What will happen to me/her if...?

Question

What would happen to me and/or her if I got my girl pregnant? I am 16 and she is 15, 16 in late december. I'm not saying she is (pregnant) or anything but every time we make love, safe or un-protected, I always worry about pregnancy. I always practice the "pull-out" technique and try to avoid the un-protected sex but sometimes It just happens or I forget to put on a condom.

Now don't go telling me how stupid un-protected sex or just plain sex is because I already know that. Don't tell me to use a condom everytime because I have heard it all to many times. I make love to her because I love her, not just for sex.

If your going to awnser my guestion then thank you for any input you can contribute. If your going to be a smartass then go somewhere else.

Apparentley I have to be specific. I want to know what will happen If I get her pregnant when she is 15. Isn't sex at that age illegal? Will I go to Juvi or something? p.s. I have a decent job and will be able to make it by if I have a kid

Answer 1

As a pregnancy counselor I have to say this. The 'pull-out' method doesn't work. If you are worried about pregnancy then maybe you aren't ready to have sex. There are other ways to express love in the non physical way.

As far as if she ends up pregnant. There are so many things that happen. Being that young there are serious health risks both to her and her baby. There are also the emotional effects of teen pregnancy on both of you. It's a tremendous responsibility to raise another human life and it's not easy. There is always adoption (abortion is never an option) which is a good thing.

So what I am saying to you and your girlfriend is think of what life would be like if you had to worry about taking care of someone else who is completely dependent on you. Think hard about whether or not you are really ready for that responsiblity becuase with sex is that responsibilty. Be smart about it because becoming pregnant is not something that goes away over night, it is a life changing event.

I hope that this has helped you and I don't mean to nag.

Answer 2

If you got her pregnant,....
1.) your parents/her parents will be pissed
2.) you'll have to get a job to support the baby (child support) -IF she keeps it
3.) Either she can abort it, give it up for adoption or keep it. That is something you'll both have to decide together, but ultimately, it'll be HER decision...whether you like it or not. Hopefully you two can agree on the same decision.
4.) If you abort it, you'll both still be able to continue school and keep doing what you've been doing. BUT your parents may not let you see each other anymore if this happens!! Think about that!!
If you decide to give the baby up for adoption, it could take a toll on her, and I'm sure you as well, and the same thing will happen...
If you decide to keep the baby, your parents and her parents will have to decide who is going to raise the baby, you'll probably have to work, if/when she's old enough to work, she'll have to, hopefully you'll continue to stay in school (especially her). It can put a damper on any plans to go to college. Your parents won't be happy with you. But I'm sure they wouldn't keep you from seeing each other in that situation (they shouldn't any way). But it depends on the kind of people they are.
There's a lot of thing you need to consider if you aren't pracitising safe sex. And it's wonderful that you love your girlfriend...maybe she can use the patch or the pill. Anything for a back up is better than going without!!! I hope this helped!!

Answer 3

You should worry about pregnancy every time becaue pulling out doesn't always work. In fact, I got pregnant at a young age with my first son that way. And it was hard. No partying, no fun, just late nights with a screaming infant. And then I finished college with a ton of debt from child care expenses. If you love your woman, please do not continue to have unprotected sex with her. Enjoy your time with one another so you can do things together like take trips and be young together without the responsibility of children. This is just friendly advice-----but I've been there......

Answer 4

Honestly to tell you that if you love her and you always want to be with her, you will know exactly what to do when that time in your life comes.
Please, Please, Please don't ever marry her just because she gets pregnant. That will be the worst mistake you could ever make. Marry her or someone else because you love them.

Anyways, the "pull-out" technique only works for a while. Trust me I got pregnant at a really young age and married because I got pregnant. I am now separated and raising the kids on my own. Marriage doesn't work on a have to situation.

Good luck with what ever you choose and hope all is well for the both of you. :-)

Answer 5

I understand that you make love to her because you love her, but that doesn't mean that it's OK to not use protection. What does not using protection have to do with loving her? If you love her, you won't make her a teenage mother. If you think you're mature enough to be having sex, then you should be mature enough to have responsible sex. It's not that difficult to be responsible. The pullout technique is extremely ineffective, because all throughout the sex act, there is a pre-ejaculate fluid that has a VERY high sperm count that comes from penis. You don't need to ejaculate inside her to get her pregnant. Please please PLEASE stop having unprotected sex! I want to cry when I read questions like this. You couldn't even begin to understand what it will do to your lives if she gets pregnant. I'm a mother of two...I know what being a parent is.

Answer 6

What would happen? Ummm,,,,,you all would become very young parents and you can kiss a lot of things goodbye. It's not as easy as some people think it is. Having a child is a HUGE resposibility and you all are practically kids yourself. I had child at the age of 26 and trust me, it's a lot of work and it's twice as much work when you are as young as you both are. Enjoy your life and don't take your freedom for granted.

If you're in heat, then wrap your meat or she will be ill because she was not on the pill.

Hope this helps. :)

Answer 7

Your question was " What would happen to me and/or her if she got pregnant? Depends on the laws of the land in your area. In Canada, if you are over 18 you may not have sex with someone under 16. If you are 16 and under you can have sex with people 14 and up. belive it or not, 14 is the age of consent. If you are 16 - 18 and have sex with someone who is under 16 and "of previous chaste chracter" i.e. a virgin. you could be charged with the equivelent of statutory rape. however that is a very old law and probably not been enforced in 50 years. Good luck prooving she was a virgin.

Answer 8

u what i feel u see im a girl and me and my boyfriend only did it once without any protection and everyday i wonder if im pregnana tor not i mean we know wee were wrong for that but we do love each other and that's what count at tha moment but now i wonder what my life and future will be like for me i mean im scared and to top it all of i moved to tha boot and my man is still in h town
but to get 2 ur question man just stop and thank about how ur life will change before u do it again cuz u guys r young and i know cuz im 18 and it's still hard as hell
look make be careful and talk to ur girlfriend
good luck cuz we both need it

Answer 9

well u know what would happen if she got pregnant...then u would have a baby...and i cant say that being so young would make you a bad parent because ive seen plenty of people do it at a young age and do better than some older people i know, but please remember what having a child means...putting everything important to you to the side in order to care for another being....if i were you i would suggest her going on the pill...sounds like you really care for her and doing things for the right reasons, just be very careful because it can happen very easily...good luck

Answer 10

If you get pregnant at an early age and decide to keep the child then be prepared for a lifetime of misery, heartache and pain. You cannot afford to take care of a child. You will ruin it's life, that's what will happen if you get pregnant.