What do you think makes good small talk?
On the first meeting, after I walk to you in a nice club or in a bookstore's cafe, after "Hi, my name is Frank", what should come next?
Another thing, if at a club or nice bar, I see you having a drink, should I send another just like it first?
2006-10-17 04:53:51 · 7 answers · asked by Geo-Guy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think sending drinks is a good idea, unless you are loaded and don't care if she takes it and doesn't talk to you. Most girls think it is kind of creepy.
If you go up and talk to a girl don't go for the introduction right away, it seems forced. Try to be clever, and personal. Suprise her a little, make her think but nothing too akward.
Try this, " Excuse me, I have to ask you a question. I'll bet you another drink, you are not from (this town)" or you are from the East/west coast or some other place.
Regardless of her answer you have just opened up all kinds of more questions to get to know her.
"Oh really, you are? Huh, You just seem a little different then some of the girls I've met around here, you know, in a sexy trouble maker kinda way.......you know what I'm talking about...ha ha...just kidding. oh what was your name again?"
The " Hi I'm frank can I buy you a drink", routine is too canned and will just lump you together with all the other nuckleheads that hit on her.
2006-10-17 05:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comment on the location, what she's doing (eating, reading,etc)...ask what she thinks of the place? Is she a frequent visitor? You can work from there...
As for drink, you can send over one if you like or go say 'hi' first and see if she's open accepting a drink from you (some women don't like that and feel the guy expects something in return)...however, having a drink set over from someone ya don't know is kinda kewl, especially if s/he is appealing...
2006-10-17 05:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her this:
"Do you wash your clothes in windex? Cuz I can see myself in your pants!"
Actually don't do that, it might come of as desperate, not silly. Say "Hi, my name is Frank. Quick question. What would you say if I offered to buy you another [insert drink here]". Its more light hearted and less presumptuous than just sending her a drink.
If she's with a group of girlfriends, then its better to have the drink sent to her, and tell the bartender to tell her that she's only allowed to have it if she comes over and hangs out with you/talks to you for a bit. Approaching a group of girls is not a good idea.
2006-10-17 05:37:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For small talk after you introduce yourself ask her if she goes to that place alot...
Ask her where she lives if things start going really good...
Don't make any pertive coments to her...
Ask her a little about her self... you know like where she works ... any kids...
Well about the drink thing i think you should ask her if she wants another drink and then send for another one only if she says yes.
2006-10-17 05:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"whats your name?" "Do you come here often?" "How are you?" things like that. then offer to buy her another drink, don't just send her one.
2006-10-17 05:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you come here often? and yes
2006-10-17 05:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am erica...and yes you should
2006-10-17 07:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋