2006-10-17 01:07:10 · 32 answers · asked by hay hay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
this friday night at my place
2006-10-17 01:12:48 · answer #1 · answered by The Ego 2 · 0⤊ 5⤋
When you both decide it's right for you. Sounds like a very "generic" answer right? Well, I think it's smart to wait at least a couple of years before you jump into the "kid" game. After you have children, they are your life. Everything changes. You are going to want to spend some quality time with your spouse before kids come inot play. You won't ever have that same opportunity again. And it all depends on where you are in your life also. I'm at the beginning of my college education, so we've decided not to have kids at least until I'm out of college. Finances are important too. You can have kids if you aren't financially ready, but when you are it takes off loads of stress. And it makes things a lot easier. You're going to have plenty to worry about without having to worry about money too! >.<
2006-10-17 04:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you and your spouse/lover truly love each other and want to be with each other forever? That question must be answered yes before you have children. A lot of people think babies are so cute, but really they are a lot of work and cost a lot of money. Babies cause a lot of couple to get divorced and then you have my life. I am the stay at home step mom raising your children. Plus you will have to see your ex if you break up. I will tell you that the day of spanking is over and my step kids are spoiled so bad. They tell me if I even touch them they will tell their teacher and I will go to jail. When I talk to most people around me they say that the kids have control of them. So please make sure your partner is going to help you 50/50. If you have to do all the disciplining...your life is going to be depressing. I do all the disciplining and the real parents just play with the kids.
2006-10-17 01:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first off you have to know if you are responsible enough to have children. Sure, babies are cute but they have a lot of responsibility as well. Like changing diapers, feeding them, nap time. Not just during the day but at night as well. You have to put your life aside when it comes to children most days they come first. When you and your spouse are in the middle of a fight and your baby starts to cry you have to put your time aside to take care of that child. Only you and your partner can decide when it is right to have children.
My husband and I thought that we were going to wait for about 5 years to have kids but then after we were married we really wanted kids but due to financial difficulties we are waiting.
2006-10-17 03:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea. I mean, yes you should be married, happy, financially set, living in a nice home, and WANT kids -- but beyond that - I don't know. I'm 28 and have all the above except that I don't actually want kids. My husband is fine with it but I'm not sure I'll ever change my mind. Maybe you just get to a point where you KNOW - kind of like the way you felt when you married. You can't explain it, you just want that.
2006-10-17 03:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for 45 years , three children , nine grand children. If I could get another chance I would have ten and 100. Go for it.
2006-10-17 01:16:44 · answer #6 · answered by samssculptures 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is never a right time to have kids. As long as you are a responsible person everything will work out!
2006-10-17 02:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you both feel it's right for you. if you wait until you can afford them, you may never have any, but you always find a way. we've never had a lot of money, but we always provided the necessities for our kids and tried to spend as much time with them as possible to make up for the extras that we couldn't afford and now that my kids are grown, they have both told us that the time we spent with them meant more to them than all the stuff we would have bought had we had the money.
2006-10-17 05:48:34 · answer #8 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you feel ready (and your partner) my partner and i spoke about children then we thought about it ,we then tried 8 months later. this was right for us we had time to talk about our fears and everything.we were prepared emotionally so now we have a baby boy we are both really enjoying the experience of parenthood. but it maybe different for you and your partner. the best thing is communcation with your partner you will know when you are ready you will both feel it
2006-10-17 01:29:10 · answer #9 · answered by crazycase2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are financially and mentally ready. (Adoption is also a good alternative). Some people should have no business having kids ever. It's ironic - the people who should never breed are usually the first to do so.
2006-10-17 01:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After you are married and financially stable. Why isn't this in the parenting/children section and under weddings instead?
2006-10-17 08:46:00 · answer #11 · answered by **hope/faith**1744 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋