my son has had a silly falling out with my family ,now he is getting engaged and they are not linvited,what do i tell my family
2006-10-17 03:13:07 · 6 answers · asked by sue c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not your place to tell them why they are not invited, I would suggest that if your son is going to be this way and he is old enough / mature enough to take on the responsibility of getting married, then he needs to be a man and before the invitations go out that he / himself needs to call the family / write them a letter or something explaining why HE is NOT inviting them to the wedding. You are probably going to get some grief from it, but simply tell your family that as much as it hurts you it is not your wedding and it was not your decision. Don't let your son make you choose sides....you can have your cake and eat it to in this situation.
2006-10-17 03:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hope no offense is taken here, but... you do nothing. It's not your place.
Your son is a grown man. It's his and his future wife's decision to invite or not invite people. If they had a falling out, the family will probably know why they aren't invited. If not, they'll get the message ... which is probably your son's intention anyway.
If they ask you, the best position for you to hold to stay on everyone's good side is to pleed ignorance. Just say, "Sorry I don't know. I guess they're having a smaller wedding."
2006-10-17 03:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by TrendChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not silly to him, respect that. Why should he have to invite a bunch of people he does not like to what would otherwise be a fun occassion. Just because someone is a relative does not mean you should have to put up with them anymore than you would put up with someone else that you fell out with. Tell the family nothing it is not their business what he does with his own life.
2006-10-17 16:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by auntynoall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him first, and try to change his mind, or speak with his fiance end see if she can sway him. as a last resort tell him that you will be forced to explain to your family that he is being petty and childish if he does not stop being petty and childish.
you cant make him invite them, but I would under no circumstances make excuses for him.
2006-10-17 03:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the truth! That always works for me.
2006-10-17 03:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your son explain to him its important to have family there....if he wont listen..explain to family he wants it small and private...good luck
2006-10-17 03:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by little_outlaw_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋