I want to make sure I'm not alone here...maybe I am...?

Question

My Aunt Mary suddently died almost two years ago of a massive heart attack. She was my grandma's sister and like a grandma to me because I never knew my grandma. So, I love her very dearly. Her husband, my uncle (also very dear to me) is remarrying a women that is 30 years younger. The women he's marrying is the same age as his daughter inlaw. Shes just marrying him for the money (he's very wealthy) and he just wants someone to cook for him basically. His children have stopped talking to him because they are so upset and our pastor has refused to take part in the wedding because the lady he is marrying has had an unbiblical divorce. Does everyone else think this marriage is wrong too? Any suggestions on how to stop it from happening?

I posted this in the religious section because I would really like the opinion of fellow brothers and sisters! Thank-you so much, if you wouldn't all mind praying about it too, you know how powerful prayer can be! Thanks everyone!

Answer 1

wrong- yes

solution-no

pray-yes

God bless

Answer 2

Dear Question,

There is nothing you can do to keep someone from sinning. The Lord is the only One who can do that. But you can pray for him that his eyes might be opened to the fact that marrying someone who has been divorced is sin. You see, there are many people who truly believe that they are saved but in reality, they have never been born of God. Look at Matthew 7:21-23.
I also wanted to take a look at 2 Thessalonians 2, Matthew 24:15, 16 and Revelation 18. Your pastor, who maybe very nice, has probably never taught on these Scriptures. The bottom line is that we are at the end of the church age ie., the Lord is no longer in any local congregation (church) and therefore it is impossible for anyone to be saved there. The Lord spoke in parables (Mark 4:33, 34). Revelation 18 is telling the "true believers) to get out of the churches because they have become Babylon (picture of satans kingdom). This is also spoken of in 2 Thessalonians 2 ..when "the man of sin takes his seat." We also read that ...until he be taken out of the way.... This is telling us that the Holy Spirit will leave the local congregations so that salvation is impossible regardless of the accuracy of the preaching. You might be asking "where did you get this?" From the Bible, of course. We are now in the period of the Great Tribulation (Matthew 24). This period precedes the 2nd coming of Christ and the end of the world. Do not look for the waters being turned into blood or locusts flying around stinging people--that is all metaphorical language. The Bible tells us that everything will proceed as usual right up until the end just like before the flood of Noah (Luke 17). The important thing is that you get out of the church and keep reading your Bible. If you are not sure of your salvation, pray to the Lord for mercy. See references

Answer 3

Ouch, since you were so close to your aunt, this upcoming marriage must hurt alot especially since the woman is the same age as his daughter-inlaw. It does seem though, like everyone is turning their back on him. Perhaps he just doesn't know any better and is feeling the loneliness from losing his wife. It would only make matters worse if you are included in the people that are not talking to him anymore. Biblically if he marries her then he is committing adultery. Does he practice Christianity? If he does then you could share that scripture with him, but also let him know that no matter what decision is made you will still be there for him. Hopefully, if the marriage doesn't work out and she did take him to the poor house, he will know to go to you for love becuase you were the only one that showed it to him. You should show him love because of Jesus and in memory of the aunt that you lost. Hope it works out.

Answer 4

It sounds like no one is fooling anyone here. They both know what they want and don't have a problem with their motives. They have a desire to be married and that is a moral choice. You might want to suggest a pre-nuptial agreement to make sure everyone is on the same page. His children should get off their high horse and be happy that he has a companion and cook that will be attentive to him in his Autumn years. After all that relieves them of the responsibility. And, what is an unbiblical divorce? Is it legal? If it is - it's a divorce and that is all that counts.

Answer 5

Brother, How do you know what is in the womans heart. Your uncle surely isn't marrying her to cook for him, he could hire someone to do that. The age difference doesn't matter. You need to talk with your Uncle apart form the woman he is about to marry and find out what his true feelings are toward her. He may really have love for her. Maybe the children are upset because they fear that he will leave everything to her and they will be out in the cold, so to speak, as far as an inheritance. The fact that she had an unbibical divorce doesn't mean that she isn't a child of God. That is not unpardonable. PRAY about it

Answer 6

You are correct in feeling the marriage is wrong. Their pastor is correct for refusing to take part. If she is unbiblically divorced, then this marriage would be a sin.

As on how to stop the marriage from happening...
Realize that if you can't stop it, it is not your fault. It is ultimately their decision. Just like it is our job as Christians to present people with the Truth, it is up to them to accept it.

The best I can suggest to you is to keep praying about it, and make sure your brother knows what the Bible says about this.

Answer 7

She wants a wealthy husband. He wants a cook. If they are both happy and aware of the needs of the other, why is it anyone else's business? Try sitting down with him and listening to his point of view without prejudging. If, after learning what is really going on, you still have reservations, go ahead and discuss those concerns with him. But there is nothing wrong with two adults "settling for" a less than perfect companion if it will make them happier than being alone.

Answer 8

Well first of all, I hope that it all works out for your uncle. But you know if HE feels it's ok, that's what matters. If he is happy with her *or her cooking :)* then everyone should just let him live. Six years is a long time after loosing a partner; maybe he needs that companionship. Altho it would be sad if she is just money hungry... Maybe it could be suggested to him to make a prenuptial agreement or something. As for the pastor and uncle's kids turning him away, that is being judgmental, hurtful, and to me just wrong. I hope that it all works out for everyone involved.

Answer 9

I am sorry at the loss of your Aunt Mary. I am so sorry to tell you this, but it is his life, his money and she'll be his wife.
If you want to continue to have a relationship with him, you'll have to accept his decision and accept that she is his wife.
You can talk with him, but if the reaction of his own children are not going to make a difference, you'll only put a wall between you.

Praying for you.

Answer 10

Although im not relgious, I would like to think I have a valid opinion on this question, If i was in your position i would sit down with your uncle and explaine that you love him and you only want whats best for him, and that although you do not agree with his choice, he is an adult, and you will always love and support his choices because thats what we do with our family and friends we love them and support them but we have to give them the room to make their own mistakes.

Answer 11

The only way to stop it is by legal action. Go see a lawyer who can bridge between his doctor(s) and the family, to declare him 'non com mentis' . This may not endear all parties envolved, however. Remember, it is only money. If this is his wish for the end of his life, do you want to make it bitter?