In India ... I guess its normal thing , but the problem is am not sure I am a woman's man . I do have crushes etc...but still ... There are instants when I feel totally different from females , I dont share their aspirations or interests .
Like shopping chit chatting with neigbhour ... I dont like all these things and I am pretty shy human being . I never feel positive when I am with a woman , like wud she accept me , can I be fit for her sorta stuffs ...
Its a mixture of superiority and inferiority complex .
Mostly when I meet females I tend to think about the nubile factor and often I feel she is not my match and that put off my relationship with her . Its all SKEWED really , dont you think ? I feel so numb as a social being ...
All I want is please gimme some advice on being a normal person ...who is friendly with girls etc...
Has anyone had their sorta feelings? I wud be glad if you cud with me ur thoughts...
2006-10-17 02:05:28 · 9 answers · asked by WaterGuy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone has their own life cycle. Some people say they met 'the one' when they were 12, others not until middle or old age.
Don't compromise. I think alot of people make this mistake. For example, most people plan their life this way: grow up + pick a career + go to univ + get married = person complete by age 25, now ready for rest of life.
I agree with the equation, except for the 'by 25' part. See, most people think the person they are seeing in univ must be 'the one' because they fit into the time frame.
Well, I don't know what the divorce rates are in India, but in Canada/US it is about 50%, simply because people treat the discovery of their significant other as part of a time-line.
Get to like being yourself, don't compromise, know exactly what you are looking for, it may be years, but well worth the wait.
Sounds like maybe you are ahead of girls your age in some way. Give it time.
Good luck.
2006-10-17 02:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by inprimeform 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok since u are new to this race of humans called women, i shall tell u something very important - women arent logical...well not very logical. ok let me address ur problems slowly...
u feel totally different from females and dont share their aspirations or interests...we are men not women, women like to shop while guys tend to go into a store and pick whatever they want and go home.
u never feel positive when u r with women, like she would accept u and all...well if u keep caring how she feels about u then u aint gonna get anywhere with women until u tried approaching about a million of them
when u meet females u feel she is not ur match...then dun even bother with her cos u are wasting ur time trying to get anywhere with her
lastly, if u feel numb as a social being, then go learn how to be funny...learn from people who are naturally good with women...
u nid to be completely brainwashed in order to start attracting women dude...i feel for u...gd luck
2006-10-17 09:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by rulewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are bound to feel different from a female and have different aspirations. You needto stop being so shy and don't care too much about what other people think. BY the way are you a Buddhist and can you please helptoanswer my question about the three universaltruths??
2006-10-17 09:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Katie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are stressing it too much! Just relax! Make friends. Just focus on being a friend instead of wondering if you can date them. Friendship may blossom into something more. You have to really get to know someone, before you can pick them apart to see if they are your match.
2006-10-17 09:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lucky Penny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to build up your self esteem, if you think negative thoughts you will never get a woman. Women pick up on things like that. When you talk to a lady be you and try to be a confident gentleman.
2006-10-17 09:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try hanging out with a girl or date her, then just enjoy her company? See where it takes you. Don't put pressure on yourself.
2006-10-17 10:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by politicalscienceandpsychology 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're being choosy.just be friendly and all will follow...don't expect too much from anyone..i can't judge you furthermore because i don't even know what you look like to act that way.be soaciable,and approachable in any way...just be yourself.
2006-10-17 09:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by Luisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guest its time for you to ask youre self if youre a man enouf to have a girl in your life.gud luck
2006-10-17 09:32:27 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur Zaldy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do give up there are girls in here that have not had any guys yet
2006-10-17 09:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋