I really like him to be in my life, but I know that it could turn out to be much more than what it should be. Help a sista out!!! I have been praying alot! And I know that it is wrong!
2006-10-17 04:31:24 · 20 answers · asked by Child of God 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You already know the answer to this. Unfortunately we cant always control our heart, but we can control our actions. If you care for this guy, then you obviously don't want to be part of a reason his marriage fails. How awful would that make you feel.
We all lust from time to time, it is how we act upon it that matters. Separate yourself from this guy and wish him and his wife all the best. God has someone out there for you, you just have to trust him.
2006-10-17 04:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by nanners040477 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you're a christian? I mean, the word christian doesn't just define a church goer, it also defines the one one that follows the principles of the holy book (Bible). Now, are you a christian by my definition? If yes, you should have known you're not supposed to be with a married man like that in the first place. Even though "nothing" happened as you said, alot is gone wrong just for the fact that you're "lusting after him". C'mon, you know he's married, are you trying to STEAL as a christian another woman's husband or what are you trying to do. You know he's married and there's no way he could be with you except if his wife died, and I'm sure you're not seeking advice on here on how to eliminate his wife. So my advice for you is to leave the peaceful family and go get your own husband. As a christian woman, would you want any other so called christian woman to mess with your hisband if you had one? definitely no!
2006-10-17 12:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by scooby doo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with him and his wife! If you spend a lot of time with him when his wife isn't around, pretty soon you'll start sneaking around just for the sake of appearances. Once you start hiding things, it's a fast slippery slope to an affair. Keep your friendship out in the open, and make friends with the wife, so that the two of you fall into the 'friend zone' and can enjoy each other's finest qualities without crossing the line.
If he doesn't want to do that, he is trying to cheat on his wife. If that's the case, decide what kind of person you are and act right. If you need distance to keep you from temptation, make some distance!
2006-10-17 11:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he feel the same way about you? If he does than I would tell him that you can be together once he separates from her but don't sneak around behind the wifes back to see him because that is wrong and you wouldn't want that done to you. Also, if he is willing to see you and still be with his wife than you don't want him because he is a cheater and will probably do the same thing to you. You know what the right thing to do is. We can't always have what we want. Alot of the time cheating men usually don't leave their wives and kids......they just want someone on the side.
2006-10-17 12:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know it is wrong why are you still seeing him?You wouldnt want some one to do that to you if you thought a lot of him,would you?Tell him to find out what is the matter with his life even if he has to talk to his wife about it.She might not even know there is anything the matter.He might just be a rutt and want some thing new in his sex life.If that doesnt work go to an other church.You would be the talk of that one if you two start some thing wrong.hang in there and be good.Signed,Free Little Lillie
2006-10-17 12:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation... I am single and my best friend (from college) was a married woman... We made it work for a while but things started getting out of hand... Nothing happened between us (thankfully) but we had to cut off all contact for months so things could cool down... my advice: if you can't keep if casual, then as hard as it may be... you've got to let him go... The last thing you want to do is come between him and his family...
2006-10-17 11:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by In the light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know you are putting yourself in a "dangerous" situation, have he backbone and integrity to excuse yourself from the situation. As tempting it might be, the hurt it would cause later isn't worth it. Think of it this way -- the hurt you may feel now is God's way of protecting you from something way worse later on. And, by passing over this man, you are opening the opportunity up for the real man of your dreams to enter your life.
2006-10-17 11:40:35 · answer #7 · answered by tsopolly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You State I am A Christian!
Somewhat in doubt about that.
Its called adultery.
Shame Shame.
How can God hear one pray that is committing Sin on purpose?
Sorry--You need to ask God to forgvie your sins by repenting and stopping your adultery.
what kind of witness and testimonyis this for other sinners.
Laugh at salvation they will-they see you.
Clean up your act.
Its called hypocrisy by people.
buy James chap one calls you a double minded person.
half for self (sin) and half serving God.
Won't work.
2006-10-17 11:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer harder!!!! If you are in a relationship with this person, the best thing for you to do is remove yourself from this situation. You aren't only sinning against God but also the wife of this husband. Don't let the enemy fool you!!!!
2006-10-17 11:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by dora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing the other person and get some counseling for you and your husband. The other person is attractive to you because there is something wrong in the relationship with your husband.
2006-10-17 11:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋