My husband and I have a 19 month old daughter that we ADORE. shes very laid back and happ. We know for certain we want more children, possibly 4 total. Lately, I think about having another child all the time. I realize that our daughter would be about 2 1/2 even if I got pregnant right now. She's already potty trained, sleeps all night, etc. My husband doesnt want to start trying yet until we are more financially stable. But we werent planning on our first child, and everything worked out beautifully. I think if we wait until our lives are "better" it will never happen. Its never the "ideal" time to have a child. We are happily married, and love being parents. I think about it all the time, and I want our children to be no more than 3 or 4 years apart. A lot of friends and family have been having babies. Is it just baby-envy that I am experiencing, or is my soul telling me its about time for another child? Have any other mothers experienced baby-craving?
2006-10-16 18:42:55 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think the timing is perfect...my daughters are 4 1/2 years apart and I feel thats two far apart I think they would be better friends if they were closer in age...they are both out of school now and they are finding things in common now...its been like having two familys for the last 19 years,,,going in two different directions...get it done and you will have had 2 1/2 years with each, and time for them both, as they will bond and one will go to school, and one at home, soon then they will both be in school together...I think your emotionally ready and as for the finances the more you make the more you spend...besides its not in your hands its up to the man upstairs...and having 2 kids you will have so much fun...go for it...
budget stay home and enjoy...remember when they get to be teenagers its better to stay home so they dont get into trouble...I worked while my girls were young but I took on mommy jobs while they were in middle and high school and they were so focused they had no time to wander I went to all the games and we had all the parties at my house...less is best and they really appreciate it...now they are grown and its my time...have them and grow with them...you only have them on loan for such a short time so enjoy...
have a blast...
vote for me if you like my answer...k...
2006-10-16 19:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think that would be fine if she will be about 2 and half that she can look forward to it and help you with the baby and she can be involved with the baby and other activities. I would not plan it but i would look into finiacials and see if you can afford it. If it does not put you in too much of a bind then go for it and i do agree planning is not a real ideal thing but do have some planning involved in it do not set a certain year month or anything. Just make sure a second baby wont put you out on the streets is all. Make sure your husband want this just as much as you do. two kids is better then having just one. LOVE MY TOO BOYS.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-17 01:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, it will never be the right time. I had my children close together. I figured if I was going to be changing diapers, than what's another poopy diaper! My kids are 16 mos apart. They are now 23 mos and 7 mos. We went through the same thing. but we just jumped in. Somehow, it all works out. I have a friend who just had a baby and her first born is 3 1/2. The 3 1/2 is selfish and bratty. Extrememly spoiled. Only child syndrome I suppose. My daughter knows to share etc. Whatever you decide it will be the right choice. Go with your instincts.
2006-10-17 10:29:07 · answer #3 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obviously ready, and the timing is good. Your husband is a different story, though, and he needs to be considered. I agree that there is never an "ideal" time, but maybe you could ask him what specific financial goals he wants to meet before he is comfortable. He may never have thought of this in terms of specifics before, and maybe this will open up the doors to more converstaion about it. It could be that this excuse is masking some other fears he has about having another child (like he fears the extra responsibility, not the financial stress). Once you can engage him in an open, honest conversation about it, you will be well on your way to bringing him on board.
2006-10-17 09:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 month old, and don't even have my cycle back yet, but I am craving another baby.
We are going to wait until our daughter is 2 before we try to conceive though, because it is very nice for the children to have all your attention for 3 years, especially if they are nursing.
I agree that it will never be the ideal time - don't let finances stop you unless you will have trouble eating and keeping a roof over your heads.
2006-10-17 01:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by sheila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 5 kids and all of them are about 2yrs apart.. I believe that was the best age. We didnt wait until they were out of diapers because I didnt want to be the mommy that has her "freedom" and then start over again I wanted to get it "over" in that way so as not to forget ....good luck
2006-10-17 02:40:00 · answer #6 · answered by parentsofbadmeandt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think anyone is ever ready to have a child, even if it is a second one, it is one of those things that you learn as you go along. I would sit down and have a serious discussion with your husband about his concerns, they may be more valid than you think.
2006-10-17 02:38:30 · answer #7 · answered by Heather S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly do not understand why so many people say there is no "ideal" time and nobody is ever really ready for a child. This is simply not true. I also would not have a child because of envy.
2006-10-17 08:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My sister has a little 8 month old boy and she wants a girl asap. I say have more babies! You seem like good parents!
and congradulations a little early from LEMON! :)
2006-10-17 01:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by alkdjf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can handle it, it is better to have them closer together. Then they have each other to play with.
It's an old story that when you wait until you can afford it, it never happens.
2006-10-17 02:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by FL Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋