what would you do??

Question

he gave out his # to someone he didn't know,it turned out to be me,I was just trying to see if he was faithful to me.I jsut want to know what you would do?We have been seeing each other for almost 2 months,I trusted him up to this point,well up until last week he called and said he was going out to dinner with his mom and dad and he would be leaving his cell phone at home,now why would he do that?So that got my mind to turning,therefor I had a screen name that he didn't know about,I haven't used it in at least a year,so I decided I would see just what he would do if the situation arose that he got an instant message from a female,her name was Jessica,they talked for a few minutes,lets just say it wasn't too dirty,and she asked him for his #,at first he didn't want to give it to her,but she persuaded him to,and he did.That was enough for me,he never agreed to anything,just wanted Jessica to call him,therefore..in this situation what would you do..dump him? or not..please let me know..

Answer 1

Tell him what you did and how he lost your trust. Tell him you cant be with a man who isnt strong enough to say NO when the temptation is in his face. Give yourself some time away from him,,,if he proves to you that you can trust him,,maybe you can work things out. If you dont feel like you can ever trust him again then move on and find someone else.

Answer 2

You shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust it won't work. You'll spend all your time wondering and worrying about where he is and what he's doing. Do you want to spend your days like that? I know I wouldn't want to. He didn't really do anything wrong but say he was in a different situation and he was actually out with a "friend" and that friend persuaded him to go to bed together it could happen if he is that easily convinced to give out his #. You know that's how it starts. He wasn't thinking of you when he was talking to her or giving out his #. You wouldn't do that to him so he shouldn't do that to you. Treat others as you would want to be treated in return. The way I see it you have three choices tell him what you did and talk about it. Let him know his boundries what you think is okay and what's not okay and how it makes you feel. Some people have different oppinions about what's cheating and what's not cheating. Set some boundries. Or you can not say anything and just watch him see how far he will go and then you'll really know. Or just let him go, don't give him a chance to take it that far and actually hurt you. But you'll never know what could have been. I myself would pick the first choice but I am not you all I can do is give you my opinion your gonna do what you want no matter what anyone say's. From my past experiances it's best to talk about it and let eachother know were you stand on things communication is always #1 but whatever you do don't give him the chance to cheat on you it will leave a mark for life and it's one thing I know I wouldn't wish anyone to have to go through. Just know that whatever you deside your the one who has to live with the disition so make it a good one and make it count.

Answer 3

You are a very unkind person. That is just screwed up. Would you like it if he played mind games with you like that? He may have just gave you the number so that you would leave him alone. My used to make me give my number to people, they never called, which was good, but it may have been nothing. If anything he shouldn't trust you. if I was you, I would tell him the truth. It is just wrong to do that to someone. And here I was starting to believe that men were the only ones who played mind games anymore. Get a life, and stop being a *****. He may just have told you he was leaving his phone home so that you wouldn't call him at an inappropriate time. A text message isn't a call. It is quiet. Get a life would you?

Answer 4

Well dimples1221, you put yourself into a horrible position.

The ancient wisdom holds true, especially here...

"If you go looking for something, you will find it." And you found it. What would I do? Well if you dump him, he'll say you were snooping, or playing head games. Do you want that being spread around? If you don't dump him, you'll eventually find out he's given his number out to several young ladies.

Try this one, tell him this chick you met last week said she met this dude online and showed you the number. When he says he didn't give it out, tell him, that since his security is broken and someone else is divvying out his number you can no longer keep a total grasp on his conversations and therefore can no longer be with him.

Better yet, go out and sleep with 200 guys and make a video and mail it to him.

Eat it Dumpllin :)

Answer 5

I was in a very similar situation last week. My boyfriend on nearly a year (its a long distance relationship) was ignoring my calls etc so I set up a dud ID found him in chat and found out a few things i wish i didnt know but its better I did. Your lucky ur guy only gave a number. I found out mine didnt love me and i was just a use and a few other things. Then i confessed it was me and ended it. No im not saying you should end it but I would confront him with it. You did pursuade him into giving the number which means yes he did hesitate at first and then reluctantly gave it to you so thats in his favour. Anyway hope it goes well and u dont get ur heart broken cause try me ive had mine broken and it hurts like hell.

Answer 6

You should dump him. You haven't been seeing each other long, so it won't hurt as much as if you stay with him and a couple of years down the line you find out he has chaated. That would hurt a lot worse. I highly doubt he will be faithful, so you need to think about yourself in a time like this. You don't want your heart broken

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you already know the answer. If you were checking up on him then you already don't trust him. Do you really want to be with someone long term that you don't trust. He's gotta go. there are so many others out there. Trust me there is one that is right for you. Good luck.

Answer 8

well thats kinda hard. if it were me I wouldnt worry too much rite now, dont call him and keep talking to him on the other screen name and see the type of things he says.

But my other advise would be that ' if you cant trust him then maybe you two shouldnt be together unless you really want to be with him. If you do then just follow the first advise.

Answer 9

you did a low down thing by lying to get your proof, and you know that. If you can't trust him (and if you did you would not have been on line as someone else to trick him) get rid of him, besides you will either have to tell him you know (and how you got that info) or you will have to live with the knowledge on your heart, either way I do not see anyway for this to end well.

Answer 10

You are sneaky...that's not a good thing. If you don't trust him, then just admit to yourself that you don't. You have no reason to "test" him the way that you did. Doing so was immature and uncalled for. I hope he finds out that you did this and dumps your a$$.