Me and my wife only have one child. A son and he is 5 years old. We both are 27 years old. We don't know for sure if we want more kids or not, it is like we can't make our minds up. Mainly because my wife had such a hard pregnancy with our son. What is your all's take on this? Is one enough and will our son miss out on having a brother or sister?
Thanks
2006-10-16 20:22:05 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
A pregnancy that is planned is better than raising kids without any plan at all. It depends on whether you seem to want more kids or NEED them. If you think you can handle rearing another child both medically or physically for your wife who will carry the child in her womb for 9 months and for overall outcome: like finances, discipline, time for family and kids, etc. Its a big responsibility but on an overall if you think it will be healthier not only for your firstborn 5 year old but for both your wife and your relationship- then go for it. Talk about it thoroughly and plan ahead. Talk to your kid if he wants to have a little baby sis or brother by his side, and what about you? or your wife? what is her stake on it? Sometimes it is healthy to be an only child but sometimes it's not. Assess your situation further if your family relationship will deepen by the arrival of another child that will be a blessing indeed.
2006-10-16 20:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by yunesa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One thing for sure is your son will be lonely. If both of you can afford to have another kid, why not? Having a hard pregnancy with your first, doesn't mean will be the same for the second. Furthermore both of you are still young. I, myself have two kids (6 & 7 yrs old) and they still ask me to give them a baby brother or sister. In future, siblings can help/look after each other too!
2006-10-17 03:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sunflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r thinking from ur son's future. Let me tell u, if the upbringing is comfortable and the bonding b/w u and ur kid there is no need for a play-mate or tolerance builder for ur child. He is a social being, he will learn it irrespective of a sibling.
Rest of the aspects like finance for the kid, family needs, parental needs, physical capabilities of the mother to bear and go through another preganancy which can either be a cake walk learning from her past experience and if all factors are conducing throughout the preganancy, Not to forget a loving and responsible hubby
2006-10-17 08:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by shells51984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, financially, for the family, one child is enough. But for the child, a second child helps in mental development of the children. Reason is your children will be more tolerant, responsible, understanding adults when they grow up. A single child does not learn to share things and understand responsibilities.
But, if it is a pregnancy complication, go for a thourough chekup before making up your mind.
2006-10-17 03:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by TulipGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its nice for a child to have a brother or sister, i have four kids, sometimes they wish they were an only child, lol. but deep down i know they dont wish that. And what if something ever happened to your only child? Not to be morbid or anything. Tell you wife all prenancys are different, her second one may be a breeze.
2006-10-17 07:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my husband and I only have one also.A son and he just turned 3.We cant have any more,but I dont think my husband wanted any more.But really I did.I think my son is going to miss out on alot of things not having a sibling.I enjoyed my brothers and sister,I dont know what I would do without them sometimes.Life is better with lots of friends and family to support u threw life.
2006-10-17 09:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your son would benefit from a sibling. They learn so many things from each other. I had two sisters and a brother and although when I was younger they drove me nuts, they are everything to me now and one of my sisters is my very best friend and she is 6 years older than me.
2006-10-17 13:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I was an olny child on my dad's side up til I was 21 and now I'm 23. When I was little I always wanted someone to play with. Where we lived there was only one kid around my age. I understand bout a hard pregnncy I had two.
2006-10-17 09:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dawn D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup, your wife have a same problem with me. My son was 2,6 years and i was had a hard pregnancy with too. Until today, i still thinking about to give my son a bro or sist. I think it's better for your wife to wait until she feel comfortable and really2 want to having a baby again (coz i have discuss about this with my husband, unfortunately he understand about my feeling). About your son, if you have nephew, let your son playing with them more often, and tell him that they were his brother or his young sist/brother, so he can feel like he have a bro or sist
2006-10-17 03:44:22 · answer #9 · answered by Edelweiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally, I think 2-3 kids is better. But each family is difference.
2006-10-17 03:34:17 · answer #10 · answered by denny.wang 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋