We have been to gether for a year now and a baby is due in December. It was love at first sight for both of us. We are both 100% ready to get married and we want a family for our baby... but he keeps bringing up marrage but isn't doing anything about it. What should I do? Or do I just wait? Or should I be the one to ask him?
2006-10-17 04:20:05 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just wait. i'm sure he's freaking out inside because of this new baby. it'll be awesome but i'm sure he's just scared. maybe he just needs some time to think and get his brain together. just relax, there is still time to pop the question..i'm wondering the same thing about me and my man, except we're not pregnant. but congrats on yor baby.
2006-10-17 04:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stop talking about it and wait Maybe he just wants to make the proposal really special and doesn't want to feel nagged into it. Maybe he wants to wait until after the baby is born so you can have the wedding of your dreams. And, you really don't want to wear a white gown when you are pregnant as you'll look like the size of a house. The baby can still take his last name even if you aren't married (at least in Canada) Have patience and I'll bet in the end he makes you a very happy lady. Good luck.
2006-10-17 04:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all congratulations on your pregnancy. And i think it's great that you guys are talking about being a good family for your child. I bet your boyfriend is really scared about all of this. I mean this is a whole new life infront of him. If you want it the old fashioned way, i think you should wait for him, he'll be strong enough to pop the question eventually. But if you just cannot wait, why don't you just go ahed and do it yourself. Make it real romantic.
I hope it works out for you! An congrats again!
2006-10-17 04:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men are slower than others. It took 6 years for my husband to finally say yes, but that was when I brought him Common Law marriage papers to sign because I wanted to combine our car insurance. Not very romantic. But, we were going on a vacation to Hawaii and he informed me that he planned to ask me in Hawaii and get married there. I told him that was great, but you have to arrange for a wedding BEFORE you get there.
Guys just don't have a clue.
Anyway, we've been married 3 years on Oct. 23rd and I just had our second baby in May. It's been a whirlwind, but fun.
He might think that while you're pregnant, he doesn't want to excite you too much or you might go into labor. Guys minds work like that.
Good luck.
2006-10-17 04:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by stocks4allseasons 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though there is nothing wrong with asking him, I think you'd feel better and more secure if he ask you, that way he can never say he wasn't ready and you pushed him into it. Men have a way of always putting their being irresponsible off on women. Just wait for him to ask, maybe he is saving for the ring. You have a baby coming so focus more of your attention on that and try to enjoy the moment of life you are presently in.
2006-10-17 04:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look...he brought up marriage. so obviously it's on his mind. maybe he's freakingout because this isn't quite how it's supposed to "work". you know.....proposal, wedding...THEN a baby! you two really worked around the system. I was getting kind of edgy myself....i was pregnant 3 times in the past year along (2 miscarriages) and he would bring it up and never really finalize anything about marriage. just that it was on his lists of things to do. well...when i was 4 months he decided it was best to get married so his insurance could cover me. not really romantic, i know. but we got married in the courthouse. with a few friends and family present. so i didn't get the romantic "on one knee" approach. but considering the circumstance, who i am really to complain anyway? i have what i asked for. a loving husband, a beautiful baby on the way.
whatever you do.....don't you dare ask him!!!
2006-10-17 05:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he brings up marriage, tell him you would love to be asked in the traditional manner. He may just assume you will marry him, you are having his baby and have been together for a year.
2006-10-17 04:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Kalliope 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kinda put the cart before the horse didn't you. At this point since you have another human life to consider I'd be asking him some very important questions. I hope you picked the right guy to step up and be a good dad.
2006-10-17 04:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine how freaked out you are. That's weird. My hubby and I always talked about marriage, then we picked out my ring, so I knew him asking me was just around the corner Been married 4.5 years now. I'd be worried honey - sounds like this guy is scared of commitment. I think, if I were you, I'd ASK him! Good luck!
2006-10-17 04:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your response to him bringing it up is of concern to him. Are you acting receptive? Do you say, yes, let's do it? or do you just sit there and listen and hope he is going to drop to one knee. Could be he wants you to respond in a way that suggests you will take charge -- like deciding when and where. If you are doing all that, then he might be a bit scared about it. Ask to talk about it and just make sure he knows you want to.
2006-10-17 04:29:02 · answer #10 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋