I have 3 daughters,ages 7,4 and 3.I read how parents advice other parents not to leave their kids alone,because of strangers.Well,people,I have to go out and leave the kids alone at home and I think a simple lock on the door will be effective enouth and a lot cheaper than a baby-sitter every time I need to go out.Why don't you just buy locks for your doors and stop living like in a cave where everyone(criminals too) can enter?
2006-10-17 02:44:11 · 43 answers · asked by great_mom 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Too much responsibility for daughters aged 7 and under.
2006-10-17 02:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by Jack430 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you start being an adult and become a protective parent to your child?
Locks? B.S. Not only locks are extremly easy, that I learned how to pick them at age 8, window's can be bashed in and doors can be broken down.
Alarms? Alarms can be dismembered.
Fires? Wow, don't be surprised if a fire caught in the house as the children where sleeping or messing around (as children do) and they couldn't get out due to your "locks" (what is the point of a lock if they know how to get out and run the streets with out your supervision).
What you are doing is neglectful and dangerous. No 7 year old knows how to properly take are of a 4 and 3 year old.
If you need to go out, you can afford 1 day a week for a babysitter. I get paid $21 once a week for 3 hours for two girls, 7 and 11. Don't give me that "expensive" b.s. You don't need to be out every night.
You spread your legs and decided to have three children and now it is time to be a parent.
2006-10-17 17:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd worry more about an emergency and your older child being able to handle it! She can't make adult decisions to care for two toddlers! I know I have struggles caring for my three kids when things get crazy, why would you ask a child to do that? Get a family member to come over or hire a teenager for 1/2 the cost of an adult babysitter.
How long do you leave them for and for what reasons? To party? Run to the store? Go to work? Just pay a sitter or take your kids with you like the rest of us do.
Maybe you should find out if it's illegal where you live, since you don't seem to worry about their safety, worry about the consequences you may face. Don't you see the news where kids were left alone and all died in a house fire? I pray you never have to face a tragedy to see it would have been worth it to just pay someone to take care of your children.
2006-10-17 02:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by mommaof4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is against the law for starters and a 7 yr old is not mature enough to do that- be responsible- they will grow up in time-in the mean time be the parent- even with a lock kids go out- and answer the door - and try to cook- and catch things on fire- and fall down and climb on dressers- If they are too much for you turn them over to someone who will take care of them and don't have anymore!! You need some tough love-D
2006-10-17 03:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would probably be ok if your kids were 11, 8 & 7. You shouldn't expect your 7 yr old to babysit your 3 & 4 year old. You wouldn't pay any other 7 year old to watch your kids would you? I do leave my kids at home sometimes, but they are 14 & 10. Locking your doors is one good thing, but I would be more worried about what could happen to the kids inside and not so worried about a stranger coming and getting them. What about accidents? What if they get hungry and your 7 year old decides to cook something? I hope your neighbors report you to child protective services.
2006-10-17 02:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're children are not old enough to know what to do in case of an emergency. Even if you try to tell them what to do, you can't expect a 7 year old to remember when something happens. Also, you never know what could happen and you just can't lay that responsibility on a young child. Although I'm sure the 7 year old is a big help to you around home, he or she is not old enough to care for the 3 and 4 year old alone and that is too much to expect from him or her. I understand that it is hard, especially if you are a single parent, but is there a neighbor or relative who could help you out once in a while if you need to run out for a bit?
2006-10-17 02:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by Julie F 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is way too much responsibilty for young children. and more things than just a stranger entering can happen, especially with children so young who don't know any better, and they will never know because there isnt an adult around to teach them any better. you'll have to lock up all the cupboards with your cleaning supplies in them so that they dont accidentally ingest somthing that could potentially harm them. and what would they eat? a seven year old cant use a stove or boil water to make anything, so u would have to order food for them to eat, unless you expect them to snack all day. and why do u have to go out? do u work? if thats the case, then ur 7 year old should b in school while u work. if thats not the case you need to be spending time with your children instead of leaving them to fend for themselves while u r out having fun. thats not very motherly, and the entire idea of leaving 3 very young children home alone isnt motherly either. its completely selfish of you.
2006-10-17 03:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are crazy! A 7 year old is not near old enough to care for two other kids and keep the house safe. And the sad truth is that criminals are out there and will do anything these days, not to mention what those girls might do while you are away. There is a reason that children under 12 aren't to stay home alone!!!! It seems to me that you are not ready for kids and you need to be jailed for doing for such a thing. Your kids need to be with a family who will look out for their best interest, not going out to party or just to go out. You are a mom for God's sake!!!! Your wild party days should be out the window. Grow up. You should be more concerned for your kids. Have a nice life, Loser.
2006-10-17 05:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can well imagine the places that you "have to go" to.
Supervision isn't just about keeping kids safe from intruders. Would your 7 year old daughter know what to do if your 3 year old broke into your illegal drug supply? Would she know to dial 911? What if your 4 year old began choking on the dog food she probably gets into all the time because, in your haste to "go out" you neglected to stop at the store and purchase healthy, nutritious snacks for your children? Would your 7 year old know what to do then, hmmm?
Why don't you do your children and yourself a favor today, as soon as you wake up from your stupor: call social services and give the kids up. You'll all be a lot better off.
2006-10-17 02:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do you know that it is illegal for you to leave children that young at home alone?. Do you actually think that at 7, 4, and 3 years old that these children have the ability to act or react to adult situations? What is so important in your life that you HAVE to endanger the lives of your children without giving them proper supervision.....like a babysitter, a grandparent, a neighbor for god's sake. Could you live with yourself if something was to happen to them while you were out? This is bordering on child abuse and abandonment. You need to re-think your situation and the safety of your kids.
2006-10-17 02:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? Where do you have to go that is so important that you cannot take your children with you? What state do you live in anyway? You think a simple lock on the door is fine? What about them starting a fire? What about them growing up and realizing what kind of parent you are.
Is this a joke or are you really that stupid? Your like my sorry neighbor.... Selfish........
2006-10-17 04:50:33 · answer #11 · answered by Jess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋