my daughter went to her fathers in august for 2 weeks and her father and his wife deceided to call me and tell things that my husband supposly touched my lil girl in a bad way. i had her examined and i called child services and the police department her and all to find out that her father made it all up. and it was all a lie. should i allow my daughter to go back to her fathers after this?
My husband doesnt want her too he is afraid of this happening again and this time him goin to jail for somehting he didnt do. but it is a court order that she goes to her fathers on school vaction and 2 weeks out of the month during summer vacation. I feel bad becuz shewantto see her dad but the lies that where told in the past can put anyone in jail for a long time just based on lies. she is only 5 and she knows more now that what she should now at all. all becuz of this happening and her talking to all these specailist. all becuz of her father wanting full custody of her what should i do????
2006-10-17 03:40:58 · 13 answers · asked by jessica H 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
he did this 1 week before my wedding so i had to cancel my weedding all becuz of his lies. but when he got married i did nothing to stop his wedding or disturd his wedding i was very very upset about all of it. and still am.
2006-10-17 03:52:43 · update #1
do your daughter a big favor: keep her away from him.
do yourself a big favor: cut off contact with him
do your ex-husband a big favor: press charges
2006-10-17 03:46:38 · answer #1 · answered by The Indigo Cobra 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is the oldest ploy in the book. Parents from split homes do this ALL THE TIME. i have never known a child from a broken home who wasnted tested for sexual abuse by one spouse or the other.
The courts dont just put people away for no reason in cases like this. They have to find hard evidence that something is happening. And they didnt.
You do have a court order, so you have no choice about her going to visit her dad.
I might, however, get a lawyer and look into some malicious accusations law suits, and try to gain and keep full custody of your child that way.
Or you could request supervised visitations from the court, so your ex has to be in a police station with the child the whole time he's visiting. This way he's monitored.
2006-10-17 10:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off... get yourself a lawyer and ask his opinion of what you should do, but if you want my opinion:
If what your saying is true and you have evidence that your ex and his wife made up this alligations against your husband then I would get a lawyer, make a formal complaint and keep your ex from seeing your daughter. Children especially young children, are very suspectiable to suggestion and not nipping this in the bud now could cause you and your poor husband trouble in the long run.
2006-10-17 10:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Redd Morgan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What an idiot !!
Why did he do that !!!
And there is not much you can do , she will have to go .
Maybe you can call your ex and ask him to go some place where you two can talk .
Put aside the hostility and think about the child first .
He should do too.
There has to be a way to make things work .
I had three kids after a divorce , to take care of .
I talked to him sometimes ( for the kids sake ) .
I didn't care about him , all I thought about was my children .
2006-10-17 10:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to court. See what the judge says about the custody. Have him decide. What your ex is doing is unhealthy for everyone involved.
Please make very, very sure that your ex-husband was just doing this to be mean. Make absolutely certain in your heart & mind that your daughter is not being hurt(by anyone!).
2006-10-17 10:48:39 · answer #5 · answered by momofmodi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel for you, with all that chidren go thru in this world its bad when they cant trust parents. My suggestion would be to consult your lawyer or a child phsycologist and see if your daughters visits should be supervised by the court. If your ex has done this to your daughter there is a chance that it has happened or could happen to other children.
2006-10-17 10:51:15 · answer #6 · answered by glazer_098 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one. Just keep your child's visits to her fathers at a minimum, and don't have anything elso to do with him. If he's such a lier and a bad person he'll soon forget about trying to make your life difficult. Just don't give him any attention... whatsoever.
2006-10-17 10:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Greek_Warrior 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have him have supervised vistits. Go to the court house and ask if they can do this. Tell the judge everything that happend, and hopefully he will say that they have to be supervised!! I'm sorry that he's a jerk!!! I hope you find something that works out for her!!! Good luck.
2006-10-17 12:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is his daughter too. You have no right to not let him see her. How about you two work out your issues instead of using your daughter as a way of punishing and rewarding each other. If you two sat down and talked like human beings you may find out what is really going on.
2006-10-17 10:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by camus0281 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, your ex-husband sounds like a docuhe bag. Why can't you take this to court?
2006-10-17 10:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ohay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋