I am an 22 years old smart, slim, tall, young guy working as a waiter in the london city my job is such that i do communicate a lot with the people but its just that i can't talk to a beautiful girl in such way that i can get her i bed with mine pls help ----- sunny
2006-10-17 02:09:01 · 18 answers · asked by sunny0909 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, don't hit on one you are waiting on, that's for sure.
Just talk to her. So many people are intimidated by beauty that they never approach that girl and she is often available because of it.
2006-10-17 02:15:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be nervous! It's okay, they aren't going to bite you! They come across lots of other men who are nervous, stand out and be confident! I can't tell you how many guys were to nervous to get the courage to ask me out, let alone talk to me. There were quite a few that I really liked but they just couldn't take a hint that I was interested, so I they didn't get a shot and it was their own fault! Ladies want a man that can take charge! A manly man who can toss them around in the sack, and take the lead everywhere else! (But not in an arrogant, overbearing way!) Well that's how I am anyways. When you approach a beautiful girl, just focus on being the MAN that they will be interested in. Trust me, being nervous will not get you anywhere! While it can be adorable at times, it doesn't advertise for a lasting relationship.
2006-10-17 02:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Snow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tall and slim people seem to think more of their build than they deserve. Actual short people have fewer problems picking up beautiful women. or Non Beautiful women.
For one thing beauti is in the eye of the beholder and not necessary you.
You may be stuck on your self and not know it. relax, be loose, first don't try to pick up women based on their looks only. Remember while beautiful girls may have their choice pretty girls or less pretty girls may date you because they don't care that you work as a waiter or that you are a tall slim person who has a sexual problem with women.
Women are just not naturally attracted to tall slim waiters with no income, so you need to be a good date, a nice personality, and someone women would like to date to have fun with or a possible relationship. Fact the fact that being tall and slim does not put you ion a pedestal drawing thousands of beautiful women to you like flys. So pay attention those "other" really nice women who want company as bad as you do.
2006-10-17 02:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont only go for Sex, think of what your doing. You see this hot chick, and now you just want to get her into your bed. Ok, we all want sex, but you dont want to hurt this girl. What if she reads your intensions wrong and thinks you want a realationship? You have sex with her, then find she isnt what you thought, then dump her. Thats so painful! Think if that was you, if some girl wanted sex and thats all,and you were thinking long time realationship. Get to know this woman more, search your heart out for the real reasons youre going after her. Dont make a bad move. Be a honest guy, we woman cant get enough of that! When you are in love, Sex is the Best Ever!
2006-10-17 02:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by Such A Chicka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason you feel confident around girls you're not attracted to is because you frankly don't care what they say or think about you. Ever wonder why the jerks get the hotties? It's because they don't care what the hotties think of them. So here is the catch 22....if you really want to the hotties to like you, you've got to get to a place where it doesn't matter to you one way or the other. Then you'll have the confidence to talk to them and ask them all the dangerous questions. Good Luck!
2016-03-28 12:51:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 16:27:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a LOT of them in a casual friendly way, you will appear more relaxed. Also, have in mind that you are talking to them with no intentions (even though we all have them) and it will come across better.
Remember, beautiful women get hit on all the time, so they are more defensive, and your attention aint that special. You have to find a beautiful woman you see on a regular basis so you don't have to go for that all or nothing pick up line or convo.
2006-10-17 02:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep working on it, but you also need to get to know the person before jumping in the bed with them. You can get a beautiful girl with some type of STD and you'll end up kicking yourself in the end b/c you never took the time to get to know her.
2006-10-17 02:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone gets nervous talking to a pretty girl thats normal,
some just dont make it as apparent as others..
Just try to appear confident,because most women find confidence sexy.
First off try getting her interested in you and try to get her number, then worry about getting her into bed..
Sounds like you're putting the cart before the horse.
2006-10-17 02:19:32 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how guys over come this. sometimes I think in your situation the girl has to find you first. if a girl keeps talking to you or ask you to hang out do that when you get more comfortable let things progress.you probably will be more relaxed with her and probably could open up and ask her if the next time you meet it could be for a date or just show her physically that you like and care for her, maybe mroe than a friend. if you sit down on the sofa with her try to hold her hand,try cuddling,maybe if you hug her goodbye kiss her on the cheek. just don't over think it because then you'll get tense and you won't even really enjoy the time you are with her. To put it into your own hands if you don't have the patience to wait 4 a girl, jus then try your best to ask someone to HANG out, do something not romantic and maybe that'll take some pressure off of you. it's always good to get to know someone first before decideing you want to date them because a lot of people, including me, get infacuated and we think we know a person and like them and we truly don't. So hanging out first is a good idea and will probably be less stressful.I'm sure they're are girls out there dying to be with you or want to get to know you but they might think you're already taken or waiting on you to ask them out. Us girls are always thinking that if a guy likes us they'll come after us and show interest, but I know that there are shy guys and it might be scary for them because they feel they might be shot down. believe me if a girl does that, it might hurt but then you'll be like well if she doesn't even wanna hang out with me then she's probably not that nice to begin with.
I hope this helps. just try to stay confident with yourself and either wait for a girl to come up to you but asking someone to hang out, most likely they'll say yes, get to know them better and see if you even wanna take it further, take it slowly and see where it goes.
I wish you all the happiness and success;-)
Tricia
2006-10-17 02:26:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋