for you to stay. She's been using you dont be a floor mat and let her walk all over you! You were a nice guy but now she's abusing your niceness! So change the locks and get your money if she gives you the money she owes you tell her you'll need a certain amount to allow her to live with you agian. But i suggest you tell her she's on her own this time for using you! Good luck and its amazing to know there are Actually "nice guys" left out there! Shes an idiot for taking advantage of you!
2006-10-17 06:04:03 · answer #2 · answered by roxygurl1307 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question: if you don't know where she hangs out, why would you let a stranger stay in your house? Go to the hospital and get your roommate's spare key. Change the locks (making sure he gets a key immediately) and head for work. You don't owe this girl anything (and neither does her sister). A little advice: pick your roommates (yes, she qualifies) much more carefully in the future. Good luck.
2006-10-17 06:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do u think everybody is telling you to change your locks? You really need to listen to them. As far as getting your money back, ask her for it and if she does not comply, take her to court. I know that you are angry, but don't threaten her, it will backfire on you. This girl has shown no interest in getting a job or helping with the bills because "IT IS ALL ABOUT HER", not you. She really could care less about other people's feelings & eventually she will pay for this. Hopefully, she will pay you. Maybe your coworker can file some type of charges against her, too.
2006-10-17 08:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by cola 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of her asap. Obviously she is not concerned about anybody but herself. Can you go to the hospital where your roomate is at and get his key to make a copy?
First, take anything she has in your house and lock it up or store it where she cannot get to it. Tell her she can have her things back once she returns the key and pays off her debt to you and your co-worker.
She has no intention of paying the money back or picking up the item for your co-worker. She's possibly using the money for drugs and storing them in YOUR house.
Get her out of your house. Find a way to lock it up. You may have to change your locks. If you feel bad and can't just kick her out - be sure to give her a deadline date and stick by it.
She'll only cause your misery. Afterall, she is a woman.
2006-10-17 06:01:03 · answer #5 · answered by betsymaemae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she returns, make sure she knows what you had to lose because of her irresponsible actions. Give her a time limit. She has to get out by such a date, and based on her past actions I would be there when she moves, just to make sure none of your stuff gets "mixed in" with hers. Change the locks immediately after you get your key back, and keep the new key somewhere she won't find it, in a locked safe if you have one. She's taking advantage of you, and it needs to stop. Get her to sign a letter stating how much she owes you and a date that she will pay you, That way if she doesn't pay, you have something to present to the judge when you sue her.
2006-10-17 07:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by brainy_blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you call a friend to house-sit while you go to the hospital to get your roommates key? But maybe the hospital is too far away. Go to the nearest hardware store and get a replacement lock (with keys), a screwdriver and change your lock asap. If, when, the girl comes back, tell her to pack her things and find alternate accommodation. She's not going to screw up your life too.
2006-10-17 06:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by yolkyolk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call someone you know to see if they can pick up your spare key from your roomate in the hospital and bring it to you there, lock up and ask your neighbor to keep an eye on your place until you get home from work. When you get back home have your locks changed, you may even want to report it, if your worried she may try to steal from you, even if she gives your key back it doesn't mean she didn't make a copy. Good luck.
2006-10-17 06:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by me_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a copy of your roommate's key...that way you will have another one on hand if you don't get yours back from the girl. I think the best solution is to be honest with her. Tell her that you don't want anything to come in between your friendship with her and you see her "money issues" and so on could interfere with that relationship. Let her know that you have to "kick" her out if there can't be an agreement between you two. Get something in writing and get her to sign it...a signed agreement will so the seriousness of the issue. I think the sooner you do this the better. Delays cause confusion.
Good Luck!
2006-10-17 06:03:43 · answer #9 · answered by Chantla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a locksmith for a new lock and key. Quit sharing your key. Lose the new roommate. Give a duplicate key to your roommate in the hospital. Don't waste time listening to sob stories from the girl "off of her feet." If you want to help her, give her some money or the classified ads. But don't give her access to your home.
2006-10-17 06:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by Nick â? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋