last night was like the 4th time me and my gf have had sex, but im not sure what she likes, and everyone is telling me "ask her what she likes" well i have been doing that, like i will say what do u like or what feels good and she will say" i dont know" or i will say what can i do to make it better, and she is like, "i dont know" WTF!!!! is she seriously isnt helping out and in bed she just lays there, she has no idears of her own, and when i give her control she dosent know what to do , what can i do to make things better, or is this something that will get better over time???????????
2006-10-17 01:42:53 · 12 answers · asked by armorefelix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"Just lays there" seems to imply there isn't a lot of foreplay happening. Start out really slow, starting with the back of her neck, gently rubbing your hands up and down her sides, slowly. Be in no rush. You get her in the mood, I can't imagine any woman truly turned on just laying there, I think you are rushing into intercourse and not savoring the build up. You are cheating both of you out of the experience.
2006-10-17 01:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't know truly what makes her feel good. A woman's body is complex. May I suggest you get a book called...How to give her Absolute Pleasure:Totally Explicit Techniques Every Woman wants her man to know. My husband has this book. He bought off amazon before I ever knew him. He said he learned everything he knew from the book. Every once in a while I tell him he needs to brush up on the book.
I would say that maybe you should kiss her neck and work downwords. Things are best when you get her to pant. I have seen and read this book and I really think every guy should read it if he wants his woman to be happy.
2006-10-17 02:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont panick. this is what you do, you have to caress her and give her kisses everywhere, then slowly but surely you will start having sex make sure she is below you and youre doing it missionary afterwards if she starts moaning it means she likes it if she tells you to get off then that means your ehurting her or she doesnt like that position try different positions and see which one she likes. At first my boyfriend was very intimidated when having sex with me and now he is the best ive ever had. It all takes time, you need to know what she likes in order for you to please her and the same with her she needs to know what you like so she can please you as well. You need to get to know each other sexually and then youll be having the best sex ever just be patient
2006-10-17 01:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by Beautiful Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what u have said on your previous questions, i would assume that this is only the 4th time she has EVER had sex. u cant really expect her to know what she likes or what she wants if she hasn't experienced it yet. try out different things with her, experiment. buy a movie and watch it 2gthr, she may get some ideas. get her more aroused. if she hasn't been sexually active for long, its only natural that she doesn't know. give her time and your sleeping beauty will blossom into a sexy b****. if not, get another 1
2006-10-20 13:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Hatty Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your assessment is ineffective on the right track. for the reason which you have the ordinary actuality of being there in the course of the threesome, you recognize how she behaves whilst she has intercourse AND is taking part in it. Her attempting to coach around and telling you "that's in simple terms not me" is in simple terms her workout her capacity to lie approximately it. (if it "wasn't her", then the moaning with the different guy would not have got here approximately) Now, the "WHY" she mendacity approximately it quite is in simple terms as user-friendly. She would not opt for to break your emotions unnecessarily. yet once you keep pushing her for an trustworthy answer, she can finally provide help to have the two barrels. Which brings me to my question for you. Do you certainly choose your ego thrashed previous all restoration? If not, then drop it. Now, onto your choose for help. You watch television, I believe? quite you have seen those provides for pills that "improve male length". possibly you're able to desire to parent the cost for those medicine into your month-to-month budget. the different option to repair this to bypass away her and discover somebody who isn't keen to deceive you just to keep your emotions.
2016-11-23 15:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by melancon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though she is new to the sex thing also, so she may be nervous, and don't know, so the two of you can learn and experiment together. So be patient with her, and show her that you love her, and with time it will get better.
2006-10-17 01:56:17 · answer #6 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment, try different things until you finally get a reaction. Then you'll know what she likes. It's like a cat, it won't tell you where it likes to be pet, but once it starts purring, you know you're doing something right.
2006-10-17 01:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by lennox525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her about it, but not during sex...maybe there are somethings she is uncomfortable with or just doesn't have much experience...or maybe she just doesn't know what she likes
2006-10-17 01:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes shy! give her time. if shes not complaining then you must be doing something right so keep up the good work.
2006-10-17 01:51:55 · answer #9 · answered by crazylady1193 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
either she doesnt like it, or she really doesnt know what to do. i say keep bugging her till she tell u wheather its good or bad. its better u know than guess.
2006-10-17 01:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by boricuaspot21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋