This was my first serious relationship...I know we both loved each other. But I think shes upset that Im not showing im upset about it. She called me yesterday and started making up all this BS about how she was cheating and how she has always loved her EX more which i know both aren't true cause everytime his name would come she would get really pissed off at him and start crying and stuff. She keeps saying over the phone that she hates me and doesn't care about me, but then she starts crying...wouldn't that mean she cares enough if shes crying? How much longer will I be upset about this? I know there are plenty of better girls out there who will love me more, I just can't get that threw my head i guess.
2006-10-17 04:40:42 · 7 answers · asked by DefLeppardxXx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is really messing with your mind isn't it? You can play the guessing game all you want but it isn't going to change things. You didn't really say who broke up with who so it is hard to help you with what you think is going on. She called you up and told she was cheating on you. There are 2 things here, first if she was cheating on you with her ex not a good thing. 2nd thing if she wasn't cheating on you but told you this anyway, not a good thing. Please move on and quit doing this to yourself. It is going to take some time probably a lot of time but eventually it will get better! Good luck
2006-10-17 05:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun,
it sounds more like she is crying because of the build up of guilt for using you in a BAD way....looks like you were just a person she had to help her try and forget her ex...i think she was telling the truth.
" every time his name would come she would get really pissed off at him and start crying and stuff"- SOUNDS EXACTLY LIKE SHE STILL LOVED HIM AND WAS TRYING TO FORGET HIM-sorry
Now she wants you to miss her to make herself feel better and not the total scum she really is. She probably found out her guy on the side was just using her. She is too much drama. You need a girl to love, respect and cherish you; she just is not capable of it. Cut all ties with this scummy leach(i know you will hate that i called her that...but in time you will realise it also). You are too good for that, statistically being a male, you will find someone who will love you in the right way; while she may never find it again. You are the kind of guy every girl looks for. She is probably just figuring it out, and wants you to come back crawling to her so she feels like she did nothing wrong. DON"T GO BACK TO HER; KEEP YOUR SELF RESPECT; AND DON'T SHOW HER ANY REMORSE OR THAT YOU WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER IF YOU EVER. Please believe me, its only for the best, she will use you up till there is no more left of you. Better to move on now, while you can.
2006-10-17 12:03:26 · answer #2 · answered by Bedazzled101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that when she mentions her ex's name that she starts crying right? That might be the reason why she's crying on the phone. Here's my solution to your problem with her calls, when she starts talking about her ex, tell her, that you are too busy looking for women to date, than listen to her problems with her ex. You probably still love her, but you need to get off your *** from sulking, to going out there and looking for women, who have better things to do than call you and torment you. Good luck.
2006-10-17 12:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice, if it's over, let it be over. If she calls, either don't talk to her or keep it short if there are things to be returned etc. As long as communication continues, it makes it harder to move on.
Don't worry about other girls just yet, give yourself a chance to just enjoy being single again, and know you'll meet someone great when the time is right. Hang in there :)
2006-10-17 11:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldnt play games with her like that. You know she loves you and you love her so why would you want to see her cry? If she didnt cheat why are you accusing her of it? If you keep playing with her heart she will walk away from you forever.
2006-10-17 12:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by alphasweet06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya man. Love sucks.
2006-10-17 12:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Plazzmoidi F. McStinkleshlonger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind... It's hard, but let's move on. Maybe I should tell myself this too........
2006-10-17 11:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋