Help I Reeally like him very much now and I dont know what to do?

Question

So This guy over the last 5 months has been making such intense eye contact and I can feel the attraction it took me a while he works in a hip clothing store my friend has seen him looking at me and has confirmed that he looks very intensly but now I have gone cold turkey i cant even look at him any more but I really really like him so much why does he not approach me run out and ask me for coffee I feel so stressed and I want to be with him so much I have no courage to go in the store as its a male clothing store I feel hopeless and lost in Cambridge!!!!!!!!

I was not hanging around outside for 5 months I always go past there on the way to town or parking my bicycle and it always happend by chance him walking oast sitting having his lunch or cycling to the store its in cambridge UK and he is brit I am South African and very shy because I really didnt expect myself to start having feelings before I thought jeepers what the hell is he stairing at but it grew and it got more intense and I started looking back and then it happend boom!!

Answer 1

Simply walk in and say "I'm gonna walk by here tomorrow at about ___ o'clock. When I do, why not come over and ask me out. Your never gonna find out more about me if you don't and you've been looking long enough" Smile over your shoulder as your walking away. - Then walk by tomorrow with a girlfriend, it should be great.

Answer 2

You can't go into a male clothing store but you can hang around outside it so this guy can make intense eye contact with you for 5 months. Girl, you already made a spectacle of yourself, sheesh, walk into the store, it's a store for good grief sake, and walk up to the guy and ask him what size briefs he wears. All you have to do is smile back at him and chances are he'll approach you. Give him a break he needs some kind of a go ahead signal. Oh, and if you do actually ask him if he'd like coffee and he says no, you won't die. Guys get shot down all the time and look at all of those still walking around.

Answer 3

Male working in clothing store... must... keep mouth shut... *strains* not... fall... into prejuidicing... and stereotypes... *has an aneurism*

Ahem, um, well it could be that his 'intense eye gazing' may be him trying to figure out what the hell's in your teeth or hair, or something else off color, or perhaps he's wondering why you stare at him and run away. I suggest going to the nearest medical center to get a spine growing supplement, then casually talk to him. Mention something in the store or any generic topic of interest, and retreat. If he's interested he'll at least know you're capable of communication as opposed to spelunking into clothing racks at the slightest viable glance, and maybe he'll reciprocate.

In all seriousness, test the 'waters' with tact. Be like the tide... move forth, retreat. Maybe a bit of that glistening sand you keep receeding from will come with you.

Answer 4

Go into the shop under the guise of looking for a gift idea for your father or brother. If he approaches to help you, then you automatically have an "ice-breaker". Let him help suggest something at a certain price range, color, fashion etc.
Oh yeah, if he sends someone else to help you instead, you need to move on to the next men's store and forget this turkey.

Answer 5

take a deep breath and relax! this is nothing but life, i bet this is how most guys feel when they like a girl afraid of rejection. like you said if he is working then maybe he can't approach u. he may be just as shy as you are. if you keep this up you maybe letting go of your "soulmate". if you feel so strong about the sit, then you take the lead and go n slip him your number. the worse is he can say no or don't call. but atleast you can feel like you gave it a try and can boast your confidence. but also it is a mens clothing store, u wont have to every go in there again...
good let me know how it goes :)

Answer 6

Guys believe it or not get just as scared as women. The man asking out the woman first is so old fashioned. Just do it, ask him if he would like to hang out or get some lunch sometime. I mean come on, whats the worst that would happen, he would say No. Big deal, its better than wondering what he would of said if you would of just asked him in the first place. Just do it!!!

Answer 7

The guy probably wont ask you out because in a lot of retail stores it is against policy to and they could fire him for it, although you are able to flirt with him and give him your number or ask if you can meet sometime outside of his work... as for the nervous part... just try to think of him as an ordinary guy... you will still like him of course... but it will get you to quit syking yourself out about talking to him

Answer 8

Oh I know how you feel. I used to see a guy and get so nervous to talk to him. Ok, I am 28 now and I can tell when a guy is interested. I am married now, but even before my hubbie, I got over my shyness because guys are huge dorks!!! They are more scared of you than you are of them! If he has major eye contact, he is attracted to you. Seems to me he is as shy as you are! Take a deep breath, walk over to his store, act cute as heck and flirt! Work it, Girl!! (You have more power than you think!)

Answer 9

AS if she is going to ask him out for coffee she cant even look at him in the eye cause she Fancy's him too much, she got her self into that panic state with all her insecurities imploding within her, if he asked her out she would probably fall on the floor with shock.

Your going to have to sort some of them insecurities out first and get some confidence try asking a man out who you don't fancy first if you can tackle that one ask one more out who you thinks alright. then it might give you some confidence to ask the one in the store out.

Answer 10

Make a breakfast date with one of your guy friends and grab a cup of coffee afterwords and casually stroll in with your friend. Make eye contact - if it is returned walk up to him, ask him if he has a pen. He'll give you a pen. Ask him if he has something to write on. He'll give you something to write on. Write your phone number down with a note saying "I love coffee" and give him a smile hand it to him and walk out of the store. That is all you can do and if he's interested, he'll take if from there. If he's not, then you gave it a shot...good luck. Where in Cambridge, the square? hmmm...