Do You Think There is a Correlation Between Acceptance of Premarital Sex and the Rising Divorce Rate?

Question

Anyone have any statics? What are your thoughts? Do you think only having sex with one person your entire life would bond you closer to that one person? Does having sex with multiple partners make it easier for you to eventually leave your wife/husband?

What do you think?

Answer 1

I have no statistics, and anyway, who believes statistics?
My thoughts? Well, first of all, you body belongs to you. What you do with it is nobody's business but your own. that said, a loving relationship is more sustaining than not. Sex can bring you closer to a person, and can be very loving, and when it is, it can be a strong bond for a lifetime.
Sex with multiple partners usually does not indicate a happy marriage, so rather than being the cause of a marriage breakdown, it is probably a symptom of a marriage in trouble.

Answer 2

Yes there is ... but from an economic stand point, the numbers all start in the mid 1960's. It was at this time when birth control (pill) was invented and mass distributed (~1967) ... then condoms ... then Roe vs Wade in the late 1960's.

Statistically speaking, the divorce rates started a rapid increase in the 1970's. So too did the pornography industry with Play Boy (late 1960's). Combined together, it's been a lethal weapon against marriage. This so called "Freedom" for women has in reality taken the woman out of the frying pan in thrown into the fire. Instead of being what most women say "Jailed in marriage" they are now "Jailed in objectivity". Motherhood is a dirty word now, and naked women are rivered. So, what's left to a marriage when so many men are tempted by naked pictures, and then neglect their wife?

Answer 3

I don't think it effects a marriage at all. A marriage is not based on sex, if you love someone it would not be any easier to walk away from a marriage just because you have had other sexual partners. I think the divorce rate has risen because people are quick to jump into a marriage, many people aren't willing to work through their problems, people don't realize even the best marriages have their problems. Many people go into a marriage thinking it should be easy and that just isn't true, marriage takes work and compromise.

Answer 4

Personally, I think the rising divorce rate has far more to do with the relative ease in which our society lives now. We expect perfection from everything--why not, when we can live in the house we want, and drive the car we want, and TV and movies say that this is how marriage should be? We have the leisure now to sell the car or the house if it's inconvenient...why not just divorce an inconvenient spouse?

Answer 5

Yes, you can openly drive the car before you buy it now, or get rid of it. Now, when stick don't shift in the right direction, or the pick-up is bad, and it drives to slow or hard, cost too much in the long run, then you can take it back or trade it in. Get my point. Test drive, then buy. People that are like this don't stay in bad relationships, they decide that it isn't worth it and move one. Yes it may suck because people don't stay married anymore, but honestly is marriage really that great of a thing? Aren't most married people miserable? Lol.

Answer 6

Actually, I think it's the opposite. Where I'm from, it's the prohibition of pre-marital sex that causes divorce. My state has one of the highest divorce rates in the US, and it's because horny teenagers decide to get married, so they can have sex (they think they're in love, but they're really just horny). They're way too young to be married in the 21st century, and their psychological growth causes marital problems throughout their 20s. So, they end up divorcing.

Answer 7

Yes, I do think that there is a co-relation. I think, however, that there is an even stronger co-relation with those who marry and contracept versus those who do not contracept. Please allow me to explain.
Pre-marital sex teaches those who engage in it instant gratification. Those who wait until marriage learn the virtue of self-mastery--they do not become slaves to their own will and desires, but overcome it with patience, forebearance and true love (willing the good of the other person). The same can be said for contraception.
Birth control deliberately attempts to make that which is healthy in men and women (namely, their fertility) and make it not work as God intended it. What happens then? Women, in particular, become "sexually available" to their husbands. The act of intercourse, over time, becomes less of an act of love and self-giving to become an act of personal gratification and mutual masterbation. And when birth control fails, this creates a situation in which a baby--a new life willed by God Himself (which would otherwise have been wanted and willed by the parents as well) is looked upon as an undesireable byproduct of their sexual act. How sad! Even husbands now have children for whom they do not want to care for and provide!!!! And yet this is the husband's vocation in his life--to love his family as God loves the church (Ephesians 5)!!!! This type of selfishness kills love--for the man and the woman AND the children. That is why couples which contracept have a 50% divorce rate, whereas couples that do not contracept have a 2% divorce rate. That's right, 98% of couples that avoide contraception in their marriage remain together for life as God intended it (Matthew 19:4-9).
There is a better way--and I am NOT talking about the rhytmn method (which is very ineffective by the way). It's called Natural Family Planning or NFP. My husband and I have been practicing it to avoid children up until this month--now, we are going to try to concieve (maybe already--ask me in 2 weeks!). Basically, it is tracking a woman's body temperature and other signs of fertility to be able to tell when the woman is fertile--and then avoiding or having sex during those days (depending on whether or not one wants to avoid or achieve pregnancy). I am including some links below for more information on NFP if you are interested--and some on the dangers of other methods of birth control. It works for anyone--breastfeeding, menopausel and even women with irregular periods and it is 98% effective at avoiding pregnancy when partners learn the method from liscensed teachers. Also, it introduces no chemicals or unnatural agents into the man's or woman's body and consequently has none of the medical risks associated with other methods--what loving husband would want his wife to do that to her body anyway? especially just so that he can "have" her whenever he wants? The Bible shows us time and time again what good things come to those who wait (Sarah, Hannah, Isralites in Egypt...etc). How true this is for couples who practice NFP!!!!
Thanks for reading and God Bless!

P.S. As I was reading over other answers, it came to my attention that someone comparing having sex with their spouse to buying a car! Ugh! This is EXACTLY the type of mentality to which I am referring above. People are not cars--they are not meant to be "used" or "tried out." They are children of God. They were created to be loved!
Thanks again for reading!

P.P.S. Someone else mentions rising divorce rates starting in the 70's...they attribute to working outside the home. And yet this practice was prevalent particularly during WWII. Do you know what else happened in the 70's? Contraception was legalized for unmarried persons (1972). The pill began being mass marketed in the 1960's but didn't start taking off until the later part of the decade. Coincidence? Maybe if it alone was the only statistic which points towards this cause.....

Answer 8

there has always been premarital sex.

divorce is more a product of women entering the workforce and associating with a lot more men.

The increase in women working started during the 70s.

There is a lot of pressure on women by the men that they work with.

Answer 9

Both issues, premarital sex and divorce stem from ignorance and disrespect for marriage.

if marriage is no longer understood or seen as "necessary" and proper, which would be the case for most non-religious people, and many of the religious folks, then you end up where we are in the US.

Answer 10

the statistics of premarital sex, the pamplets you get in church, have a clearly christian slant to them.

Only an idiot whould trust something that the church put out.