ok people, i need some advice. I've been with my man for a year and 1/2. i dont have any guy friends, i dont flirt with guys, i dont give my number or my email out to guys. i pretty much try to avoid any compromising situations. anyways, my bf constantly accuses me of flirting and it makes me feel guilty for no reason. i always end up saying sorry just to make him feel better but i really dont do anything wrong. i try to be reassuring to him but i guess its not enough...today i was studying for this big exam i have comming up. i was having a hard time so i decided to ask my neighbor for help cause he's really smart and good at physics. my bf got really mad...long story short, i think he is being selfish. he wants me to put what he wants first before what is good for me. i mean i was just studying with my neighbor who i grew up with by the way. he doesnt trust me and i am just about ready to give up. i'm trying to focus on my education and he is really stressing me out..
2006-10-16 17:49:50 · 10 answers · asked by girlwiththegoodies 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i really care about him but he's driving me crazy.
2006-10-16 17:51:20 · update #1
Don't give up, talk to him and tell him how his actions make u feel, he may just be insecure. But whatever u do, dont let him use guilt to control u, and make sure u do stuff that makes u happy and not just bcuz u want him to feel ok. So talk to him and if there's still no change, then u can leave him.
2006-10-16 17:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by Love Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now i really know how u feel. my bf was the same way. its obvious that he dont trust u 100% but that doesnt mean that he doesnt trust u. maybe he have been done wrong alot. i wouldnt say too much cause maybe he's been hurt alot. or if thats not the case then he doesnt trust u and u need 2 get rid of him. u never wanna be with someone that dont trust u. and another thing is that he's spoiled, if he wasnt then he wouldnt wanna be first all the time. u need to get him outta that stage as quick as u can, if u dont it could get violent if he's not already there (hopefully he isnt). now if he's stressing u out than u need 2 let him kno. if he dont understand after u tell him how u feel then u need to let him go.
2006-10-17 01:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Keeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your b/f has issues he needs to resolve if he wants to keep any relationship. trust/jealousy - to act like your doing something when your not -- makes one wonder what he's doing. guilty conscience is a mother.....at the same time, you know your education is important. no, you didn't do nothing wrong. sounds like it's your b/f that has the problem. a relationship without trust is no relationship. you can't focus when you have to constantly prove yourself to someone who obviously will never trust you. he won't be the first honey, or the last. put you first. get through school - finish and go from there. good luck.
2006-10-17 09:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by apache_lizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious and long talk with him and let him know that his insecurities are pushing you away from him. Let him know that you love him and cherish ya'lls time together and your relationship but if he doesnt stop accusing u of cheating then you will just have to be stressed with daily life on your own. Nagging is a bi tch when its coming from a guy.
2006-10-17 00:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now and move on before he starts being abusive. Your situation is mine a few years back. He will eventually make you feel guilty for wanting to better yourself. You will lose more and more of your self esteem and he will control every aspect of you. You will have lost many friends. You wont know who you are. Cut your losses and focus on your schooling.
2006-10-17 01:09:29 · answer #5 · answered by tiredinaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not being very supportive now is he hell he sounds as if he doesnt even want you to get your education thats why hes probably being and acting the way he is i say try talking to him one last time and girl if you aint fliriting why are you apologizing for something you know you did not do dont you know that makes us women look weak DONT EVER DO IT AGAIN you hear me...anyway let him know and if he still starts messing with your mind uh uh hes got to go plain and simple simple and plain the mind is a terrible thing to waste and you shouldnt let him stop you ....good luck and god bless ok...E
2006-10-17 00:58:09 · answer #6 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has insecurity problems. How is his relationship with his mom? Moms install confidence in their little boys so they become confident men and the father show them how to become respectful men. You need to tell your boyfriend that his actions are not normal and not fair to you when you are being a good and loyal girlfriend. This may lead to violence if you don't do something about it now.
2006-10-17 00:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now. He's jealous and insecure. It's not you. You'll go through life trying to prove you haven't done anything. He is selfish.
2006-10-17 00:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by 7yrs2go 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to trust you and if he cant do that its only going to get worse because you cant cut off contact with all males
he is being selfish ---- let him know and if he is not prepared to change well its your decision
2006-10-17 00:53:53 · answer #9 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive heard it said that a man will get jellous if he himself is cheating, or thinks about it alot. i dont know about your guy, but try switching the blame.
2006-10-17 00:54:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋