OK so I am dating this guy, he said he wants to date just casually but he doesn't want to date anyone else, and he still treats me like his girlfriend. He tells everyone how much he is into me, and goes out of his way to see me all the time. Why is he afraid of the terms, boyfriend and girlfriend?
2006-10-16 18:34:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
coz you never know when the better one (THE one for commitment) will come by...
2006-10-16 18:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds immature and too shallow for commitment. You didn't elaborate, but if you are putting out for him, why should he? He gets the benefits of a commited relationship with the opportunity to jump ship if he thinks something better comes along.
Maybe he'll change, but if you are looking for somebody for the long-haul, look somewhere else, plenty of good guys out there who will not date anyone else, will be "into you", and will see you all the time --- but you'll mean more to them than a casual date, we can get those anywhere.
2006-10-17 01:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by OatesATM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment issues? Maybe just ease him into a "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship. Tell him you don't want to date anyone else, and make sure he knows that whenever he's ready for a monogamous relationship you'll be there for him.
2006-10-17 01:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by 1st time prego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is probably afraid of commitment. If not commitment he is waiting to see if something better will come along in the time that he has you. You should confront him and tell him your needs and if he does not comply, then he is probably not the guy you want to be with.
2006-10-17 01:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jacobs #23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very smart - he knows who can be if become the boyfriend.
I like the way keep the distance. I can be your boyfriend but you have to have own place and pay own bills. The smartest gay of the year - should be published as a model for every men.
2006-10-17 01:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is still thinking whether or not relationships (exclusively dating) works for him. or maybe he really is into you but still has no idea if he is ready for all the responsibilities and obligations that comes with it. basically, you just have to ask him where he stand and don't push him to do things he is not comfortable with. you will just end up scaring him off more than making him stay. besides, if he really wants you, he will stay regardless if you ask him to or not. and even if you give him everything, nothing can make him stay if his heart is not up to it.
2006-10-17 02:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by Acidburn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a guy thing, its like being embarrassed to hold hands in public for the first time. Just ease your way to him, and don't push him. I know that I don't like to be pushed or manipulated into anything, and then he'll feel comfortable. Just don't think it is anything against you personally...like I said, its just a guy thing.
2006-10-17 01:37:58 · answer #7 · answered by joshooog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be that he wants to be with you but not be tied down. He still wants the freedom to flirt with others and not be held back by the "boy friend girl friend" lables.
2006-10-17 01:37:51 · answer #8 · answered by pirate_lover999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants you to think he's sleeping with other people to gauge your reaction to it. Or maybe he's a coward
2006-10-17 01:38:05 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be in your peanut butter but not commited to one jar
2006-10-17 01:37:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋