MY girlfriend of 3 years just asked me to take a break!!!?

Question

we have been going through some tough times with her because her family is gettin a divorce and shes taking it really hard. we have tried breaks but they wernt long she always comes back y after a day or 2. This time she says she wants a serious break she dont know how long but she wants to try and not talk to me. i know it wont happen. She tells me she loves me just right now she needs to have her fun and really her fun is stuff she never would have even thought before this hole divorce thing. i need a lot of help i have been waiting now 4 about two months shes not changing anything she says she will and dosnt. Should i move on or wait for the Girl that i love. she keeps coming back to me everytime she says she wants a break the longest break we took was maybe 24 hours if that.She is trying to talk to every guy she has ever known she even is talkin to an ex who is in iraq. Is she just playing head games with me or what.

Answer 1

It's over.

Answer 2

Well you know she is seeing others. The serious break she was asking for was her way of letting you down easy.In the past she might have come back to you 2 days later after learning that the guy she wanted to see wasnt right for her. Now she just wants to date and see whats out there If she doesnt find what she is looking for then yes she will be back.She knows that you will wait and she uses that to hear advantage. I know divorce can be hard on a family and it would seem like the time that she would try to make the relationship work instead of taken a break from it. You have been with her for three years so it seems as if you should be someone she could talk to.Its has been 4 months you need to move on and date as well. Love shouldnt hurt and you shouldnt sit around waiting for her to come back .

Answer 3

It's understandable that sometimes people need breaks from stress or a time to regroup, but...she should never need a break from YOU. If she really loved you, the way that love is supposed to be, she would never consider a 'break'. Tell her that you don't do breaks and move on man, she's keeping you on the back burner as a 'just in case' guy and that is unfair to you. She isn't taking your feelings, or you, into consideration and that is selfish - not a good trait. There is someone out there that will love you to pieces, someone that will want nothing more than to simply BE WITH YOU...no matter where you are or what you're doing...even if it just means being in the same room as you. A relationship must be 50/50 and she's not even pulling 5% of 100, so ditch the *****. It's difficult, but consider what you're saying about yourself really, you are better than her by a long shot...don't ever EVER settle for less than you deserve and always remember, you deserve the very best. Good Luck.

Answer 4

When someone needs a break or some time it usually means some feelings are still there. I would give it a bit more time. I know its not easy cause I'm going throught the same thing you are. If you feel like she doesn't want to come back to her confront her. Tell her that you don't want to wait and and if its over she needs to tell you.
My guy is going through a hard time too...busy life basically (among some other problems). We have only been split for around 3 weeks though. Hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 5

I know this is going to be hard for you to accept but the truth is that she is using you as her doormat. I don't know all the details of your story but from your troubles i can see that you are really upset and unhappy about the way things are going. I will tell you this much, i was once in the same position as you, my ex girlfriend kept on taking breaks and coming back to me. I thought she did that because she loved me and that eventually she would realize that. Well...after the seventh break i found out she had been cheating on me with different guys including a friend of mine, i moved on and met another person who is really great but the scars from that experience still follow me around. When a girl asks for a break as many times as your girlfriend does it means that she is keeping you as an insurance until she finds someone else. You sound like a good guy, even though i don't know you, don't let your emotions cloud your judgement,break up with her now even though it's going to be painful, move on and find someone who will never need breaks from you...

Answer 6

I think you should wait for her if you truly love her I am going through the same situation right now and for two months as well except it wasnt divorce but other problems her mom was having. I am giving her all the space that she needs but still trying to talk to her. I know that she still loves me and just needs some time to sort through things. Your girl is probably just really bugged out by what happened and doesn't want to be in a relationship right now because she is thinking about divorce. Let her have her time I know it kills you to not be together but if you give up on this and you never have her again you could regret it. I know for me that she is the one and I will wait as long as I have to. As for head games if she truly loves you I doubt she is playing head games. Just be there for her whenever she needs you and be her friend.

Answer 7

She is confused about what she wants. Sounds like she is pretty sure that you are not what she wants but that you are better than being alone. She breaks it off with you but whenever she decides she can have you back. Sounds like she is testing the waters out there to see who else may be interested. you need to do the same. I suggest that the next time she says she wants some time apart, make her stick to it, you should tell her "you know what you are right, how about a week and dont call me before a week is up". She is playing games with you.

Answer 8

Get out NOW!!!
She is trouble...she doesn't respect you one iota!!! She expects all the live and kindness from you, but when she wants to have her "FUN" she is going elsewhere. That isn't love and you deserve to be treated like an equal human being. You are worried about her, her well-being, her family problems.......and what do you get in return, an ungrateful, selfish, dis-respecting, slut who wants to do every guy she ever met!!! You seem like such a loving and caring person who deserves all the love and respect you give her in return. This has nothing to do with her parents divorce...this is all about her and getting what she wants. Time to move on and gain some self respect. There are millions of girls looking for someone as loving and caring as you are, and who will reciprocate the love, tenderness, and RESPECT. I know you love her, but loving her will only ruin you. Find someone who cares for you. This girl is not capable of it. People don't change....so move on before its too late.

Answer 9

It sounds like her parents divorce has given her a reality check. Maybe one of the reasons they are divorcing is because one or both of them never did much as far as life is concerned before they married. And now, shes afraid to do the same thing. It understandable, but really isnt fair to keep you hanging on this way. You need to ask yourself, do you really want her back after shes been with other guys? Because thats what it seems like she doing.

Answer 10

You are wanting to find out what is going on with her, but you should really stop and figure out what is going on with "us". She is obviously confused and wanting to see what else is out there. Is it possible that she doesn't feel like your relationship is fun and exciting enough? Is it too routine and boring? You may not think so, but some women (I can say this because I am one) need more than the average excitement in their lives. When things start to get too "normal", we run off to find the next adventure. That doesn't mean she doesn't truly love you, but she apparently isn't satisfied with your relationship. I would definately sit down with her and try to figure out what is driving her actions. Maybe you can spice her life up a little bit by bringing the fun stuff to her.

Answer 11

you know what i think that her parents getting divorse has nothing to do with your relationship. remember you are not anyone's second plate.she knows she won't lose you witch is why she's doing it. the probabily is you guys will end up back together because she cares about you but she could end up taking advantage of the situation. if she loved you she would put you through this. a long term relationship should always be kept true though the whole long time.... if you try to move on it will be a hatle but nobody said it was simple.. you could find somebody that could truly love you even more and won't put you through this. i've been throught this route and after that year and 6 months we are not together because he though he could brain wash me although he maid other things up. my point is nomatter what this has nothing to do with you.. its not your fault and you should take this serious.. maybe that will teach her not to do this again to you. do something about it don't just let time fly by .. time is valuable...
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