All Parents, Please Read this!!!!!?

Question

I was going through somebody's 360 page and I saw this. I'd like to her your thought's on this.

Have parents lost their back bone?
I was on my way to church one Sunday morning and as I got off the bus and was walking to church, I heard something that was really disturbing. This little girl who had to be at least 6 or 7 was playing on the front porch with her mother. I don't know exactly what she was doing but I heard the mother say "Stop doing that before you hurt yourself". The next thing I know, I heard the little girl say "Shut up, *****" and then she stormed off into the house. Her mother just sat in her chair and shook her head while sighing. I just looked at the mother with my mouth wide open in disbelief. She saw me standing there and said "It's not a big deal, she does that to me all the time". I just walked off and said to myself "I wish that little girl had my mother". And people wonder why they're kids don't respect them when they get older? It all starts when they're little. When the kids get older, it's too late.

Again, this is from some guy's 360 page. I didn't witness this.

Answer 1

You're absolutely right. Parenting starts at infancy. These are crucial training years. If a parent allows their child the freedom to rule the house now, there may be no turning back.

Answer 2

Now a days people aren't setting boundries or sticking to them with their children. Most schools drill it in to childrens heads also that if anyone lays so much as one finger on them, they can call the cops. There is nothing that annoys me more than when i'm in the check out line at the grocery store and there is a child ahead of me that asks for something, the n the mother says no i'm not buying you that, the child throws a fit, so the mother gives in. I hear parents like that complaining about their children all the time, and wondering why their children are so disrespectful. My children will never be like this.

Answer 3

That's a sign of a lazy parent that doesn't discipline. It takes discipline to teach your children right from wrong because children learn the most through example and you have to be consistent when teaching and disciplining your children. Also, you need to show respect to your children or you won't get it in return. Children need boundaries to help them feel safe. It's easier to let your children run wild than it is to constantly keep after them.

I see this a lot in younger parents because they don't realize the real work involved in raising a child and after the cuteness rubs off of an infant, the parents get bored with the child.

I have also seen this a lot in certain cultures where mainly the women don't get any respect from their husbands and the children see this and don't respect their mothers either. I think these mothers find it a lost cause and end up ignoring the children.

Answer 4

I think parents in general suffer from the same problem. We all want our kids to like us and we want them to be our friends. I don't think it's healthy, and I don't parent that way. I think this little girl is extremely rude and not very respectful, but that is based on my values. Someone else might comment that at least early on a Sun morning the little girl had her Mom there to watch her play. Others might comment that to stifle the little girl's vocabulary is wrong, and others still might comment on how rude it was for the person to stand there staring with there mouth open.It was eavesdropping and that is wrong too. You can only parent your own children and it isn't good to start commenting on other parents' styles since you don't know what the situation is. PS After re-reading the question, I just wanted to add that if that had of come out of my child's mouth I probably would have sat and sighed for a minute also. Afterall, if the mother had of stormed off after the child would you then have been somewhat concerned for the little girl? I would have been. I know that I'd be very embarassed if I had been the Mom so I wouldn't want some stranger to see how I'd actually re-act, especially when that stranger actually stood there and stared. Don't be so quick to judge as you don't know how the situation was handled behind closed doors.

Answer 5

I wonder where the girl got it from...hm mm. I would sympathize with the mother, but she lets her daughter walk all over her. I know it's hard to discipline your kids sometimes, but it has to be done or you end up with a kid like her daughter. My Mom let me do what ever for a long time and all she would tell me is "wait until your father gets home!" She never once handled it herself. She just relied on my Dad to set me straight so I had a healthy respect for my Dad, but none for my Mom for a while. Even if my Mom wouldn't get on to me for just doing something wrong, she would never have hesitated to tan my hide for talking like that! Same goes for my Dad.. My Dad eventually said my Mom needed to say something instead of only relying on him to do all discipline and she did. It took her a while to get it down, but I always knew that day would come. I should have respected her from the beginning and I always loved my Mom, but I felt she didn't care enough to take matters into her own hands that I wasn't worth it so neither was she. Now we have a great relationship. But this lady needs to do something and soon. I didn't use language like that until I was in high school. There's no telling what the girl will do by then.

Answer 6

It's pretty sad. You can't even so much as say "no" to your child these days without somebody calling social services on you. Heaven help the woman on the porch if she would have disciplined that girl and somebody saw her. That's probably why she just sat there and didn't do anything. I would have probably done the same thing, especially if somebody was standing there looking at me, mouth wide open in disbelief.

Answer 7

My 7 year old knows better. She can't even say "stupid" or "retard" in our home.

My family & I were walking through the mall in Colorado about a month ago though and we heard this teenage girl call her mother and asked her if she could do something. I'm assuming she said no because the girl screamed into the phone, "You're a stupid b***h!" and hang up on her. My husband and I looked at each other and then looked at our 14 year old daughter and told her to not ever think about it. It was all my husband could do not to go tell that girl what he thought and make her call her mother back and apologize.

Answer 8

I think it is important that parents discipline with love. This means saying no, and following through. Children need boundaries, they need structure, and providing those limits are an ultimate sign of love. Doing that without crossing an abuse line is very difficult. I was abused as a child, because my parent was trying to discipline me and got too frustrated. I swore then I would never do that, so I have a very hard time finding creative ways to enforce the rules. It takes a lot of time and energy, time and energy that most parents do not have.

I don't think we can judge a tired mother as being "immoral," or lacking backbone. There is probably a history that we don't know about. I'd much rather see a mother sighing and shaking her head than a mother hitting or screaming at her child. Parents have a hard enough job as it is, without outside people criticizing how good of a job they are doing.

Answer 9

There is no way I would stand for that from any of my kids. (ages, 5, 10, 12) My children do argue with me, they're only kids after all, but they would never disrespect me like that. I have raised them just about on my own, their father (my ex-husband) left 3 weeks before the third was born, and before that he was never reliable. Even facing a tough challenge like being a single mum, I have always raised my kids to be nice people, and we respect each other.
This mother is going to have her hands full when her daughter approaches the teen years, and it will be her own doing.xxxx

Answer 10

Children live what they learn. This little girl must have witnessed this type of language and behaviour in order to be using it now. Not saying that the she has seen her parents talking this way but perhaps she has heard such things on TV or in the movies/music that she has been exposed to. Cussing and swearing has become far too active in families everyday lives and as such many families and parents have lost the respect (and fear) that was once there. Be grateful that your kids do not speak to you in this manner and lets hope that the morals of the family do turn around as history often repeats itself.

Answer 11

that could not be me I would have woop that child *** for the mother
there need to be more madea in the world and more community help
it take a village to raise a child not just one person. Kids these day need there tails woop. That is why everybody in my house jump in when the kids are acting up. There are 5 adults and 4 kids. kids age 18 months to 6 years old. and if one dont get them the other 4 do.