...for my friend's wedding this weekend?
It is a gift from me and my boyfriend (my "plus one guest", because he does not know either of them). Since my boyfriend does not know either of them, I am paying for his contribution toward the gift, as he did for me when we attended his friend's wedding whom I didn't know.
The bride and I are casual friends - in college we hung out a lot, but now it's more like we hang out once a year, and sometimes less.
Thanks!
2006-10-16 18:31:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
$200
I just read some of the other answers, after I posted.
Weddings generally cost about $75-$100 per guest. There are two of you attending the wedding. The value of the gift should at least cover the cost of inviting you.
Sorry if you all think that is crass...but the question was one of proper etiquette.
The question didn't ask for gift suggestions, but I will offer the opinion that gifts should be chosen from their registry. And I stand by my answer: at least $100 should be spent by each guest attending. $200 from a couple.
2006-10-17 01:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by catherine02116 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kat -
If you and the bride are not that close, perhaps you would consider not attending, and sending a card with a smaller gift inside.
If you intend to go, the standard rule of thumb is between $25 and $50 per wedding guest. If you and the bride aren't that close, she'll likely understand something smaller, but will also likely be disappointed.
2006-10-17 06:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by eekanif 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think typically you want to spend about the amount they spent for your meal, if it's not out of your price range. Most weddings are like 30-50 per person unless it's somewhere casual or really extravagent.
Although, it's probably more important to get something you know will be meaningful to them, even if it's just a couple things off their registry that you know they'll use. A personalized card or something that reminds you of college may be appreciated by them more than an expensive gift.
2006-10-16 18:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Pook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all based on your income. For instance, if your household is making less than $40,000 per year, then a $20-40 gift would be appropriate. If your household income is $60,000 per year, then a $60 gift is in order. In other words, take your annual income, divide by 1000, and you have a pretty good ballpark figure. Don't let anyone pressure you into spending more than you can afford!
2006-10-17 02:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by digitalquirk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it almost depends on what part of the country you are in. I would say $75-$100 total would be good.
$25 per guest where I live is cheap and rude. Remember that you are getting a meal, drinks and entertainment.
2006-10-17 07:21:54 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
$50
2006-10-16 18:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Money has nothing to do with what you should buy for a present. Just but a present and not the price. If you think a china would be a nice gift then get one. If you think a snow globe is better then get one.
Don't think price when buying a gift. It's sooo unethical
2006-10-17 00:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Dahv Inchi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A wedding gift is usually 50 dollars from a friend. It is appropriate and won't break your pockets.
2006-10-17 03:50:27 · answer #8 · answered by mommyofsix 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first thing, how much can ur pocket allow u to spend? see as i grow older, things like this dont bother me much anymore unlike when i was younger. in this time of difficulty, any gift as long as it is useful for them will do as long as it it heartily given. look around the mall or department store, try home supplies. something they can use in their new home. since i am in wood business i made this package of cutting board, knife block, trivet, mug tree and spice caddy. wrap them in a package and sold it to friends who where needing wedding gifts last year. this is something practical and useful and would last longer!. happy shopping!
2006-10-16 18:46:42 · answer #9 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you intend to attend, then give a decent gift. $70-100 would be fine.
2006-10-17 04:51:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋