Should I feel bad at being careful even though she says I am selfish ?

Question

Should I feel bad at being careful even though she says I am selfish ?
I am having a relationship with a very bright girl but one I am not particularly attracted to, I most certainly do not wish to get her pregnant, I would not want her to be the mother of a child of mine. She always starts any intimacy between us at times even when we are out in public, the world would think butter wouldn't melt in her mouth but she is pretty outrageous. She refuses to allow me to use contaceptives, this has put pressure on me to the point that even after she has orally gratified me I am worried she will spit and work my seed into herself to get pregnant in order to trap me. I really should end it but I am worried as she can become wildly manic and violent. I have even thought of packing and catching a plane to make a new beginning elsewhere. Sounds crazy I know.

Answer 1

Whoa!! Fatal attraction?? If you've already tried to talk to her about this and she still persist, packing the bags and catching a plane is a little extreme, but almost sounds like a good idea!! No one should have to be in fear of their partner. First of all, if you think she is really capable of this...get the hell out of this relationship NOW! Secondly, any one who refuses to let me use a condom ain't gettin any till she does!! There are SOOOO many other reasons besides as a contraceptive to use one!! The worries of her getting violent you have to deal with because eventually you WILL tell this girl to take a hike from the sounds of it. Be prepared and make sure you protect yourself ahead of time. It may seem a little extreme, but a hidden camera to record any violent acts she may try is a good idea because most judges will take her word for it if you had to press charges just because she's a female. Make sure when you go places it's with a friend or two so you have a witness. Tape any hostile threatening phone conversations etc...
You're not being selfish by being honest with yourself. You obviously have reasons for not wanting her to be the mother of your children...whatever they are. Stick to your guns. Having a child with someone you're not as you put it "particularly attracted to" is a setup for disaster. Think of the hell you'll put the kids through when you eventually split. Sounds like this girl needs some therepy...or to at least grow up.

Answer 2

well youve said shes crazy and she might steal your seed and shell go crasy, and you dont really even like her...oh and no contraceptives

i know a girl just like this.....the exact type...and as outrageous as they come..i know man...i stopped see this girl 2 days ago after a year...finally!

i stuck around myself cos i was addicted to the sex even and she did the same things you describe.


if you want to end it, do it, always remember there are better fish out there in the sea man, girls just as good in sex but not as crazy or dodgy.

it will have to come to an end sometime, when you know its not really gonna go anywhere.

think about this....your wasting time on a girl you dont realy like when you can go find someelse a lot better.

Answer 3

You know how people scream about a woman's body, woman's choice? Well your body is YOUR choice. If you want to slap a condom on, hell if you want to wrap your pecker in a banana peel--it's YOUR perogative. She cannot tell you what you can and cannot do with it... however, I'm concerned for you. You seem to be lacking this vital thing called a spine. I suggest running to your nearest medical center and growing one so that you can firmly plant your feet down and proclaim 'I will NOT be your baby daddy! Repeat after me; I will NOT be your baby daddy!' and muster enough conviction to stick to it.

Answer 4

Defintily get out of the realationship as soon as possible. You might want to tell some people who are close to you of the situation incase she does go psycho on you. There are always restraining orders... good luck

Answer 5

Maybe she will go seduce someone else, get pregnant and say it is yours!! If you are not particularly attracted to her- stay out her pants!! she may be a feeling in the mood- quit using each other- be a man and dump her-don't date wackos-;[ D

Answer 6

It is not you that is being selfish, but her. By not letting you use contraceptives she is jepordising both your future and the future of a potential unborn child. Cut her loose she sounds like a loony!

Answer 7

Well, run while you still can. A woman can really be cunning as hell and before you know it she's got you trapped in her web. Go, dude! Run away ...

Answer 8

youre not selfish, youre thinking about both of your futures an it doesnt seem like you need to be having a baby anytime soon

Answer 9

Run dude! RUN FAR AWAY! For all you know she's bangin' some other dude w/o protection and she's gonna claim it as your own! RUN!

Answer 10

Leave her. Go find a real, honest, trusting woman.