Who controls our kids?

Question

Why in the hell do parents get locked up for disciplining their kids, (and I don't mean child abuse), but locked up if u don't control them 2? The state will lock YOU up if you don't pick them up if they get arrested, won't even let them stay overnight just for the experience?? I finally told mine we'll go TOGETHER if he ever gets wrong!! What hapened to experience as the teacher?

Answer 1

I agree with you 100 percent. When you don't need help they will come in and take you kids. When you do need help they look the other way. I have two cases for you:
1) My mother friend had a 15 years old that was on drugs and she went to the law for help because the child ran away. They told her that she has to wait week to report her as a run away. So my mother took a day off of work to find her and she did. They went to DSS to ask for help to put the child in a dry out center. They wouldn't help her because she didn't have no money and she wasn't a foster child. So, she was about to sign her child in foster care, they told her if she was to do that she has to pay DSS to keep her child. (asking for help & getting turn away)
2) In the news a parent was living in a homeless shelter with her 14 years old son, so DSS took him away and put him in foster care without the mother knowing. The child died because when the took him they didn't took his medication. They took him just because he was in a shelter. She was a good mother that was having a hard time. Her son was still in school while they were in the shelter, eating, and so forth.
With America the way it is now, they put their nose in the wrong place all the time.
exp.My kid one day act up in the store and I pop her one good time. A woman looked at me like I was crazy. I asked her was their a problem and was she going to call the cops, she walk off. Now, if I would have let my child run wild trough the store, I was a bad parent. I guess I am still a bad parent for stopping her before she ran through the store,too.
I guess you be damn if you do & damn if you don't!

Answer 2

A parent is the first teacher and life skills coach your child will have.It is important to set out expectations for behaviour at an early age.There should also be accountability and consequences that are consistent.Some parents spend the early years trying to be their child's friend and when the child reaches the teen years they decide to be a parent and not a pal. Some kids will get into mischief regardless of your parenting skills. It seems as a whole that "society" cannot decide at what age a child is accountable for his behaviour .Personally my children were taught at an early age with rights come responsibilities.The judicial system appears to want to make the parent responsible for every action of their child with an almost no blame clause for the young offender.I never misled my children to think it was ok to skip school,shoplift,to commit vandalism,to bully,etc. Children,even young children, know right from wrong.If they do something wrong they should be held accountable.If we don't send this message at anearly age when is the appropriate time?THe courts should not punish parents who are trying to do their best.

Answer 3

Aliens control our kids. We know this is true because surely they didn't turn out that way because of us.
It isn't the cops job to teach your kids anything. One youngster was kept overnight as a lesson and he was found dead the next morning. Needless to say the **** hit the fan. you can get folks who are trained to scare the crap out of kids to step in if you need them to.
Parents are the best barometer for their kids, you see them everyday, if a child is getting out of control then get help if it's something you can't handle. There are a lot of reasons kids go truly bad, not all of them are the parents fault, but, big but, here, I have met a lot of parents who have kids that are out of control and I can clearly see why. We do know the difference between abuse and discipline and it's time we stopped pretending otherwise. It starts with the parents, you have kids, get responsible.

Answer 4

The government let the DCF take control and tell kids in school that if your parents spank you they can go to jail. Dcf allows no accountability for children it is the parents they want to go after. It makes me sick because they want us to raise worthless brats. You know the kind that do the "physco analytical gobbeldy ****" that if you spank your kids they will grow up to hate you and learn abuse is okay . BULLCRAP , kids learn disipline from a good old fashioned spanking. When parents were allowed to spank less teenagers were in prison and less were talking back in public. Yes there is such a thing as a spanking and not being abusive. The whole world is so concerned with being P. C. We have forgotten to disipline our kids.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. If the kids is 15 yrs, they should know the difference between right and wrong and they should have to deal with the consequences of their actions. I don't believe a parent should be held liable for a kids actions like some are.

Answer 6

I feel that the teacher only plays a small part in disciplining our kids. Most of the time, it's the parent's job.

Answer 7

In the US, in 2006, in most households, other kids, television and the advertising media control and program ones kids. Parents and churches have only a peripheral role. And that's the truth.

Answer 8

you go mama bout time someone believes in diciplen!!! I love my children but i won't raise worthless brats. I'll alway be there for my children whenever they need me until i see that they are abusing my help. as hard as it is they are going to have to make mistakes and learn from them

Answer 9

I've never heard of that. My mom let my brother sit in jail when he got arrested and they didn't do anything to her.

Answer 10

Experience is no longer tax free.