ive been with her for three years and its been great but ever since she went away to school its been nothing but fights and she has changed compleatly what do i do
2006-10-16 18:28:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe she is frustrated because she cannot see you and be with you when ever she wants. You have been together for 3 years and you obviously love each other. Try to have a calm and mature conversation with her. Tell her how you feel, and find out why she is acting the way she is.
If she does not cooperate, let her know that you mean business. Tell her that if she doesnt get her act together, you will break up with her. If she acts as if she doesn't care, let her go because if her love is real, she will eventually come back.
2006-10-16 18:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, What's the reason of breaking up? 3 yrs of friendship, did you find out what went wrong after she went to school? Did she find someone better than you.
Since you find her with you this 3 yrs was great than why? Even if she changes, did you ask yourself where went wrong with both. Try cooling down and have a nice talk with her instead of fight and quarrel, this were not going to solve your problem.Remember this : Friends is to take and not to break, cause you were never know when they were real help you.
Even if you can not get along or become steady, my advice just be a common friends. Cause, real friends are hard to find now a day. I love to make friends of age, young, old or teenagers. when come to help most of them real raise their hand you see.
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2006-10-17 01:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by shellman8888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel. Don't beat around the bush about it. You can't help but feel the way you do. Maybe now that your lives are taking different paths (or seem to be anyway) it might be better for you both to see other people. Or you could just ask her what the heck is going on. She might be under serious stress since going back to school and might be releasing it on you. I'm not saying that unfair behaviour is excusable, I'm just saying that there might be a legitamit reason as to why her behaviour has changed.
2006-10-17 01:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by kittycat_cc14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has gone and moved on, perhaps grown up and got a mind of her own now and is realizing that there is more to life than maybe the guy back home who is not going anywhere, it is you that is hanging on to what was once.....happiness?
Let her go, there is no earthly reason why two people who do not get along any more have to stay together because 'once upon a time' they were something.
2006-10-17 01:33:38 · answer #4 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all talk about the problem if you haven't already. And then if you still want to let her down gently. Its hard to take in the fact that the person you've been with three years is leaving. Don't just blurt it out and disapear. If you can, do it in person.
2006-10-17 01:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by 1st time prego 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, be direct and to the point. Be compassionate. And do it soon. You could say you've grown apart... still really care for her... can't stand by and watch your relationship deteriorate further, want to remember it when it was still a good thing - not a horrible thorn in your side. Something like that, just not exactly like that. Okay?
2006-10-17 01:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you break up with her you need to ask her why she changed, is it because she found someone else she would rather be with? Tell her that 3 years must have meant something and that you really care for her and want to know what is bothering her so you can fix it or would she rather get on with her life without you.
2006-10-17 01:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by lisa b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First is this change really a bad change and if it is a bad change for you then you just got to tell her this be honest about it. I know this might sound corny but just tell her that you guys have grown apart we are too different people now and i do not think i am right for you anymore. Just be honest and tell her how you feel.
2006-10-17 01:31:40 · answer #8 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hold your right hand by your left hip then slowly swing the forearm to the right when your hand gets up to in front of your face snap your finger and at the same time say " see - ya "
2006-10-17 01:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by caciansf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know her better than anyone on here does. Don't crush her, just be honest and tell her you want to move on. There is a nice way to do that. People change, they grow apart. That is just life. She will get over it.
And so will you. Best of luck.
2006-10-17 01:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋