This are great but she is scared becuase she got out of a bad relationship and still sees him and is scared to get in one with me because of that....She is always telling me that he dont compare to me....I was just wondering for advice cause I know that im still going to treat her like a princess until I know whats goin to happen....Just wanted to see what you thought
2006-10-16 18:34:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think this girl is stringing you along, especially when you say that you treat her like a queen. As far as not wanting to get into a serious relationship with you is because she is still seeing her ex too, but being your treating her like a queen she doesn't want to give that up. I would forget about her and find someone else who would really appreciate being treated like a queen and not seeing their ex.
2006-10-16 18:45:52 · answer #1 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs a friend for now...dont give up, just be there for her always....dont force anything, she has to move on emotionally from that relationship before going into one with u and i think its a good thing she doesnt wanna be with u now cauz if she did u would be just a rebound, but its obvious this girl cares about u enough not to use u or try to hurt your feelings...if she wants u its to be serious, not a game so be patient...after a hard breakup ppl need lots of time to heal meaning lose all feelings for the other so they can focus on u and give u all of them....u can love one person and not at the same time..and she is also prob scared the pattern will repeat itself with u and she`ll end up being hurt....if u really want her then give her all the time she needs and be by her side
2006-10-16 18:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are a wonderful guy...just give her sometime... She went through a bad relationship and afraid to get involve with someone whom may be like her previous. You are different from him. First of all, you treat her with love and respect. She will soon realize that you are a wonderful guy. She's been hurt by her past relationship and given up on love at this moment...Maybe consider being her friend for now until she's ready to love again. elieve me she will soon forget her past. Her wound will be heal b/c you are her medicine. Best wishes to you.
2006-10-16 18:41:56 · answer #3 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let things play out. Assure her that your nothing like the asshole she broke up with and you will always treat her right. If she is still scared tell her you'll back off a little until she is ready, but that she'll still be in your mind everyday.
2006-10-16 18:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation. Let's just say that the guy that my girl was with was violent, involved with drugs, and only interested in sex. This is what I did. I told her that if she was gonna be in a relationship with me she would have to stop seeing him, talking to him, or even mentioning his name to me. I made her realize that he was no good. At times she would piss me off because she would bring him up and I would tell her straight up that she was stupid for even comparing me to him. I told her never to do that. At one point she wanted to be his friend still... I lost it and I straight up told her, his friendship or me. I stayed in the relationship because I wanted to make her realize that her ex was the worst thing that ever happened to her and I succeeded. In the process i fell in love with her, were going on eight months. Well anyways, make her realize and her being scared is bad. Good Luck.
2006-10-16 18:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Aztlan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's either testing you or she really doesn't want to get hurt again. Just treat her as you say you are going to and she'll see you're not like the other guy and you won't hurt her.
2006-10-16 18:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by OutTehWindow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait she's scared and yet she's dated you for 3 months? do you mean that she's just using you to get the ex jealous, because that is what it sounds. i really can't say anything more because you didn't give enough details.
2006-10-16 18:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by bob888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad-shes not ready and unless you are prepared to deal with the emotional baggage.You should let her heal first and offer her your friendship!
2006-10-16 18:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad she doesn't trust boys in general.
2006-10-16 18:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by N/a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BAD
2006-10-16 18:36:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋