There are so many aspects to getting married and i swear i am on info overload right now! I have the huge binder seperated into sections, from contracts to dresses. I have samples of invites and magnets, swatches and ring designs. Monogrammed towels to mongrammed outfits cover the wish lists. ARRGH! I wish i could just scream! Pushy cousins to seat placecards, presents and guests lists. All of my conversations deal with it, and the funny thing is, the wedding is over a year away. How did you or are you handling the stress of planning your perfect day?
2006-10-17 03:41:29 · 29 answers · asked by glorymomof3 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We are having a smaller-medium sized wedding with about 150 people. They are coming from all over the country. My fiance is helpful, but he knows i am picky and will fret all the way to the end. I am not planning to spend more than 6000 though. I am a budget shopper, thrifty in all ways!
I just thought it would be easier to plan, but even when you delegate, you still double check that to make sure it is what you want.
I am so glad I only believe in getting married once!!
2006-10-17 04:04:42 · update #1
It sounds to me like you got very excited and overloaded yourself too fast. You need to take a deep breath (get some exercise.... a jog or swim perhaps) and give yourself a second to re-collect yourself.
Then when you go back to it make it be ONE thing at a time.... first day say to yourself "OK, today I am going to decide on colors" then do that, and ONLY that. Then the next day choose another thing to tackle... "OK, today I am going to choose a reception venue" and do that and ONLY that.
Each day put all of your work away after you have gotten your task for the day finished. Don't touch it again until the following day. If it is an especially perplexing task either ask for help or assign it to a week instead of a day and then set a time limit ("I will work only 2 hrs today on my wedding plans for -----").
The key is everything in moderation. Don't let it get so overwhelming that you burn out and stop enjoying yourself. If it isn't fun anymore it isn't worth doing.... get more "simple" until it is fun again.
If you need a hand email me and I will help the best I can.
2006-10-17 04:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TAKE A DEEP BREATH! It's normal to feel this way. Take a weekend or week away from the wedding. You and your fiance spend some time together and make a mutual pact to not say a word about it. If your wedding is over a year away and you are this organized already, you have been in overdrive. Just try to relax a little. Get a massage, take a walk, go get ice cream with your sweetie. I prayed when I was planning mine. It helped a ton to constantly remember that it isn't about a 'perfect' day or a production, it was about joining my life with my husband's life before God. When you keep focused on what it's really about, you don't sweat the small stuff or even the big stuff as much. Just know going in, there will be glitches and that's okay. The best weddings I've been to weren't due to the perfection of the event but the beauty of the love between the couple. God bless you during your planning and your marriage. Remember this is just one day, but you'll have each other for the rest of your days. Just take good care of yourself and your relationship and it will be fine. Also, if other people are stressing you out, declare a wedding free week, no conversations or questions regarding the wedding. Again, I'm sure you'll have a wonderful wedding and the best part will be the man standing next to you.
2006-10-17 03:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I totally felt like that! I was turning into a bridezilla and the wedding was almost a year away!! So my fiance said, 'why don't we just go down to the Little Chapel of the West in Las Vegas and get married...'
So we did!! $200, fantastic photos and memories to last a lifetime! Like when I called him an ****** during the ceremony for making me cry.
OK, if getting married in Vegas isn't your thing remember this: Have fun! A wedding is fun, and so is the planning! If it wasn't everyone would do what my hubbby and I did. So have fun, be sure to take some breaks, breathe deeply when things get stressful, and rejoice that you have a loving partner.
Good luck, and it really is the best day! :)
2006-10-17 10:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by ValentineP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's definately possible to get burned out!! How about setting it aside for a while? If you have the major things taken care of (booked place for wedding and reception), you should be able to take a month or two off without adding any stress....especially since you have a year left. When I got married, it was a relief to not be in 'wedding-mode' all the time anymore! Good luck!
2006-10-17 05:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You simply don't let the stress get to you! That is what I did. Fortunately for me my husband helped plan with me. I had a wedding planner to help me out and I loved it and I get all my info in there but I just simply said I wasn't going to let the stress get to me and I didn't. I was laid back through the whole thing. But when the wedding was over I was relieved because I was so tired. The two years it took me to plan the wedding and the wedding day it was just a long day, both of us were just relieved!!
2006-10-17 03:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that all the planning and the need for everything to go perfect that day does not shine over the true meaning of the day. Too many people worry about how everything has to be perfect and the wedding becomes to be about all the things that it's not truely suppose to be about. It is suppose to be about the bride and the groom and thier happiness, not about the meal or the perfect wedding dress.
2006-10-17 03:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never had to plan anything... We had an informal half-improvised wedding at an outdoor event... It was great, everyone pitched in and helped out, and everything came together beautifully. I've always felt that big weddings is nothing but stress and a huge waste of money. We had a great honeymoon instead, a 10-day Caribbean cruise. It was awesome.
2006-10-17 06:10:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the time the wedding rolls around you are going to go insane....it just sounds like you are creating a lot of stress...why are you worrying about mongrammed towels?!?! Worry about the photographer and flowers and actual things that have to do with the wedding to keep yourself sane! I was only engaged for 8 months, planned it within the first 5 or six months so I had a few to relax...and it still drove me crazy! It has its way of taking over your life and can be very unpleasant. If you have a year left, take it easy and only do one thing at a time!! Good luck and congrats!
2006-10-17 04:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have gotten carried away and have planned too big of a wedding. You need to cut back and save some money to buy a house and have some savings. Get someone to help you: your mother, your maid of honor, etc. Trust me, you don't need all of that junk. Let the bridesmaids choose their own dresses. As long as they are all the same color and length, different styles don't matter. They will be happier and it will add a different note to the wedding. No one even notices the flowers or pays much attention to the invitations as long as they're not tacky. Cut back, way back.
2006-10-17 03:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i know what you mean. I am only inviting 100 people and the stress is getting to me. Sometimes I just feel like giving up and crying. My sisters are no help as they question everything that I do or want (last of 5 children and the youngest girl). Sometimes I feel like they make it more difficult than it has to be. Having trouble finding a proper reception site and have not ordered the invitation yet and the wedding is in january.
Pray for me.
2006-10-17 07:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by martini_40727 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋