i can't decide on whether i want a big blow out wedding and a little honeymoon or whether i just want to go to hte jp and then go all out on the honeymoon. i don't want to have a big wedding cuz i get stressed really easy and it would just be a mess... but i want to do something but the only other hting i can think of is the jp(justice of the peace) and just get hte papers signed. but i dont really want to do that iether... HELP!!!! I need ideas
2006-10-17 04:39:18 · 32 answers · asked by jenn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
little wedding big honeymoon
2006-10-17 04:48:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just wanted to be explicit about something underlying your question and many of the answers you've gotten.
You've set up a false dilemma: JP or huge wedding? There are gazillions of choices between those extremes.
You can have a nice, small, yet meaningful wedding, that has all the advantages of not being a big, stressy deal, but is also less like getting a traffic ticket dealt with than a mere JP appearance.
Does anyone in your family have enough space to host a "party"? If so, the space you need is free.
Have it in the afternoon, and not at a meal time. That way you don't have to have a big-deal meal, just some munchies and sippies (make or buy some finger-food stuff: make classy sandwiches that you cut into small squares, some veggies and dips, cheese and crackers, cookies -- that sort of thing).
Invite people close to you (not, as with a big wedding, everyone you've ever met).
It will be as meaningful as a big blow-out, since the big deal thing about it is that you are getting married, and your loved-ones are there to witness and to wish you well.
You might try to hunt down some Miss Manners books -- she has tons of suggestions for nice, inexpensive weddings that are all, of course, impeccably correct.
2006-10-17 06:26:06 · answer #2 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a small wedding and a big honeymoon, all the way! We took a 10-day Caribbean cruise, it was something both of us have been wanting to do, and we had a BLAST. Getting away from it all for 10 days and getting pampered was absolutely awesome. All-you-can-eat buffet nearly 24 hours a day, Swedish massages, facials, great production shows every night, exotic destinations; you just can't beat that. And it still cost less than a modest "real" wedding that we priced. We just didn't feel that spending $10,000 in one day would be in any way justified, and we both agreed that having to plan a "real" wedding would be a huge stress on both of us. The wedding we had was at a renaissance faire that we both attend every year; we had our friends help out with everything - they decorated the wedding arbor, did my hair and make-up, my matron of honor wrote the vows; our minister, the musicians, the photographers and the video guy were all recruited from our circle of friends. The wedding was pirate-themed, we had the blackpoweder cannon salute after the ceremony, and a great rum-filled party for the rest of the night. Everyone had a blast! It cost next to nothing - but it was memorable to everyone involved.
My suggestion - pick a place that is special to you both, and where you feel comfortable; it could be your home, your friend's or relative's home, a park, a beach; invite close friends, and have a simple and meaningful ceremony. Have a party at your house afterwards. Justice of peace is not the only option for a low-cost wedding; ask your friends and family for suggestions. Congrats and good luck. :)
2006-10-17 06:04:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live in So Cal so I can't tell you locations but we went to Palm Springs and had a lovely wedding-just the two of us,his parents were overseas so we made that decision- it could have held up to 100 people- in a little chapel in the original spanish plaza---I had flowers,my dress and a beautiful cake in the spa tub later in our hotel room and don't regret a thing! You could also have an intimate church or garden wedding with close friends and go off on your honeymoon and then have a fun big BBQ or other reception party after you get back that has more people and is more relaxed- that way you could have everything! Hand make your invites and I even had a friend that put their money into a backyard remake and got married there- then they enjoyed the new yard too! I do wish I had had a reception like that afterwards---friends celebrating with you means alot! Congradulations! I'm at 20 years and its alot of work and craziness and adventure but WORTH it! He's stll my lover and best friend!
2006-10-17 04:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by ARTmom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would do 50/50.
You can have a nice wedding in a catering hall and still have a nice honeymoom.
Do a medium wedding and a medium honeymoon.
We are getting married in a church, having the reception in a very cute little fancy hall that only holds 150 people and then we are planning a honeymoon to Ireland. I found it's 200% cheaper not to mention your going on a honeymoon and just book a regular vacation- yourself and not through a travel agency!
2006-10-17 05:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact same problem. We got into planning a huge wedding and I just couldn't take it. I get really stressed also. So we decided to get married abroad and have a home town reception. BEST DECISION WE COULD HAVE MADE! It was amazing. Our wedding was small and intimate. Just really close family came. It was right on a tropical beach. I did not get stressed at all. We then had our honeymoon the same place we got married. (it actually saved my parents money, having a destination wedding) It just depends on whether or not you feel comfortable having a small wedding and not including all your family. I really didn't care what all my family thought, it was MY wedding. Your only suppose to have one right?
2006-10-17 05:16:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a small family only wedding in your church or at a chapel or even at a hotel. Serve punch and cake. Have a nice honeymoon without spending a lot of money by going to a nearby resort such as Nemacolin Springs near Pittsburgh. You don't need to have a big blow-out. Save the money and buy a house.
2006-10-17 04:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy I worked with got married at an all-inclusive resort in the Bahamas. Their immediate family came for the weekend & they had a small ceremony on the beach (they got some package deal from the resort), then everyone but the bride & groom went home and they continued with their honeymoon. The pictures were amazing! Wish I would have done that!
2006-10-17 04:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I'd go for the big honeymoon - Im not really into the big wedding thing with family galore its too emotional and really what for? The holiday will last longer and will be full of relaxation and fun getting to start your new life together. Thats just my opinion anyways. You just do a quickie wedding wherever you go for your honeymoon too.
2006-10-17 04:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by radiancia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a small yet nice wedding, and that way you can still go all out on the honeymoon. You only get married once(well for most of us) so do it the way you want..
2006-10-17 05:09:35 · answer #10 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from someone who hs done it twice......the first time I did the big wedding, the bridesmaids, the flowers, the dress, the expense.......... what a waste of money! The second time we went to Vegas with my friend and her husband and partied there for 4 days - then came home and bought our dream house. Have a small ceremony - only the certificate matters...then have a nice honeymoon and buy a house.......... it's a better investement in your future.
2006-10-17 05:01:12 · answer #11 · answered by jachooz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋