feeling bad about my body in front of my boyfriend, help!?

Question

I am a size 12 and hate it. My boyfriend and i have a great sexlife but he wants to dress-up in stockings n suspenders ect. I am very embaressed about my hips n thighs coz the r the wobblyest bits and i have strech marks from where i lost weight. How can i look sexy for him in this stuff if i dont feel sexy, please help!

Answer 1

hey,
I'm in a similar situation since having my first son i have stretch marks on my bum and thighs. my partner likes to dress me in stockings and i feel very self conscious about my self i found a half way point. i wear baby-doll nighties with little lace shorts and this hides all the bits i don't want him to see. maybe something along those lines would help you until you feel better about showing your body of. i do believe every woman is sexy in there own way however alot of people are more worried about the way the look.
good luck!!!1

Answer 2

My last boyfriend thought I was the most beautiful woman on earth....I thought he was insane!! But the bottom line is, if he loves you, he probably REALLY does think you're beautiful.

I know it's hard to feel comfortable when you're paranoid about stuff but you just have to remember he wouldn't be with you if he didn't want to be....

Men are weird. I have stretch marks EVERYWHERE yet the boyfriend I mentioned above used to say he loved them because he knew where it would be leading to.... it doesn't make sense to us girls but basically men look at the whole package!!

The October issue of Cosmo had an article about couples confessing about bits they didnt like about each other. One girl had lost loads of weight and her boyfriend commented that he missed her curves!!

If you decide to do it.... HIGH HEELS!!

Good luck!

Answer 3

Size 12 is the average dress size in the UK. What are you compalining about? Does your boy friend complain? From what you've told me so far, no! You mentioned you lost weight? If you were big before you probably have lower self esteem. There's nothing wrong with your body you just need to regain your confidence. x

Answer 4

the average womans size is a 16 so you are a skinny milinky as far as most women go. but i know how you feel, and its a self confidence issue that isn't easy to fix just cos people tell you so.

My boyfriend and my friends tell me I have a great figure but i still see the bits i hate and they draw all my focus making me feel uncomfortable about all of it. I like me clothed but i don't think i'll ever be a girl who can walk around naked with true confidence.

my tricks are low level lighting - candles are fantastic as they through enough shadow to put some soft focus on the bits you don't like, play a particular song that makes you feel sexy (you don't have to be dancing!!) and not that i'm advocating drinking, but a good glass of wine will losen you up just enough to go with the flow, blindfolding him solves all your probs but will defeat the point of the outfit. Also, getting a st tropez done helps as they are able to blend it so that the stretch marks lessen. In fact, spend the day getting you hair and nails done, go shopping etc and you'll feel nice and relaxed - you might even be able to get him to put it on his credit card if you're shopping for the outfit on the same day!

but above all, if you don't feel that you want to do it, don't. you wouldn't want him to do something he would feel uncomfortable with. maybe you should talk to him about stuff you would both enjoy.

Have fun! xx

Answer 5

I'm a size 8 and feel self conscious when wearing stockings and suspenders as i don't have any curves. Curvy figures always look sexier in stockings and suspenders!! Your boyfriend loves you and obviously fancies you as you are or he would not be asking you to dress up for him, instead he would be asking for you to turn the lights out. Take confidence from your curves, women are supposed to be voluptuous and curvy and spare a thought for us ironing boards!

Answer 6

its who u r not what u look like that counts !
And anyway u should be pleased your a size 12, thats an average normal size, your not overweight or anything and some women would die for a figure like you. Also strecth marks there is a new cream i saw advertised on TV..if your that worried about them..im not sure what its called but look out 4 it
Hope this helps :)

Answer 7

i got stretchmarks on my tops of my thighs and stomache after giving birth, my hubby wanted me to dress up in stockings etc for him, so i got a nice basque, stockings that were quite high, suspenders positioned over my stretch marks. to be honest, i dont think he was taking any notice of my stretch marks or "flabby bits"as i call them, especially when he saw i had killer heels on.
ok, so you may not be happy with your body, but tell me 1 woman who is? he is with you as he loves you, size 12 isn't big either!

Answer 8

Try Crotchless Tights or fishnets that way he'll have easy access and you don't have to show anything that you don't want to show. or you can go to the gym and tone up the places that are a little flabby. but most people just embrace that there a big girl. i say if your man likes it, and you don't think he's wandering then try to accept it. also ask how did he feel about you before and how he feels now you might be surprised, there also have Peek-A boo shirts and bras.

Answer 9

hi i know how you feel i was the same with my boyfriend but believe it or not most boys dont like stick thin girls because it is not allways attractive my boyfriend says he likes something to look at instead off a bag off bones you should be proud off your body girl because if your bfriend is genuine your body will be the best ever to him just relax and enjoy it hope it helps good luck xx

Answer 10

I think that jogging one hour daily will reduce the size of ur thighs and hips! Eat less meat, cereals and greasy foods.
That's my personal experience!
Try it!