I've been a nice guy all my life...I just recently got out of a relationship with a girl who said she liked "nice guys" but then became infatuated with another man who was "spontaneous". I met another girl who checked out my sign(Leo) and saw all the things a leo had to offer. she seemed interested but after meeting was like I'm nothing like my sign. I'm not spontaneous, or agressive, or dominant. I'm more mellow and chill than anything else. I have my hobbies, and my own opinions...big time. Thing is I'm a little shy as well especially with new people. What can I do to make myself more...."bad boyish"....II mean I can flirt a bit, but I try to be respectful. Still, what can I do to make myself more....interesting I guess, instead of the boring, nice, "best friend" type of guy?
2006-10-17 02:38:28 · 6 answers · asked by ME2010 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks eveybody, I'm getting great answers!! But I see that theres a problem with being a pushover, in a relationship and otherwise, how can I fix that problem as well?
2006-10-17 16:30:20 · update #1
Experienced the same thing bro......
Growing up, I made friends with girls. They'd call and cry about how their bf mistreated them, and they wished they could only find a nice guy. So, like yourself, I thought this is what women wanted, a nice guy who was thoughtful, romantic, etc. After watching girl after girl say "but you're my friend", I had to make a change.
I'll admit, the bad boy attitude worked quite well for me. In retrospect, I think a combination of the two is more healthy. I don't think you're problem is being nice, it's being a pushover......at least that was my problem. I wanted to be nice and make the girl happy, to the point I'd give up my own wants and desires to do so. Girls do not like pushovers. A little sweet, and a little thoughtful go a long way. Don't over do it.
Being yourself is important, but you've got to be uninhibited enough to let yourself out. Quit caring what people think and start acting accordingly. You want to improve your attractiveness? It starts with confidence. Confidence is 70% of the battle.
2006-10-17 03:15:29 · answer #1 · answered by ezenbrowntown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its easy wait for it!...
You have to learn something about women. No matter how much they say they like "nice guys" they don't. No matter how many times their mothers say, you should date that "nice boy" down the street that wears the sweater vests, they won't.
The reason they don't want to be treated nice by a nice guy is because they know THEY WILL NEVER DESERVE IT! No chick, with exception of maybe my girlfriend, is ever going to deserve being treated like anything other than a piece of regurgitated mucus (hauck and spit). Seriously though, they are manipulative, scheming, materialistic, dishonest, and totally unable to be faithful.
Now that you have the premise of the "female condition" you can learn what it takes to get them to do whatever you want. That bad-boy image is so totally 80's. The leather jacket and poofy hair doesn't work. What you need to do is act the nice guy and be the freak. When you first meet them, be respectful, nice and everything. This will make them think..."Hmm, I can take this loser for a ride and get some new sweaters and pony-tail holders before I make him think he's gonna get some then dump him". But when they don't deliver, i.e. don't go down on you in a theatre, send them a picture of some other chick doing it.
Now you will ask yourself, "How do I get the other chick to do that?"
Simple, try telling her that you are a producer for a porn movie and its a try out. You will find that most of the girls on porn movies are just steamy little hoes that live next door. They would do it for a camera, but there's no way in hell they'll do it for a guy who would respect them after that.
Those are just a few of the ways to get what you want. For more you'll have to experiment. Just get mean and understand the demons you are dealing with.
2006-10-17 09:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by letum_ante_dedecus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE YOURSELF AT ALL TIMES!! If a girl expects you to change.. then they aren't worth it.. the worst thing to go through in life is having to constantly put on an act, being someone your not.. always be urself. Be the 'nice' guy!! Plenty of girls dig that!! Girls whoa re looking for long-term relationships want and need a "best friend" type of guy. Coz after all, your spouse will be your 'best friend". I one heard that.. the first 2-3 years of marriage, there is love.. after that it's tolerance and mutual respect. The spontaneity wears off.. that's why most marriages end after 2-3 years. I just reckon that, you shouldn't change who you are.. becuase one day.. you will get tired of it... and want to be comfortable and just be yourself.. but it might be too late then.. everyone will know you as the "punk" and you can't be the person you really are then.. ---> mental breakdown. Stay true to yourself! =D
2006-10-17 09:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by tinikk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay true to yourself, don't chnage your ways for nobody! I am the same way and I've finally found the right person for me. She is a dime + 99, men sweat her all the time. You'll find someone who's not into all that bad boy stuff, b/c when you think of it, bad boys eventually get caught doing bad things and get locked away and then another man is being with that girl. Just remain true to yourself, the right one will come, believe me.
2006-10-17 09:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this requires alot of time and practice...u should stop worrying what women think of u when u are talking to them but dun go so far as to call them bad names or make fun of something they hate being made fun of (eg. u r fat) try teasing them more and lean back instead of foward. starting the conversation can be intimidating i admit but once the conversation has started it is rather easy to continue it
2006-10-17 09:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be a bad boy
2006-10-17 09:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋