come on now, i am not sorry i was attracted to my husband before i married him, why would someone marry a person they were not attracted too and why would someone feel ashamed of being attracted to a person.
2006-10-17 04:51:40 · 11 answers · asked by daisy322_98 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Whoa! That's crazy. It's definitely not a sin to be attracted to someone.
Here's a section from Tommy Nelson:
You don't just marry your best friend. There is an intimacy, a passion, an excitement that has to be there. Maybe you can turn on the switch at the altar, I doubt it. There had better be some sort of passion, because where there isn't, that gets really old really quick. See, the marriage bed is the follow-through on all of the spiritual, emotional, social love that you have. All of the delight that you feel in that woman that has given herself and loved you, the delight of it is shown in a physical expression on the marital bed. When a woman has such appreciation for that man who goes out in that pit and works and struggles, the follow-through is in the marital bed, and when that isn't there, there is a problem.
In Song of Solomon they're not married until Chapter 4. There are things said in Chapter 2 and in Chapter 3 by this single woman that are exciting, indeed. She longs for him. That has to be there.
2006-10-17 05:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by cnm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I would not want to marry a man I wasn't attracted to...and just exactly where in the Bible does it say we are not supposed to be attracted to someone we plan to marry? and why don't you tell me why you would feel shamed to be attracted to someone....you are not making yourself clear on what you are asking? if you mean lust then that is a different matter...But if you married the guy then what exactly is the problem.....? sex between two married people of the opposite sex is not sinful and desiring each other is not either...But if you only view them in a lustful manner then you need to search in your heart why you even bothered getting married ...the last time I checked marriage commitment means more than just lust...or desiring each other...
2006-10-17 12:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by appleblossom_1957 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And who said that is an attraction? This is a human feeling, a very noble one. The sin is not the feeling itself, but how you act upon it. You got attracted to a person and you married him, you are a winner. May Allah bless you with a happy life. Others get attracted to people, so they sleep with them. This is the sin.
May Allah's peace be upon you.
2006-10-17 12:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by daliaadel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Attracted" to them? I have never heard that was a sin. It is supposed to be a sin to sleep with them, to have sex. It is called 'fornication' in the Bible. Is THAT what you are trying to say, in a round about way? I have never been ashamed of being attracted to anyone. I have sometimes felt ashamed of feeling lust in my heart. People have married people whom they had no real attraction to, those old fashioned 'arranged marriages'. That never seemed like a real good idea to me though.
2006-10-17 12:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by harridan5 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
getting attracted to a person is definitely not a sin atleast in hinduism but after that if they are not married or with something else in their minds than its a sin .
All that matters is intention if only for sex a sin
for marriage ont a sin
2006-10-17 12:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by aathrey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, my religion advises that you find someone to marry that you are physically attracted to (along with having other important emotional and spiritual qualities)...because intimacy is an important part of a marital relationship, and that makes it a lot easier.
2006-10-17 12:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by daisyk 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. i am a christian but i dont think its a sin to be attracted to your mate before you marry him or her. In fact, i think its important to be attracted to your mate. Whos gonna marry someone they're not attracted to?
2006-10-17 12:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by Baller 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there is a humongous difference between being attracted to someone and doing certain activities before being married.
2006-10-17 12:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some of the ideas on here are pretty strange...where did this idea come from.....be very very careful....someone one is trying to lead you astray
2006-10-17 12:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by chico2149 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what makes you think that religious people are not attracted to the opposite sex? are we beyond temptation?..Some might try to act as if they are above such things but it is utterly ridiculous!
2006-10-17 12:37:34 · answer #10 · answered by candi_k7 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋