What questions should be addressed when trying to make a decision on bringing kids in this world?

Answer 1

Can you provide a healthy environment for the child?
Can you provide a stable home where the bills can be paid, food is always on the table and there is enough money to provide all essential possessions?
Are there two parents who love each other and who know how to resolve conflicts calmly and out of sight and earshot of the child?
How will you raise the child in terms of religion, discipline, morals and education?
Are both parents willing to do their part in caring for and playing with the child?
Who's going to take care of the child during non-school hours?

Mainly, the parents need to sit down and make a plan for how they will teach, raise and provide for the child. Make sure you are in agreement. When the child is born, if the parents disagree, they need to go to another room, discuss the issue, come to an agreement and then proceed as a united entity. The child must be the priority over excess luxuries.

Answer 2

1) Can you support a child economically? Maintaining one child until he/she is 18 years old costs a lot of money, and on average (in NYC), it's about $1,000,000. Also, jobs nowadays are becoming rather unstable. How do you know that you and your spouse won't be laid off tomorrow or the next day? How can you support your child in that scenario?
2) Can you support a child emotionally? Some parents don't have the time to care for a child because they have to work to maintain them. This is why babysitters are usually hired, but babysitters can and probably will abuse your child physically and/or verbally. If the parents don't spend plenty of time with their kids, then as they grow up, these kids can get into gangs, can get addicted to drugs/alcohol, can perform masochism to ease their emotional pains, etc.
3) Does your family or your spouse's family have any history of genetic diseases? You certainly wouldn't want to bring a child to this world if he/she is going to live with a disease and/or a disability.
4) How stable is your relationship with your spouse? Are you interested in having a child because you think that your kid will glue your relationship with your spouse when he has a tendency to look at other women or something like that? Even couples with kids can end up divorcing each other. Do you feel lonely and want somebody special (i.e. a baby) to caress and feel loved by no matter what mistakes you've made? In this scenario, the best thing that a married couple can do is to really get to know each other and to really give each other plenty of love & attention. A child is not a doll and putting all your problems in front of your child is only going to make both you and your child feel miserable.
5) Do you want to achieve something important in your life now, like get a university degree (such as a bachelor's or master's or doctorate) or travel around the world or develop a new hobby (like painting or learning how to play an instrument or learning how to make flower arrangements) or something else? Once you have a child, you won't have time for ANYTHING ELSE unless you've got some advantageous circumstances on your side (which is extremely rare unless you have plenty of money and connections).
6) How will you discipline your child? Discipline, whether it is by talking things out or by whipping your child when he/she disobeys you, is crucial to the proper development of your child. You certainly wouldn't want the television to be doing the disciplining for you, so you should be prepared to talk about many important issues that can damage his/her fragile mind if they aren't brought up, like drugs or premarital sex. You should also mold your child in such a way that he/she doesn't commit the same mistakes that you or your spouse made in the past.

Remember: If your circumstances are really bad or if you raise your child incorrectly, you're going to be having plenty of headaches until he/she leaves your home.

Answer 3

I personally feel that if you are not committed enough to each other as individuals to go through with a marriage you are not committed enough to bring a child into the world. If you are in a committed married relationship you should consider if you are financially stable, emotionally stable and happy together. A baby won't fix a weak marriage, it will only make it worse. A baby can strain a happy marriage but you both must be willing to be flexible and commmitted to adjust to the total lifestyle change you are making.

God bless you and give you wisdom to make the right decision!

Answer 4

First, are you ready to give up your life as you know it and have it changed forever? Are you ready to be sleep deprived for at least 6 mos. and off and on for the rest of their lives or yours. Can you afford the medical, dental, clothing, hospital bill, later on driving lessons, car ins. and then the wedding if it's a girl?
Then if you said no to these and still are thinking about it you will be a very happy person. Because they are the most important thing you will ever do in your life, they will bring you the most laughter, tears and every other emotion than anyone else on earth and you will hopefully have someone to take care of you when you get old. Good decision making!!!

Answer 5

Are you and your partner both wanting to have children?
Can you afford a child / children?
Are you and your parnters philiosphies on parenting similar?
Do you two agree on discipline?
Are you ready to settle down, and commit yourself 100% to taking care of a child and making personal sacrifices for the happines and well being of your child?
Will both parents continue to work, or will one stay at home to care for the child?
If both parents will be working, what arrangements will be made for childcare?
Any major health issues on either side of the family that may be passed on to the child?
Are you and your partner commited to each other?

Answer 6

There are alot of questions to be asked and answered. First and foremost, are you emotionally and financially ready for an 18+ year commitment to your child. You have to be very patient and willing to give alot of personal time up. An occasional babysitter is okay, but, your child is going to need the parents.

Answer 7

Are you prepared to give up partying, restaurants, movies, time with your friends. You may think you can still do all your favourite things...but believe me you can't.

Answer 8

Can you afford them?
Did you learn from all the crap you went through as a kid?

Answer 9

CAN YOU AFFORD IT?
ARE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER ON THE SAME LEVEL AS FAR AS DISCIPLINE, RAISING, FAMILY VALUES?
HOW IS YOUR HEALTH?
HOW IS HIS HEALTH?
DO YOU HAVE ANYTHING THAT RUNS IN YOUR FAMILY THAT MAY BE DETRIMENTAL TO A BABY?

Answer 10

Do you love their father?