Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years and since we started school i never see him he leaves at 6:30 am and comes home at 4:30pm to pick me up to take me to school i go to school from 5:30 to 10:30pm and he goes to work...when we get home he eatesand goes to sleep.....and when we are together we yell at each other over the stupided **** ever...how do i stop it?
2006-10-16 16:38:49 · 16 answers · asked by mz415tiny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be the one to turn it around. If he tries to start an argument, respond with answers like, "You could be right." Say you're sorry even if you didn't do anything. Then when your day off comes, fix him his favorite meal and eat with him. Don't bring up any topics that you know will start an argument. If an argument starts, just sit silent. It takes two to argue, so just don't argue. Use a calm tone of voice. Tell him that you love him, you don't want to argue and that you would like to work things out in a logical way.
If he continues to want to argue, then maybe the relationship has come to an end. Don't let him abuse you in any way. Verbally, physically or any other way. If you are feeling abused, get out now.
2006-10-16 16:47:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have embarked on a crazy schedule right now, and it can be stressful on anyone.
When we are not able to deal with pressure, we tend to unload stress on those around us, like family and loved ones. Your real needs of fun, entertainment, good sleep, regular good food etc are probably not being met due to a long and stressful routine of work and school. This gets monotonous real soon and it will get to anyone sooner or later and you are both taking it out on each other which is not the solution.
This is a testing time for both of you. If you can stick to the schedule and meet your goals you would have achieved much in the long run. Try and show a little respect and kindess to each other in the meantime, and realise that its hard on both of you, but fighting is only going to make it worse.
You have beside you someone you love, who shares your dreams and supports your goals. Try and keep that in mind next time you feel argumentative and it could help. With practice.
2006-10-16 16:50:01 · answer #2 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with hours that make it impossible to spend any quality time together can be difficult but as far as how to stop arguing you first have to decide not to argue. It takes two to aruge and if one of you can stop then the other won't have anyone to argue with.
If it truly is over stupid stuff then just let him win. I have found that usually when a couple is arguing over stupid little stuff it is because they don't know how to deal with the bigger issue that is really the problem. Maybe they don't even know what that bigger issue is.
Maybe you should talk to your bf and tell him that you realize that the two of you have been arguing over little stuff and you think that there is something deeper going on but can't pin point what it is and maybe the two of you can put your heads together and figure out what it is so you can work on it.
2006-10-16 16:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are tired and stressed. So, until you get through the rough spots here and get to a break where hopefully you can spend some time together you need to talk about respecting each others goals and find out if there is any time you can squeeze out for the both of you any time soon to talk about it.
You need to evaluate the way you are living and why you are taking it out on each other. Make a promise to do better in the future or you will have to change something about the schedule. That may be what it comes down to. Just talk about it and show respect. Both of you are trying to better your lives, just focus on that. good luck.
2006-10-16 16:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out what you are actually together for. Think hard. Is it love, twisted need, or convenience? You probably wont stop unless you both put in 100% effort to change it (not just say it but do it), which would possibly mean (most likely) you need couples counseling. If you can't both agree to figuring out a way to resolve your issues, then the only other way to stop it is to break it off with each other.
2006-10-16 16:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take control of this behaviour now. it all comes down to respect for each other.
try to find sometime that you two can just chill out together and remember the early days of romance and what brought you two together.
try even writing to him and explain how you feel. its easy to lose those special times when we are busy and tired.
if you dont do something now then you risk losing this relationship.
2006-10-16 16:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the time to be with him and also take a day off of school when he is off so both of you can be together
2006-10-16 16:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by gisela50cent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is probably because you aren't seeing enough of each other and are very stressed. from my experience, i have found that if we make time for each other more often, then we fight less. even if it is just for a quickie or cuddling for 5 minutes. it all counts & makes a HUGE difference.
2006-10-16 16:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by christy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just admit he's right as usual, then get on with the sex! that always stops arguments.
2006-10-16 16:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it wont stop....me and my boyfriend argue ALL THE TIME...and it seems like it will never end.....BUT whats a relationship without some arguring, it just wouldnt be the same.
2006-10-16 16:41:29 · answer #10 · answered by Sexiiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋