Do you think he will leave?

Question

I met the man I love because he's married to my cheerleading coach. She's a really nice lady and all but as he says she doesn't quite give him what he really needs. Now I just found out that I'm pregnant but I'm not sure how to tell him and when I do tell him do you think he will leave her and marry me so we can raise our baby and be a happy little family?.....By the time I have the baby I'll be graduated so needing to attend school to get my diploma shouldn't be an issue,
RIGHT?

Answer 1

i missed you karen

umm, lets see i think your cheerleading career is over, once yer thighs and a s s start spreading due to the pregnancy, the crotch watching fest isnt nearly as interesting

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Answer 2

1. You should have never mess with a man that's already in a relationship, but that's water under the bridge
2. Do you really want him, he cheated on her so you will be done that same way
3. Focus on yourself and your child, I've seen your situation one too many times
4. GET YOUR DEGREE
5. Stay in School don't tell anyone who the dad is it will cause friction in your situation.
6. Learn to love yourself and your child, if you date again just make sure he is not attach like this situation
7. Be ready for what ever it is he says when you tell him, he may say some mean things
8. I doubt if this will have a happy ending so be prepared and put him on Child Support right when the child is born, don't wait

Once you become a mother you will need to look at things more Responsible

Keep your head up and all things will work out, if you and him don't make it, it's not the end of the world

Answer 3

I think you have yourself a pickle of a problem. We don't know your age of course, if you are under the age of 18, depending on where you live, get this guy on rape charges.

Second, he's simply using you. Unfortunately, it's too late for you already, considering you have a baby on the way.

It is your obligation to tell him & his wife. He'll tell you or his wife that he has a "problem" and attempt to get it fixed, which he won't.

Since you seem to be so fixed on the baby, realize that the baby is going to cost you an arm and a leg. There are adoptive services out there for you to put your baby into the arms of a couple who cannot have children.

You have so much going on in your life, having not yet graduated from high school. It's your choice. Either way, ditch this creep, tell his wife, and stay away from him, period.

Answer 4

Girl, you have to wake up and forget the marriage cr@p at such a young age. Go out and fool around, party, travel or whatever and don't get yourself imprisoned in a house with a baby. If you settle down so early you'll end up a miserable 35-40 year old woman whinning about the stuff you lost in your youth.

Just let the man with his wife and lose the child (immoral as it may sound, you will be doing yourself a favor)

Answer 5

OMG where to start.....
1 I believe that is is against the law assuming you are in high school and under the age of 18 that is a BIG no no
2 All men that cheat say their wife doesn't give them what they need or they ***** to much or they don't understand them I could go on and on
3 Just go up and tell him I'm sure he's going to be "really" happy
4 NO he will not leave her for you, you are just a toy and now that your pregnant the fun has just run out
Good luck to you your gonna need it!

Answer 6

Oh good heavens you are in a tight spot. First, the fact that he is married and willing to fool around on his wife should tell you a whole lot about him. If he did it to her, he will do it to you. Do you think you will ever really be able to trust him completely? What is it that he needed from her? Why didn't they do what most couples do and try to work it out first? Then if it didn't work out then he could turn to someone else-after divorce. You have to understand that there is a chance that he will realize that he is now the father of a child of an underage (?) girl. There is a chance he will deny it and push you out of his life. This will leave you alone to raise this child. I don't particularly see him leaving her and marrying you and living happily ever after. I think that is a nice dream and it is great to have hope but you need to be prepared for the reality of the situation. Your cheerleading coach is going to feel very betrayed by one of her "girls" and is going to be very hurt. She could really lash out at you because of all the feelings involved. She has every right to feel this way. I would try to stay as far away as possible from her.

As for him, he will have to know eventually. I would tell him as soon as possible. I have a feeling he will be completely shocked, I'm sure he didn't expect or plan for you to become pregnant. I just hope for your sake and the baby's sake that it just wasn't some fling for him. What about your parents? What do they have to say? Have you told them yet? Do they know about him?

I hope things work out the way you want them to but you need to have back up plans. If you plan to keep the baby, you will need to have an income to support yourself and the baby. To have a good income, you will need to look into college. Some community colleges have 2 year programs for nursing, x-ray, etc. (BTW don't do LPN, you can go 6 more months of school and come out making about $10 dollars extra on the hour) I would look into that so that you can support yourselves. I would be prepared to make him pay child support to you NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS.

Here is what I would do: Go into this expecting the worst situation possible. Be ready for him to leave you, deny it's his baby, deny you two had an affair, never speak to you again, never have anything to do with this baby. From there any good actions will seem like heaven. Like I said, I hope everything works out for you. Right now you need to look to the future for you and your baby. Plan for the two of you and if he wants to be included then fine but you need to take care of the two of you first. Don't depend on him to do the right thing because he hasn't done the right thing so far. I hope this helps and gives you a lot to think about. Please be careful, good luck.

Answer 7

First of all, you have no morals for messing around w/ a married man whether you're in love w/ him or not. Second, he cheated on his wife, what makes you think he won't do the same to you? Seriously, you need to think logically about this situation. And 9 times out of 10, married men don't leave their wives. A friend of mine went through the same thing, except she never got pregnant. You need to really think about what you got yourself into... good luck.

Answer 8

Honey, a man always make excuses to deal outside of their marriage. 9 times out of 10, he marriage is not so bad. You are just there for him when he wants to get away. I bet you won't leave her for you. Tell him that you are pregnant. I hope he won't go as far as denying that you ever was involved with each other. My answer comes from experience. My hubby did it to me. Now this other women and the child is left out because he's pulling every string to make things work at home. Whenever this other women attempts to contact him, he always ask me to answer the phone. Hope that your thing won't turn out a disaster. Honestly, you probably should begin pulling away from him. I don't want you to get hurt in the long run. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Its the same ol', same ol'.... Just how many movies do you need to see before you get the answer you want. I have NEVER seen where a guy leaves his wife for the "pregnant" girl on the side. I mention on the SIDE because thats what you are. You knew he was married upon getting into the relationship. I'm sorry I can't sugar coat the truth...

Answer 10

Have you ever herd of statutory rape. Your parents could file this and he could go to jail if you are under 18. If he cheated on his wife, what makes you think that he will be faithful to you. Once a cheated always a cheater. Just think when you start showing, he might start looking for someone like you currently look. He isn't worth it. Just have the baby and make him pay child support. You'd be much better off without a jerk like that.

Answer 11

If this man who you "love" felt the same way about you he would have left his wife before getting involved with you. Unfortunately, you are going to learn very early in life the disappointment of being the "other woman" . The worst part is that you are bringing an innocent child into this world, the product of his infidelity. Good luck!