Mom died almost 10 yrs ago. Have not celebrated a holiday or birthday since then. How do I get my joy back? I know she wouldn't want me to live like this.
2006-10-17 03:53:28 · 5 answers · asked by Daphanie Y 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just remember all the times you shared and they should keep a smile on your face daily.your mom would feel as if she didn't raise you to be strong enough if she sees you suffering over her leaving,all parents want to know that after we are gone pieces of us live on in our children and we want to know we gave them strength as well as love.cheer up and show the world this wonderful person your parents created,remember apples don't fall from trees and your smile is her smile,your deeds are her deeds so represent her well.
2006-10-17 04:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you could try letting her go That is easier said than done., but we all have choices, to be sad or happy. I don't know if you are religious, but I feel heaven is a much better place than here on earth. She is at peace. Make up your mind that you will be happy. Remember the good times, but move on with your life. She would want you to live a happy and productive life. Seek outside help., surround yourself with friends, family. Grief is a very personal experience, but we can all expect to go through some very tough emotions. If grief isn't resolved, it can continue to steal your joy. A therapist may be able to help you with this.
2006-10-17 11:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by mattie52 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. I know the feeling. It's that heavy load that you feel between the breasts each time you miss her.10 yrs is a long time to live in sorrow. It disempowers you as you are living in your past and it shuts you from being happy with your life now. You can't choose or change the events that occur in your life but you can choose how you interprete each event. What's important is to live your present life...to live in the moment. Don't let your past dishearten you. Be thankful that at least you had great times with your mum when she was around than not have any at all. Time will heal you wound but to expedite the process, keep yourself constantly busy with work, party, exercise, hobbies..anything.Believe me, It REALLY does help.Do it NOW..no procrastination . Don't you wanna see your mum smile down at you from heaven? :-)
2006-10-17 11:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by catonahottinroof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made the first step which is realizing your mom wouldn't want life like this for you and finally you aren't happy with life as is.Have you ever thought of therapy or maybe group therapy to relate with others dealing with a loss.I believing talking about your feelings will help you deal with them.
2006-10-17 11:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by misty g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DAPH, HONEY, LIFE MUST GO ON. I'M SURE IT'S WHAT YOUR MOM WOULD HAVE WANTED! THESE HOLIDAYS AND BIRTHDAYS YOU'VE MISSED , WERE OPPORTUNITIES TO THINK ABOUT MOM IN A HAPPY WAY! HOW DID SHE CELEBRATE THESE DAYS, HOW MUCH LAUGHTER WAS THERE?? YOU MY DEAR MUST CARRY ON HER TRADITIONS THAT SHE SO LOVINGLY TAUGHT YOU!! NOW..NO MORE TEARS, ONLY IF THERE HAPPY ONES ,AND START CELEBRATING THE WAY MOM WOULD HAVE!!
2006-10-17 11:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋