I babysit 2 kids. The oldest one is very abusive to my children. He kicks, hits, and bites. Their mom is a single mother and cannot afford daycare. I am doing this as a favor to her. However, my 2 oldest kids just started school and I want to take some time for me and my other children. Not to mention that I can no longer deal with the abuse he puts forth on my children. How do I tell their mother that I do not want to watch them anymore and how much of a notice should I give?
2006-10-17 01:30:55 · 13 answers · asked by Bonnie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just very simple. Tell the mother that you don't want to babysit her kids anymore and explain to her why. It is your choice. You don't have to watch her kids, except yours. If If her children are abusive, there is no reason that you should continue to face your children getting abused by other children. You are the mother. You should stop the abuse before it gets worse. Also, you deserve to have more time for your kids, which is very important. As a parent, you should think about you kids' needs more than someone else's. Don't worry about their mother not being able to afford daycare. If she is the mother, she will work out a way to deal with her kids, such as disciplining her older child and finding another sitter. A way always works out. Trust me. There are many parents who worry about not being able to afford babysitting, so in the end, they will have a way.
2006-10-17 02:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by youngwoman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be really honest, it isn't your problem that she can't afford daycare. She could get help for daycare from social services since she is a single parent. I would tell her you don't want to babysit anymore and you will give a week notice. Do you have the courage to stand up for your children? Does she have family around? If so then I would give a day notice. And are you doing this for free? You can take a video secretly and expose the abuse that the child is inflicting on you children. What ever you do, do it this week.
Good Luck,
O'hock
2006-10-17 08:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by orcahock 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any daycare asks for a 2 week notice when you are taking your child out of daycare, so I would extend that same courtesy to her, just be honest and tell her you can no longer provide services to her and XX day will be your last day. If she asks why, just tell her it's not working for you. Chances are the problems her child has will not change so I wouldn't bother to address them, unless you really want to. Just be honest and make it about you, and not about her. If she thinks you're being heartless and cruel, it will be unfortunate, but you need to think of yourself and your children first. Good Luck
2006-10-17 08:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just tell her upfront. Give her plenty of notice like say a month so she can find another sitter. She will probably want to know why. Be upfront and tell her. Try to tell her everything as nice as possible, but she should understand. She might also be able to get daycare assistance through the state.
2006-10-17 09:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by charmz21lucky 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is the money good??? But anywayz if I was you, I would pop her oldest son in the mouth for biting then whoop him for kicking and hitting...(No child abuse.. jus well discipline.. bets believe my nieces know not to put they moufs on nobody..) And then let her know that you can't watch her kids no mo because of your situation.. Cuz you gotta live a life to with your kids also... I would give her a 2 week notice
2006-10-17 08:43:03 · answer #5 · answered by Ebony (A.K.A Chelsea Yellow) 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just tell her that you need to put more attention to your kids and that you can't babysit for her anymore.and that you're having a hard time managing your time between your kids and hers.you may tell her what her oldest had been doing but not to the extent that you judge the kids,they're just kids,also needs attention.just being playful.you might hurt her feelings if you're going to be sarcastic with the matter,specially she's a single mom.good luck.
2006-10-17 08:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Luisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. She's a mom she knows how kids are.If she's a friend of yours, she'll understand.If the kids are too much for you to handle so be it.Adleast give her 3 days to look for someone else. Tell her today that Friday will be the last day, that way she can have 5 full days to look.Good luck....
2006-10-17 18:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by Maw-Maw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well thats nice of you to help her out tell her and give her a 2 week notice. tell her to call around some places in the government and see if she can get some help with paying for daycare.
2006-10-17 08:41:41 · answer #8 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's very nice from you to do that for free
there should be gov. programs for single moms that needs to work to pay the the day care for there children try to get it for her
that would be the nixed way out of it without any harm to her feelings
good luck
2006-10-17 08:43:52 · answer #9 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST TELL HER THIS "I DON'T WANT TO BABYSIT YOUR KIDS ANYMORE BECAUSE THEY ARE ABUSIVE TO MY CHILDREN. THEY KICKS, HITS, AND BITES. I AM SORRY!!!
2006-10-17 08:40:37 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋