I havent done anything wrong. I see him all the time, and when I don't I'm normally at home. What can I do??
2006-10-17 03:35:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok pip I am experienced in this the guy obviously has trust issues just tell him how you feel and see what he says I have been accused of doing the same thing in the past and explained to my then girlfriend that I am not cheating but if I keep getting threatened with it then I will seeing as I am allready in trouble about it but explain to him it bothers you that he thinks that and then hopefully you guysd can work something out
2006-10-17 03:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by Bonzai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time a guy wants to accuse his lover of cheating when either he is cheating, or he has had a lot of girls cheat on him and he feels insecure about it. Try doing small things every day to show him that you care. It will be some hard work sometimes, but if you care about him, its will be worth it. If he doesn't notice than he probably has something else on his mind.
2006-10-17 10:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there somethiing you're not telling us? You're normally at home... Obviously, you've done something that let's us know there is something that you are feeling guilty...
I hate to give away secrets, but the way you phrase things leads one to believe you may be hiding something.
"I haven't done anything wrong." <<< That's not a denial... You leave one to speculate that you've seen some guy, maybe for something innocent like coffee or some sort of "innocent" get together...
What's going on? If you had absolutely NOTHING questionable, you'd have said, "I haven't cheated on him. I don't know where he's getting this from..."
"I'm normally at home." It's the unusual phrases that give people the wrong impression... You leave one wondering at abnormal times, Where are you? Are you at the park with some other guy?
A friend of the male persuasion? Perhaps? Maybe you're down at Java Joe's sharing a cup of coffee. Sure you haven't kissed him yet, BUT there has been the usual finger play on the table???
No??? Are you sure??? You don't seem too sure of yourself in your statements..
The only other thing that could be coming down... Usually a guilty heart will lash out at the other accusing someone of the exact "crime" that they themselves are guilty. It may be that he's been cheating on you. He eases his conscience by accusing you therefore justifying in his own heart that it is okay to cheat because she is cheating.
If you haven't cheated or even borderline activity that could be perceived as cheating... (we demand complete honesty on Yahoo Answers!!!!)
Here's what you do... "Baby, there's no one but you and you know it!!! Being with you is an absolute dream, I could never cheat on you. You're my one and only and I'm your one and only."
Trapped rats, scream!!! I hope if he's cheating on you, you've prepared yourself because he'll bolt and try to pin something on you to make him feel justified in doing it. "you and John sitting down there at Java Joe's having coffee... Coffee means sex... I know you're cheating on me and I can find another girl who will be true."
Translation: "I've been cheating on you already, I'm not man enough to tell you there is someone else and I needed an out."
On the outside chance that he's just jealous of anyone that gets your attention... One warning, any action can be misconstrued... He has an inferiority complex and needs a lot of ego massage and reassurance. So that will mean you constantly letting him know, "He's the one and all other fail in comparison to him... Other guys don't stand a chance of stealing your heart away."
2006-10-17 11:02:20 · answer #3 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should see the red flag going up - this is a sign that he may be the one whose cheating and he's trying to blame it on you. Be careful!
2006-10-17 10:41:56 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him. Or cheat. You can't lose either way. There are plenty of decent guys out there, don't let a pretty boy make you feel like crap.
2006-10-17 10:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure, possibly controlling. Does he call you often to see if you are at home, and if your not, does he become angry or seem upset, ask about where you were? If so , RUN now.
2006-10-17 10:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by rottymom02 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree wit some ppl leave him if hes that insecure mainly wen some 1 cheats they devolope a guilt that makes them think since they did it maybe there partner is doing it aswell.....its all guilt
2006-10-17 10:44:43 · answer #7 · answered by red_eyedemon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might as well do it.. I mean thats what he wants to believe so do it..
Look its natural to cheat cause we are sexual being and you know you want some strange anyway !
2006-10-17 10:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by Freak Nasty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's cheating to me.
2006-10-17 10:43:44 · answer #9 · answered by Jen F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. Before too long he is going to want to know where you are every second.
2006-10-17 10:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by ditz21_85 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋