lately, i've been dealing with alot of things in my life. I've lost all the confidence i had in myself and can't stop crying. I used to think of myself as strong and able to do anything but now i feel so sad and started looking fat and dress badly and can't get over a guy i've been deeply in love with for 2 years that turned me down sharply. All my grades are declining and i feel so miserable like i'm never gonna do it again, i can't study anymore, i refuse to do so, i'm so so sad and really wanna be on top again so please help me get my confidence back...im trying but i feel i'll be sad forever..
2006-10-17 01:46:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
You won't be sad forever. It's ok to be down just don't keep letting it ruin your life. Seek professional help if it does. Hopefully soon. You will regret letting this guy ruin your schooling later.
2006-10-17 01:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by ♫ Insane_Princess ♪ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a really cool yellow card. That used to cheer me up.
You probably won't be sad forever, and it isn't bad to be sad once in a while. If you were never sad, you would never know when you are happy.
Forget the guy. You will meet plenty more.
If you are feeling very overwhelmed, you might also try seeing a therapist of some sort. If you dislike the one you meet, try another until you find one you like.
Here is another idea: try smiling some time when you don't feel like it. Even if you only do it a couple times, I think it will help.
Good luck!
2006-10-17 02:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by El Gringo 237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you know that only love can break a heart? It's true, and time will heal that. That is true, too. But your confidence is not gone, just rattled, shaken up a bit. This happens, as you know, all too often. What you need to do is connect with those things that you do well, and immerse yourself in them. What is that one thing that you excell in? Like to cook? Create a feast! Like to paint/draw/write? Create your opus magnus! Are you a caring and giving person? (I think you are because of what you're going through.) If so, Volunteer your time to those less fortunate. Any or all of those ideas will make the time fly and bring you in contact with more people like yourself. Is your soulmate out there in one of those places? Could be, but you'll never know if you don't get out there and take a look.
You will be okay, that I can see. Try to have a better today than the day that you had yesterday, okay? Bless you...
2006-10-17 01:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are common and effective ways to build self-confidence: 1) Exercise. Yup, believe it or not, regular exercise builds self-esteem and confidence. Setting exercise and fitness goals can contribute even more. 2) Establish Healthy Daily Habits. Set reasonble body maintenance and hygeine habits and maintain them. This includes good diet, regular grooming, dressing for confidence, dental care, etc. 3) Set Reasonable Goals. Make sure these goals are bite-size so you don't get overwhelmed or frusturated. You want to be able to succeed. Goals should be both fun and challenging. 4) Change Your Thoughts. Ask yourself if your concepts/thoughts about your self-esteem are really true. Are you really and truly as horrible looking as you tell yourself that you are? Are you really and truly that horrible at your job? Are any of your self-deprecating thoughts actually reasonable? I bet that they aren't. We tend to allow ourselves to think things that aren't realistic, and introspection can reveal that we are indulging in silly thoughts like this. I'm suggesting that you take a critical look at your thoughts and if you realize that you're sometimes thinking things that aren't real, well you can throw those thoughts out and decide to think more useful thoughts.
2016-05-22 08:21:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't be. Things change. You just have to wait and waiting can be really hard. I understand what you are going through. I felt like that in college and since at times. Everybody will have some time in their life like this. Exercise is actually really powerful, just walking, for clearing your mind and making you feel better because it releases endorphins in your brain, the chemicals that make you feel happy. Seriously try it, it can't hurt. If this feeling goes to long consider counseling and/or medication from your doctor. If you are taking classes counseling will be free. Take advantage of it. I hope this helps. If you ever want to as me a question just email me, or to chat. Good luck and feel better soon.
2006-10-17 01:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Rhianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for yourself is exercise. A fit body helps create a fit mind. It is obvious you are depressed and physical activity releases endorphins that combat depression. In addition to beating the depression, you will get back in physical shape and looking like your hot self again and other guys will start to notice and you will start to see that this loser that broke your heart is only a small fish is a big sea. As for refusing to study, you are the only one getting hurt by that. If you want sweet revenge, study harder, work out and get back in shape, dress like the beauty you are and when this guy realizes what he lost and tries to come back, then it will be you that can say "Get Lost" and smile while you are doing it. Get back on that horse!!!
2006-10-17 01:57:46 · answer #6 · answered by DDav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate in every way to you. I have had to cut off a 2 year relationship. Before i used to be this strong girl and doing well in my studies at uni and have alot of confidence in my self. However, later i became just like you, loosing all confidence, being an emotional eater, crying alot and even wanting to harm myself. Pray to God about it and be sure that deep down inside your heart you will find the strong and confident and beautiful girl. She is still there in you, Its just clouds covering her. Talk to your close friends and God because they all love you so much. My faith in God and the people around me really helped me to get back the confident and strong girl within me. I am still recovering especially in my grades. But beleive me, there is a beautiful man waiting to come along and meet you and he will be perfect for you if you be patient and trust in the Lord. God bless you.
2006-10-17 01:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like the things you've been dealing with lately (this guy for example) has shaken your confidence and your self esteem. You are allowing what happened with this guy to totally consume your life...you are acting as if it is the end of the world...it may feel like it, but it isn't. Stop giving this guy all your power...take it back and climb right back into the saddle of life and do what you need to do for you...There's no better revenge than to show him that you are still on top of your life...
2006-10-17 02:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Role play. i know many people will misunderstand this wrong and say things like "be yourself" but it's not what i'm talking about.
Among all those movies,novels,comics,tv shows (preferably running TV shows,to have a lasting effect)you watch,take a character that you look upto and want to be like. (take buffy the vampire slayer for example.i used to take angel as this solution and it worked real fine)
and when you come across something that needs you to be strong and confident about yourself;get into the shoes of the character you chose;and let him/her guide you.i'm sure this will help.
2006-10-17 01:58:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go out and take a good walk, if possible, find a isolated place and shout out, as loud as you can and trust me, you'll feel better after that. As for your relationship, I've a phrase for you, "The past is only an experience, it shouldn't be a burden" Hope you understand what i'm telling you.
2006-10-17 01:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋