Born to be a loser?

Question

Well, I am a failure at most things. It takes more motivation than I can muster up just to make it to work and school everyday. I've screwed up in school so much, and probably won't be able to finish anytime this century. I never follow through with anything and never finish tasks, and it seems like nothing is ever going to change. I will never be like a normal person because I have so many illnesses like bipolar, ADD, OCD, anxiety disorder. Why do people act like I can do anything any normal person can do? Shouldn't I just accept the fact that I will be less than other people? Sure I can, or could act differently and be successful. But in reality I'm not going to. I'm just born to be a failure and a loser. I think I should just accept my lower place in the world as a underacheiver.

Answer 1

No one is born to be a loser. I have all the problems you have (Bipolar, ADD, OCD...) and more I'm also Dyslexic and I have had it rough. I know what it's like to struggle through your work but it can be done. I am in two honors classes, and a college class, I work two jobs, I'm an FFA Officer, I raise a pig at the school barn, cauliflower in my back yard, I'm on four teams and some nights I'm lucky to get 5 hours of sleep. It's hard and sometimes I feel like giving up but nothing compares to the satsifaction I feel when I complete a hard day's work. Don't give up! Keep pushing through!

~ A friend

Answer 2

You don't really feel this way; I think it's just a cry for help.

You seem to be caught in a lul of depression (I'm BP as well), where you're having trouble itentify what's real and what you are feeling. I've been there - I know how debilitating these feelings can be.

What's important is that you take the appropriate steps to overcome them. I'm not sure how you're currently treating your BP, but you should consider something more drastic at this point, considering what you just wrote.

There are many resources available for people like us that you can find through a simple Google search. If you need some help finding Dr's and or support groups/therapists (send me an email).

BP is a very serious condition; it's very difficult to deal with on your own.

Good luck

Answer 3

Wow ... well I don't think you were born to be a failure and a loser. I think you were born with some extra challenges that many of us won't face, though. I sure do understand your thoughts that you should just give up and accept that you "will be less than other people." (I've suffered from depression too.)

The problem is that instead of trying to rise above your challenges, you've decided to let them defeat you. I know it's easier said than done, but it really is mind over matter. In other words, if you really put your mind and your heart into it, you can change and learn to follow through and finish tasks if you want to. You don't have to accept that just because this is the way you've lived your life until now, that this is the way you will always have to live your life. You do have the power to change despite everything. Again, I know it's easier said than done, but if you could somehow muster up the courage to motivate yourself and expect more from yourself and try to reach for a higher bar, then your life really will be brighter.

I hope that you're getting the right medication to help you deal with your life's challenges. If you're already on some medication, talk to your doctor because maybe the dose needs to be increased or maybe there is a different medication you could try if you're not getting results from what you're currently taking. The right medication, and support from your family and friends, are the tools you need to help you have a more positive and life-changing mindset.

Wish I could be there to help you more. Best of luck.

Answer 4

I Was Born A Loser

Answer 5

First thing you need to do is dump all the negative thoughts and speech. You keep telling yourself you're a loser - and that's the surest way of making it come TRUE. We believe the things wetell ourselves.

"Change your thoughts, and you change your world." - Norman Vincent Peale.

Love Jack

PS: I read your profile. Personally, I don't think studying psychology is a good thing if you have BP or whatever. You'll just keep diagnosing yourself with every illness under the sun, and you'll keep validating your feelings of loserness.

You said you're a "poet." What kind of poetry do you write? If it's all brooding and depressing and dark, then stop writing poetry, you're again validating your feelings as a loser. Do you listen to all kinds of sad sack negative music, too? If so, kill your Curt Cobain CDs, and listen to something uplifting.

You also said you're a "non-conformist" and "love" being different from others. Your question here suggests otherwise. You don't seem to be enjoying it very much at the moment. Why not try being a "conformist" for a while, and see what happens? Try it for 90 days, and if you don't like being a conformist, go back to being a non-conformist. Couldn't hurt, right? Luv Jack again

Answer 6

With all sincerity, i dont think you are a loser.losers are people who can't get up when they are down.Losers are people who refuse to fight when they needed to.Losers are people who have probably given up on life.Real losers are people who are already dead and buried six feet under the grave.But you are not a loser because you are still alive and can get up from your fall.Accepting your present situation is not actually the best way to look at life.Inspite of the seeming odds against you at the moment,realise your potentials.dont let no one fool you,you can do something unique others can never do.Everyone is born with talents including you.Find out what it is and stop using others as a yardstick for your success.slow and steady you'll make it,only let vision,persistency,patience blaze your trail.cheers

Answer 7

Being an underachiever is a choice. Being a loser is a choice.
Being a failure is a choice.
Although the problems you have bi polar ADD OCD are not choices. The way you live your life is. Who you want to be is a choice.
If you choose to accept yourself as a loser...that's how you will feel. Not going to tell you that all you have to do is wave a magic wand and you'll somehow change your mind about yourself.

But you can every second of every day choose something different. You can choose to work on getting better. You can choose to follow through. You can choose to do better in school.
You can choose to look at yourself and see all the triumphs and victories in your life....they are there. All these afflictions you think you have holding you back. They will if you choose to believe it.
choose something different.

Answer 8

We all have problems. I have ADHD and suffer from procrastination. U list quite a few and i can't imagine what it's like dealing with those at the same time. Stress will be your worst enemy besides your own self image. Reading and staying busy should help u, along with a few close friends that u can trust and rely on. Whenever your feeling down and out, the best thing to remember is there's no way left to go but UP.

Answer 9

As long as you have the drive, you CAN acheive anything.

You mention a laundry list of illnesses. That is one heck of a combination. If you haven't already, you should be getting an official diagnosis, and appropriate treatments. An added benefit of getting your illnesses diagnosed, is getting more time to do tests, etc.

I have a buddy that had some similar issues, and he found that jogging really helped him out. Years and years or medications were trumped by something as simple as exercise. He also struggled with school and work..... but he had a good support system, and lots of people were involved in helping him finish school.

Also, I don't know what NASA scientists you are hanging around, but if anyone treats you as inferior, they are sure to have their own issues. On the outside, they may seem to have everything, but on the inside, they probably struggle a bit too. You don't exactly have to yell at them over it, but just be wary of how their behavior makes you feel.

Keep your chin up.... I wish you the best.

Answer 10

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