I am a straight man, and I knew this guy 2 years ago. We've been closest friend until now, when he suddenly shows up as a gay. And he said he loves me. This thing is totally shock to me and just knock me down.
I don't know what to do. I don't feeling offence to gays or lesbians in general, but...I am straight and of course can't accept this. But feel really sad and don't know how to treat him from now on, bcoz we've been best friend and helped each other a lot.
What should I do? need answers from both boys, girls, and gays, lesbians as well. thx
2006-10-17 02:25:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly you just need to tell him straight up that you want to be friends and friends only. if you sugar coat it with him then he is gonna think that maybe he might have a chance one day or something. just be honest and straight-forward and if he was ever a true friend he would understand.
2006-10-17 02:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by William B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me earlier this year when my best friend told me she was a lesbian. I found some gay/lesbian/bi groups in town and offered to go with her to activities. I went to a gay bar with her a number of times. I was supportive without needing to get involved sexually with her.
I would joke around and tell her that I wish I was gay but I like the "things" the girls are missing.
If he is really your friend he will understand and respect your position as much as you understand and respect his.
2006-10-17 02:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should report this to your local police, after you talk to your parents, you are a minor and rape is rape, to protect yourself and make a case, suppose you become pregnant, You are too young to let things get out of hand, you have a whole like ahead of you. Booze is not excuse, and I don't think he is much of a friend, he wants you to be his sex toy. Don't believe he has much respect for you. Take a few self defence classes, In your last situation he would be easy to take down, a swift kick to the testicals would have done the trick and you would have time to unlock the door a get to safety REPORT THIS NOW.
2016-05-22 08:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all.. you NEED to let him know how you feel! let him know that you guys are friends and that you are straight and you cant think of him more then a friend. If he cant accept that anwser then you need to find a new friend. Keep the friendship going see how it turns out :) if it gets TO weird then maybe you can make new friends so you dont have to talk to him :)
2006-10-17 02:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by ZaNy_kiDd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A close friend ? Well tell him that you are not gay but you would still like to remain friends and perhaps you can get to understand him a bit better.If he is not willing to respect your wishes then consider him an ex friend -it's his loss
2006-10-17 02:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Aubrey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him u like him as a friend but, u don't want 2 go out with him & u still care about how he feels & u don't want 2 lose his friendship.
2006-10-17 02:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by lakersfan_4life1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that good friend are hard to find, and that you would like for him to be your friend, but you do not want him to cross the line. Say, you know that I do not go that way, and if you keep, pushing me, I am going to have to stop being you friend. Say what you do with your life, is your business, but do not include me in it!
2006-10-17 02:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with him and tell him that you want to remain friends, but anything in the romantic area is out.
2006-10-17 02:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to accept for sure. Tell him how u feel and leave him. Cause u'll awkward even if can accept him as a friend.
2006-10-17 02:36:50 · answer #9 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad. people can't make you feel love for them. you are not obligated. listen to yourself. whether it's a straight or gay relationship, no one has the prerogative to control who you like. not even your best friend.
2006-10-17 02:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by nomorepblm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋