2006-10-17 03:55:57 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To the next date but firmly keeping in mind the 3 date rule... 3 dates, no sex, see ya.
2006-10-24 19:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Quite a lot of misunderstanding of project in the answers so far.
My view of it is projecting into the future like a projector showing a film on a screen but all in my head, like a dream.
I laughed when I read somebosy elses answer and agree, I know a few women who project to marriage on meeting or even viewing a new guy. Think this possibly is projecting a little far but whatever works i suppose.
Personally before the date I visualise getting to know them.
After the date I may visualise getting to know them more , the first kiss (if it has not happened already) and the first bedroom encounter.
Note this is visualisation not actually doing it.
2006-10-17 04:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I would not agree to go on a date if I did not find them sexually attractive, I would dress for the bedroom just in case meaning stockings and suspenders with matching undies.
Marriage and children is a thought always at the back of the mind, but I never judge a man that way because life is too short and I would have missed out on a lot of fun.
2006-10-22 02:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is for a het male perspective.
The general rule is to treat women like cats - let them come to you, don't chase them. Some like being chased, but they are a minority.
Another way of putting it is to look like a fruit ripe for picking, if only desired.
If I am intent on seducing a lady, I've seen that stripping in a tempting but 100% non-threatening way, w/o even trying to schmooze w/ her OR remove any of her clothes is extremely well received, even if nothing ensues.
You need a decently safe and secluded place (and warm, depending on your climate), and a good sense of time and motion. A living room with a couch is sufficient.
A hotel lobby would be much better (think of the professionally arranged lighting and general ambience, possibly music and scent, etc.) but first check if stripping in a hotel lobby is legal in your jurisdiction.
Another perfect place is a church. Some European churches are open at odd hours, and have a bit of space behind the altar, which is as far as you get from the doors, just for that purpose. Likewise, try to know the law.
You need to be able to sustain a quality conversation with your clothes off, something Americans are particularly bad at. Practice is essential. Also, describing every next move of yours, including any self limitations, and then executing it exactly as described has a reassuring effect.
An erection is not indispensible but does not hurt IF YOU DO NOT LOOK AGGRESSIVE.
Not having a paunch, oozing warts, a fat rearend, missing toes / limbs, major recent poorly-stitched scars, infected pimples, or exceptionally tiny or squidgy genitals, and not blushing / sweating too much also helps, I hear.
As for physical closeness, DO NOT aim for anything more than resting your head on her lap while stripping. Face up is much better for a host of reasons. Lie on the lady's dominant hand side as it buttresses her sense of being in control.
Do not head for the bedroom at first except to jump up and down on the bed yelling joyfully.
If the bed is hers, remove boots first. Your boots.
If you are exceptionally tall, check you have sufficient clearance under the ceiling.
Jumping up and down on a waterbed is difficult, awkward, and unadvised.
The tone and subject matter of your joyful yelling must be such as e.g. not to alarm the neighbours. Church psalms sung in full voice are perfect. Some psalms are definitely erogenous.
2006-10-17 05:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nomore Replies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men usually try all on unless they really like the girl. some women just go with the flow. To the bedroom or if u even make it to it on the first date well it doesnt say much about how far the relationship will go
2006-10-17 04:03:00 · answer #5 · answered by helena w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first naked embrace would be all I would be projecting on a first date. I know of a few women who project marriage simply by talking to a cut guy.
2006-10-17 04:02:45 · answer #6 · answered by barter256 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are seriously wanting to date, then none of the above. Just take your time, go out with friends, date the people that appeal to you. Most girls that you would want to spend your life with, would be offended if you talk about taking them to bed, on a first date.
2006-10-17 04:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Project? Do you mean you're likely to vomit? In that case, I'd say the bathroom ...
I reckon you have to play it by ear as they say ... prepare for just coffee and maybe a quick snog, then anything else is a bonus!
I wouldn't go so far as marriage and kids though!
2006-10-17 04:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever both of you feel comfortable with but personally i think the bedroom is much to adventourous for just the first date, i think just a proper kiss would be appropriate
2006-10-17 04:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Star dust 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these days people meet in the street and are in bed before they know each others' names. for me it would be coffee and a chat for the first date and much the same for at least six months before i got to the stage where i would say i like him/her . marriage and kids would be well down the list of prorities for about three years or more
2006-10-17 04:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋