Should I let her know I like her? And how do I go about doing this?
So this summer I've been in contact, and hanging out a lot with someone I lost contact with in grade school. We've been hanging out at least once a week, and I never expected that I'd have a crush on her like this... We have a lot in common, have a lot of things we plan to do together in the future, she's beautiful, and a great person.
Now my problem... I can't tell if she likes me as just a friend... Or if there's a possibility that this could develope into something more. When we hang out, we're always sitting next to each other, sometimes we walk together arm in arm, take a lot of pictures together at parties or trips, etc....
Also I'd rather just be friends with her, than nothing at all if telling her would make things awkward.
I'm a pretty shy guy, any help is appreciated :D
2006-10-16 16:33:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well its up to you man. i had the same case just last year. me and this girl met in high school...we became real good friends and i was always too shy to let her know i liked her. i moved but two years later i moved back. i found her and we began to hang out again, but this time i told her bout how i felt, and she said we were too good as friends. so my feelings for her died and we became better friends. but now she says she regrets it and wishes that i could of been her bf, but i dont see her the same way. so its up to you, just be sure you like her, and if you do make your move before you become too close as friends. but if you have so much in common i would say go for it. the best relationships are based of friendships.
2006-10-16 16:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her. I don't think you two would be less than friends even if she doesn't feel the same way. And considering your story, I think she feels quite secure with you, and girls look for someone they are secure with. Besides, the feeling of blaming yourself because you haven't told her when you HAD the chance and she could've felt the same way, all along, is much worse than you'd ever imagine. And really, you have NOTHING to lose. At least she knows, and that knowledge matters.
2006-10-18 13:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by passenger_seat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a possibility that she thinks your gay? If not, then she wants you! The only reason that I would try to be close to a man I wasn't dating besides him being gay would be if I wanted him. Go for it man, ask her out, slip her the tongue, tell her you want her! Whatever it takes, let her know how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same way, and you are truly friends, she will still be friends with you. Go for it! What do you have to loose?
Good Luck!!
2006-10-16 23:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Feeling Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you two are pretty close. Does she give any other hint of her being interested in you? If she does, then roll with it and suggest lightly that you'd like to take things a bit further. Take it slow! And if she says that she's happy where you two are at, then just say okay and keep doing what you're doing.
2006-10-16 23:37:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have more to gain than lose.... well u may loose ur mind.... If you let her slip away knowing u did not even try. If u are really friends and have something solid HONESTY will not ruin that but only make it better....No matter which way it turns out!
2006-10-16 23:37:26 · answer #5 · answered by FoReal! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been asked out by two guy friends, and i said no to both, and we're still friends, nothing's changed, so don't let that be an obstacle. if you're spending that much time together, chances are she likes you too. just ask her out.
2006-10-16 23:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by waiting4winter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her
it sounds like it is just you holding it all back
just say
do you want this to become more then a great friendship
tell her how important she is too you and what having her as a friend means to you
tell her you never want that to change
unless it is for more then kiss her
2006-10-16 23:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter, or better yet. Get a card from the store expressing your feelings. They have cards there now for all occasions. See where it goes from there.
2006-10-16 23:36:26 · answer #8 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will never know unless you ask. this could be the one for you and you don't want her to get away. go for it and ask to remain Friends if it doesn't go your way. women can be understanding you know.
2006-10-16 23:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by David McClain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself! be funny! be a gentleman and sincere! if that doesn't work i don't know what will.
2006-10-16 23:38:01 · answer #10 · answered by MIKE S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋