when is it not appropiate any more for her dad to see her undressed? i'm not trying to be a pervert!!!! but dads help to dress a daughter, change her diaper, give her a bath, etc... i just think there's a certain age when this is not appropiate any more... what would you say that age is? maybe 3 or 4 years old?
please, don't insult my question, is a legitimate question and like i said i'm not trying to sound perverted, and if i offend somebody i apologize
2006-10-16 17:37:27 · 38 answers · asked by lost in space 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Interesting ? I would say by the time she is potty trained only because he may be the only one around who can change her if she has an accident. Once she is potty trained there is no need for dad to see her undressed unless bathing is involved.....again if he is the only one available to bathe her. 3 years old sounds like a good age.
2006-10-16 17:44:49 · answer #1 · answered by Eldude 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have a 3 year old son and because I am the mother I don't feel that until he is old enough to take care of himself (bathroom, baths...etc)that seeing him undressed is in anyway perverted. I have a 10 year old step-daughter and i think that she herself wouldn't want anyone to see her naked. I would say when you think it is no longer appropriate thats when it isn't. But there will be times when the father will be at home with the child and will need to bath her even at age 5 or 6...so you are the mom you make the call.
2006-10-16 17:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Stuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I broke my arm when I was 9 and my mom had to help me wash my hair in the tub until the cast was off. It was no big deal, but that was the absolute last time she saw me naked!
Now, it never would have been my father to help me do that, but then again he is a creepy bastard and we have somewhat of a dysfunctional family.
I think in a "normal" healthy family, I would say 6 or 7. OR anytime before then if the child or parent is uncomfortable about it.
I wondered the same thing a few times. I have an 8 month old daughter. But I only wondered because I did not grow up with younger siblings or small children in the family so I didn't know how other families handled stuff like that!!! I guess now I know!
2006-10-16 17:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She will know when it's time for her dad to no longer see her get dressed anymore. She should be able to dress herself with no problems by 4 - 5 years old, although at age 4 her dad will most likely still need to help her with a bath. Teach her to take a shower by the time she is 5 years old then you won't have to worry about her being in the tub full of water. As long as you feel comfortable with him seeing her naked -- if you feel any bit uncomfortable then you need to listen to your instinct. I know you didn't ask this question but I also think that your daughter does not need to see her father naked, there is just no reason for it.
2006-10-17 02:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, it is the child that initiates that they no longer feel comfortable with their parents seeing them naked, and this typically happens during puberty. It shouldn't matter whether it is the mom or the dad, if a child is a child then it does not matter. Part of being a parent is taking care of a child and both parents need to have active roles in this, so neither parent should be excluded leaving one parent to do all the work. And, by saying it is inappropriate at a certain age it "sexualizes" your daughter. It signifies that she is no longer a child and therefore needs personal privacy and space as a result. And, at 3-5 years old, this is certainly not the case. With this being said, this decision needs to be one that you and your family are comfortable with. There is no rule, or right answer, my response is simply what I think about it. Just like anything with parenting, everyone has different views and you and your family need to decide what you think is best and what you are comfortable with.
2006-10-16 17:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea77thst 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hehe... I still remember the day my mom gently told me that I should wear clothes over my underwear when I'm around Daddy and brothers. I was 7 years old. I was totally bewildered, and angry that I had to do this, because it was "too hot to wear clothes in the house". We grew up on a farm, but I always thought that 7 years old was a little late. I would probably stop it at around 5-6.
You don't have to go into a sex education with it, just make it a new rule (Your the mom! She'll figure it out later, and be embarrassed you waited so long to instill this. lol)
My parents stopped letting me run around stark naked somewhere around 3 years old. Buying "pretty" underwear will help with this. They won't want to take them off.
And it's not a strange question. Just don't make it a big deal with your daughter. Be casual about it, but be consistant in following through with any new rule you make.
~Blessings
EDIT: Just thought I should mention that it's really not about "when the Dad shouldn't see her" it's about "when is the best time for her to start learning to keep clothes on"
2006-10-17 06:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by xboxgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child will let you know, She will get to a certain age where she won't want anyone to see her naked. Whats the big deal? You sound like being naked is wrong? You are not going to let the dad dress her after 3? Or give her a bath? don't be so concerned about this, you being concerned, concerns me. I would say around 6 or 7 he will start getting self conscious about being naked in front of others.
2006-10-16 17:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Peace 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Totally legitimate question, and I would say around 3 or 4 is correct. Obviously while she's still in diapers it's still okay, you don't want to be doing it all by yourself! And think about it in reverse...I'm the mother of a 2 1/2 year old boy. When is it inappropriate for me to see him naked? He's not potty-trained yet, so who would change his diapers? And once he is trained, it will still be awhile before he can do it completely on his own. I think you have a few years before you have to worry.
2006-10-16 17:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by A W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not that young, I would think that when she gets a little older, like 8 , she wont want him coming in the bathroom when she is in there, he could still help her get dressed up til then, not necessarily put her clothes on but if she needed help with something. She will probably know when she doesnt want dad doing stuff like that for her and I wouldnt worry too much about it. He is her dad and I am sure he will know when it gets awkward for him to be doing certain things for his daughter as well. It will be ok.
2006-10-16 17:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Kellie W 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont know if there is an exact age. Your children will tell you when they dont want you seeing them naked anymore. My cousin bathes his 5 year old daughter as his wife works night shift and I cant see anyone having a problem with that. You do what you think is right at the right time for you. I wouldn't worry about it too much. My step son was about 6 when he started being private about being naked. They will let you know.
2006-10-16 17:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by mel 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋