My friend is out of town since a year and may come back next month, he has a girlfriend whom he calls everyday twice or thrice since a year, he is yet to talk to his parents about this and if they agree these two will move or else break up.
question is: I meet his girl friend some 6 months back , we both became very good friends and were emotionally tied up very much to each other and than we were so much attached to each other that it was difficult to give a name to our relationship and finally there came a stage where she burst out into tears and told me that she cant live without me and cant imagine a life without me and i was also in the same stage. She says she had never felt such a thing with my friend and she was even ready to breakup if my friends parents didnt agree for there marriage (without any pain). Are we both wrong in liking each other or falling in love with eachother but i swear we never had any intention of doing this but it happened
2006-10-17 01:26:41 · 13 answers · asked by amitoberoi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks a lot for all your answers friends..Never expected so quick responses from you all.
Yes she also has that strong feeling that she can very happily lead a life with me forever n ever n i also feel the same.
But i do understand her position very well and it will be very difficult for her to face my friend and tell him the truth and answer others about this, am worried about all this. Worried about putting her in such a dilema :(
2006-10-17 02:08:55 · update #1
You are a good freind!!
2006-10-17 01:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have any control on who you fall in love with.It Happens ,I do not see where you are in the wrong. It happens. Tell your friend the truth,he deserves to know but also she needs to make up her mind on what she wants.I she is talking about marrying this guy even though she is in love with you that is not right for you ar him. It is going to be hard to tell your friend what has happened but I am sure with strong will the two of you can Handel it . GOOD LUCK
2006-10-17 08:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wrong!!!
You have been a traitor to your friend. With "friends" like you, who needs enemies.You didn't respect your friend or his chosen one.
Many young ladies are fickle and unstable. Sounds like you found one. How do you know she won't do the same thing to you later on that she has done to your friend?
This thing between the two of you. You brought it about by your deliberate actions--little by little.
Why didn't you have the common decency to let your friend and his girlfriend at least have the opportunity to end their relationship, before you tried to start one with her?
Since he calls her 2 or 3 times a day, you know he really cares about her.
Back off and get out of the picture at this time and try to practice some common decency!!!
2006-10-22 14:00:03 · answer #3 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you are doing wrong towards your friend because she was his girlfriend and you dont go for friends girlfriends unless their relationship is over.
However on a scale of wrong/right in general terms - no its not wrong because they are not married. Once someone is married then definately is classified as wrong.
If you want to do the right thing with your friend - wait until he and his girlfriend end their relationship first - sounds like it will happen soon. Then wait until your friend is over her and then go ahead with relationship with her.
For you personally - dont get upset with yourself because you know you did not do it on purpose. Just be patient and it will all work out.
Good luck
2006-10-17 08:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Nic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are in the wrong. But, to keep you, her, and the boyfriend from getting their feelings hurt, and straining everybody's relationship...I think she should tell him how she feels. Not about you, but about him. I don't think you two should consider a relationship until she has concluded her relationship with the boyfriend. If it is meant to be, it will happen. And in the end...you will feel better about the situation and how you handled it. Good luck!
2006-10-17 08:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bonnie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it looks like she never loved your friend in the first place. and you need to talk to your friend about this face to face. are you willing to lose your friend over this girl. thats whats going to happen is you will lose him and you might get to keep her. but if she is willing to leave him when things arent perfect. who knows if she will do the same to you or not when stuff gets rocky
2006-10-17 08:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by ms01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you really really feel strongly about this girl and are confident that too she feels the same way about you, then you should go ahead. Do think about the possibilty as to would she do to you what she did to your friend.
2006-10-17 08:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by alice_carter_1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's no need to wait for your friends parent answers. if that's what she feels and she's true to it then i guess she had to decide now to leave her bf. you can't be a spare tire and wait it things won't work out on what your friend and his girlfriend...
but if you don't want to hurt your friend then you should give them space...
2006-10-17 08:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by simplyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't doing wrong at all and it is stupid of you to even think this. Love knows no obstacles. I know you've heard it at least a thousand times,but it is true.
2006-10-17 08:36:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends mates are of limits.
2006-10-17 08:46:01 · answer #10 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL JUST TALK TO THE GIRL AND IF SHE REALLY WANT TO BE WITH YOU TELL HER TO JUST TELL YOUR FRIEND THE TRUTH AND BREAK UP WITH HIM IT THE RIGHT THINK TO DO.
2006-10-17 08:37:49 · answer #11 · answered by Sabrina S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋