and he has just come out of a relationship and says although he really likes me he doesn't want to rush straight into another one which i totally understand but he txts me all the time and we've been out twice. how do i keep him interested without seeming too keen and scare him off!! i would appreciate mens and womens views on this.
2006-10-17 03:50:53 · 14 answers · asked by english_chick234 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why dont you tell him that whilst you respect his wishes in not jumping straight into another relationship would it be ok with him for you two to simply hang out and have a good time together - tell him you have no intention of pushing him into anything, but you enjoy his company and think ye get on pretty well and you'd like to maybe catch a film with him or have a few drinks.
If he doesnt meet you half way on this arrangement then I wouldnt really bother with him - it does sound like hes interested in you though so I think he will. xx
2006-10-17 03:58:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like everything is going the way it should from what you have described. Men usually say that they don't want to get into a relationship after they just got out of one because when a relationship turns sour, men are usually turned off by the whole concept of monogomy, committment, even love, etc. The last thing this guy wants is for you to remind him of the girl/binding relationship he just left. At the moment, it sounds like things are fresh, but I don't think there is a way to 'keep' a man interested. You can certainly make a man 'not' interested in you but you have little control over man's interests. In other words he is either into you, or not - and in this case it sounds like he is. Take it easy, drop the whole notion of keeping him interested or scaring him off and simply discover how you two communicate. Don't stress if he wants to talk about his old relationship either, if he talks about it, it will become more and more apparent to him that it is a part of the past. Sounds like it's already happening for you, enjoy!
2006-10-17 11:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by sctwalker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good idea is to go out in a group with both single and couple friends. That way there's no pressure because it's just a gathering of friends instead of a personal date. Arrive in separate vehicles and leave the same way. Call the next day (or text) and say thanks for a great night and hope he had a good time too. Personally, it's better to wait because chances are he'll want to talk a bit about his ex if you're a sympathetic ear. Regular contact doesn't have to mean going out in person either. Keep it to phone and emails for a couple of weeks leaving the door open for future invites from him too.
2006-10-17 11:07:06 · answer #3 · answered by Pierre D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you really like him, but that you also understand he doesn't want to dive straight into another relationship. Say that you would be happy to stay as friends for the time being and to just see if anything develops naturally Then see what he says. If he likes you then you will get a positive reaction from that.
2006-10-17 10:58:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what you are doing and if he's interested he will begin a relationship with you once he feels comfortable. The worst thing to do would be to badger him about 'where the relationship is going.' Make sure he knows that you are interested in a relationship, but just relax and let it take its course. :)
2006-10-17 11:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by GK2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is keen anyway if he keeps txtin you. fair enough he doesn't want to rush straight into another relationship - just tell him "i know you don't want anything too serious at the moment but i do really like you, just let me know when you feel like you wanna take things further."
the best bet is simply tell him the truth =)
Good luck
2006-10-17 11:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it casually always answer calls and text but don't break your neck to do it. Keeping the relationship at a distance will gradually bring you closer together and the I don't want to jump into another relationship rarely lasts long
2006-10-17 10:59:46 · answer #7 · answered by philipscottbrooks 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... how to put this with a modicum of class. When a guy says he doesn't want to hop into another relationship but does things like what this bloke is doing what he means is he wants to hop in the sack. If you're ok with him seeing you and half of the planet, then thats ok. Otherwise you might want to look elsewhere
2006-10-17 10:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by shinobisoulxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't rush him and go with the flow at the end of the day if you are emant to be together you will just enjoy being friends. friendship and trust is what builds a relationship
2006-10-17 11:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by natl7788 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear that you like him and are willing to take things slow the way you are doing now. Flirt a little, wait for his reaction and keep your fingers crossed.
2006-10-17 10:59:11 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋