2006-10-17 01:49:21 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
That actually depends on you. They haven't had much time to bond yet. Our daughter was 3 months old the first time he left. I found and unbreakable plastic picture frame. I put a picture of him in it and threw it in her toy bucket. Everytime she dragged toys out or played on the floor, his picture was right there with her. When she played with it, I'd always tell her "that's your Daddy" over and over and tell her "Daddy loves his girl very much". My friends thought I was nuts. However, when he finally did come home, she wasn't shocked or scared. She went right to him. Another thing I did was got a speaker phone. When he'd call home, I'd put it on speaker phone and he'd talk to her and tell her that he missed her. She got to recognize his voice. Obviously she couldn't talk, but she knew who was on the phone. We truly believe that all this helped them to stay bonded while he was away. She's never been afraid of him or denied him when he's returned home. As she got older, she'd want to sleep with one of his shirts and still does when he goes someplace.
So, no matter what anyone says, I believe alot of it is up to the parents. If you keep your husband in your sons life, then they'll be fine when your husband returns. Considering some of the reactions I've seen by kids, I know we did the right thing. Don't be afraid to have people call you weird if it's what's best for you and your family.
Good luck!!
2006-10-17 03:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby is too young to have any actual memories of your husband, but the bond between parent and child is very strong and your baby will somehow sense who your husband is. I don't have any children yet, but I've been with my fiance (who is in the army) for over 3 years so I have a lot of friends who are military wives. Some of the things they do that helps is have your husband record a few videos and voice recordings before he leaves that you can play for the baby, keeps some things around that smell like him, and if your husband has this option available, web cams are great! Hope this helps you a bit...good luck!
2006-10-17 02:02:51 · answer #2 · answered by ShaunaJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the navy for 8 and a half years as a single guy and I always saw that it was tough going for families when deployments came around. After a huge divorce rate signaled to the chain of command that something was wrong they finally realized when a mom is alone and have to act as the mom and dad while her husband is away, there is one way for the woman to act. BUT when the husband came back to take over as head of the house so to speak, THERE WAS A MAJOR ADJUSTMENT TO MAKE. Who was going to pay the bills, mow the lawn, take the trash out, clean the house, etc. couple had to reassign the duties of the household. That brings us to your baby; now you are mom and dad. When he returns home, THERE WILL BE A MAYOR ADJUSTMENT but he'll remember MOSTLY BY WATCH YOUR ACTIONS TO YOUR HUSBAND. He will get his cue from you... so lead. I know too that money is tight. Try to avoid arguing about money. Hope that helps.
2006-10-17 02:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by bumclown7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way to tell BUT You can do What I plan on doing... My husband gets deployed in Jan. And our 3rd baby is due in Feb... I've been taking loads of pictures of my husband, I'm gonna hang them up all over the house and have plenty on hand to keep in Eye sight of our new child.... I'm hoping that it will work... I have 2 older children that I did this with and it worked out great.... Good Luck to you and Your Family... Thank your husband for protecting our country...
2006-10-17 04:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by secret agent lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he will. You're talking about Daddy to him, show him pictures and tell him about Daddy so that when Daddy comes home, the baby will know. I think children are the most adaptable people in the world.
2006-10-17 02:00:08 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not sweetie, but you can help build a bond between them by having photos of your husband around and talking with the baby about his/her dad. Hopefully you have pictures of your baby with his/her dad, you can display these as well. If your husband has internet access with a videocam, he can then talk to your baby. Hopefully our military will provide those services to you. God bless you!! Tell your husband to be safe and I'll keep him and you in my prayers.
2006-10-17 01:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A baby always has strong connections with their parents.
I have a three year old and when he was that age I was gone all of the time, but he was always excited to see me.
2006-10-17 02:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by buffman316 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At three months the kid probably won't remember you if you take more than five minutes to get it's bottle. Don't frash yourself all three of you will be fine and will probably be a disgustingly happy family.
2006-10-17 07:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have kids but one of my NCO's does and his wife put up photos of him all over the house to remind their son of who his father was while we were in Iraq. I think his son was about a year older at the time but I think it was a good Idea.
2006-10-17 02:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by MP US Army 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very doubtful, but it won't take long once daddy is back to reasimulate with the little one...and with you... believe it or not...you too will change.... it's a given....
2006-10-17 02:29:48 · answer #10 · answered by john s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋