My 11 year old granddaughter, "Binky" (made up) has a "best" friend, "Boppy" (yup, made up). Boppy comes from a terrific family but can be very sneaky and calculating. My daughter and I thinkBoppy has taken money and other things from Binky and another friend's,Ditsy's (appropriate but made up) , home but can't prove it. Boppy has said the girls "left" their items at her house and they do play there a lot and both are typical forgetful 11 year olds.
Another issue is Boppy will do things that can cause trouble then back off when they get caught (like teasing someone on the bus) and let others take the full blame even though the ones who get into trouble say she has done it as well.
What can Binky do so that she doesn't continually get taken advantage of by Boppy. The key is, Boppy is still Binky's friend is not willing to give that up.
Help! I live at their house to baby sit several days a week and see it all first hand.
2006-10-17 03:16:48 · 7 answers · asked by AKA FrogButt 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Wow, I thought grandparents were supposed to be the wise ones.
When Binky gets tired of Boppy's behaviour she can end the relationship, until then it looks like you are being overprotective. If Binky is upset with Boppy, I suggest you tell Binky to be an example for Boppy to live up to. Boppy is looking for attention and Binky can certainly help by giving it to her in positive and creative ways, rather than submiting to negative influences.
2006-10-17 03:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Binky needs to take the stuff back from boppy and tell her its not nice to do that to friends she will be angry for a while but they will soon make up they are 11 . As for her getting into trouble binky has to walk away every time boppy is making trouble this way boppy will realize that it doens't impress binky or ditsy. good luck grandma binky
2006-10-17 10:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by mum 2 Cameron and Ewan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they play together at your home or your daughter's home LOCK UP anything of value. Your granddaughter is going to have to learn and realize on her own that this child is trouble. I wouldn't say anything negative about her, because your granddaughter might just push to stay closer to her. All you and your daughter can do is limit the amount of time "Binky" spends with her and when she's over at your home/or daughters keep a close eye on her. Unless you see her taking money you can't prove anything.
2006-10-17 10:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easiest answer is to not let them be friends. But then why would you want to be friends with Boppy any way right?
2006-10-17 10:33:13 · answer #4 · answered by Brianna'sMomma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let see, lets not jump into conclusions here. Why don't you test him by leaving an item that you think might be expensive to an 11 year old, but not that expensive to you. Then you leave it where you think he can get it then catch him as soon as he grabs it.
2006-10-17 10:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by emily333l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her keep a diary of all that happens. After a month this can be revised day by day. Strong ammunition this. Use it.
2006-10-17 10:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Charles Athole M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punish them
2006-10-17 10:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by lesley t 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋